Family feud, what to do?

MaxP779 · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:24

Ill try not to make this a long rambling story but basically my gran is 87 and shes in sheltered housing. Shes been forgetting things more and more the past few years. I can see her getting weaker every time I visit and it really upset me the last time I saw her because I remember how vibrant and lively she used to be

Anyway my mom and my aunt don't speak to each other anymore, but what my aunt has been doing is taking down all the pictures of me my mom and my dad etc from my grans flat and putting up only pictures of her and her daughter instead. She also scored out all our birthdays on my grans calendar and anything we give to my gran she takes it away because it came from us...

What should we do? How do we deal with petty BS like this? It hurts knowing this could be my grans last year on this earth and she has no pictures of one half of her family around her.

MassiveJim · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:29

go and punch the childish **** in the face.

you could do the same in return ?
depends who has more time on their hands to who will win that war though

Rroff · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:31

How much does the aunt stand to inherit... sounds like she is planning ahead. People do strange things when it comes to inheritance.

Twirlywoos · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:31

Spend whatever time you can spare with her instead. I'm sure being with her in person will be more of a consolation than pictures.

Schlong&Stable · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:31

Your mother should speak to her sister and try hash things out. If you want to do something on your own, then do the same and perhaps explain that whatever arguments existed between your aunt and mother, you were not party to them.

Jeps · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:34

Try speaking to your aunt personally? Tell her you really don't care about whatever BS is between her and your mum and that all you really care about is your gran. Ask her to put the petty stuff aside when it comes to your gran for the sake of her well being and happiness?

Josh · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:34

Rroff said:
How much does the aunt stand to inherit... sounds like she is planning ahead. People do strange things when it comes to inheritance.

This, my aunt did the same with my Nan. I was pretty much written out of the will, but got to chose a keep sake from my Nans old house. Ended up taking my grandads old flat cap.

Whilst my cousins got something like £10k each and some of her gold.

I don't/didn't mind, I have something I can treasure but people go barmy when money is involved.

RyanF · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:34

Seeing as this is GD and it hasn't yet been mentioned..

Have you tried pooping through your Aunt's letterbox?

bloodiedathame · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:41

Accidentally her.

anything I don't mind · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:44

Phone her up and confront her on it and tell her to stop it immediately.

Luggs · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:45

So glad I have a small family sometimes, I find it hard to understand how people can be like this to their own relatives.

I'd try talking to your Aunt first, then progress to letterboxpoop and punching her in face

Burnsy2023 · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:54

anything I don't mind said:
Phone her up and confront her on it and tell her to stop it immediately.

Which if you know anything about dealing with people is unlikely to work.

You need to get your mom and aunt to want to work things out. If you think this is bad, wait until there is an inheritance.

Beerbaron · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:55

Leave an item for your Gran with hidden camera. When said item is removed by your aunt report her to the police for theft.

neil3k · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:57

donkey punch?

Cyanide · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:58

Jeps said:
Try speaking to your aunt personally? Tell her you really don't care about whatever BS is between her and your mum and that all you really care about is your gran. Ask her to put the petty stuff aside when it comes to your gran for the sake of her well being and happiness?

This. And if it doesn't work -

RyanF said:
Have you tried pooping through your Aunt's letterbox?

Sandycheeks · 14 Oct 2015 at 13:59

peterwalkley · 14 Oct 2015 at 14:02

Get your gran to spend whatever is left on herself - then there is no inheritance to argue about.

It probably stems from some stupid feud between sisters and they are both acting like children. Take away any potential reward and neither can win.

Cosimo · 14 Oct 2015 at 14:03

Have a word with her then remove everything she's put in there. If all fails then mum and aunt out on the common at dawn with pistols.

BuffetSlayer · 14 Oct 2015 at 14:13

Just want to play devils advocate for a second.....

Are you certain it is your auntie doing those things? Could your nan be doing it?

arknor · 14 Oct 2015 at 14:25

Rroff said:
How much does the aunt stand to inherit... sounds like she is planning ahead. People do strange things when it comes to inheritance.

Indeed...

My mum looked after her mum when she was in her final years, my aunty didn't give a crap about her own mum from what I gather, yet she was the favourite

yet my aunty got all the inheritance instead of my mum....

My mum is kinda bitter about it but still friends with her sister