Family feud, what to do?

[Nelly]

Really? Selfish and manipulative = screw loose?

" taking down all the pictures of me my mom and my dad etc from my grans flat and putting up only pictures of her and her daughter instead. She also scored out all our birthdays on my grans calendar and anything we give to my gran she takes it away because it came from us..."


Definitely send her to a shrink, that's not normal.

 

[bimbleuk]

If your nan is losing her memory somewhat and other such things then it's unlikely that she would be allowed to change her will. Especially without both family members in agreement to it.
But I would ask for some legal advice in this area and ensure that you can get any late alterations removed due to in ability to make key decisions.

Forget the pettiness you need to protect you grans estate. I'm not a legal adviser or anything get that your self but you need Power of Attorney so you can make legal decisions on your grans behalf especially as she's suffering possible dementia.

It'll mean her will can't be changed etc. without your consent. I had this for my grandfather and as my dad is also getting on a bit I have attorney for him too just in case he became ill first!

Anyway when gramps did pass away in a home my Power of Attorney was revoked as my dad was the named executor of his estate in his will. Hence the need to get PoA to make sure the will is in order and not changed with coercion.

Sorry but you can't muck about when it comes to family and money!

 

[spoffle]

" taking down all the pictures of me my mom and my dad etc from my grans flat and putting up only pictures of her and her daughter instead. She also scored out all our birthdays on my grans calendar and anything we give to my gran she takes it away because it came from us..."


Definitely send her to a shrink, that's not normal.

Something not being normal doesn't equate to there being a screw loose.

It's clear WHY they're doing those things. It's coming from a place of selfishness and they're trying to manipulate the nan in the hopes that they get all of any inheritance.

 

[SpeedFreak]

This is something I don't understand - even if I'd fallen out with family if I inherited the whole lot I'd still split it evenly with my brothers and sisters short of truly exceptional circumstances.

Me too, regardless of the wishes of the deceased I would be too embarrassed to not share it equally with my brothers.

 

[Nelly]

Something not being normal doesn't equate to there being a screw loose.

It's clear WHY they're doing those things. It's coming from a place of selfishness and they're trying to manipulate the nan in the hopes that they get all of any inheritance.

All psychological traits. Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Psychological manipulation.

 

[shadow_boxer]

Forget the pettiness you need to protect you grans estate. I'm not a legal adviser or anything get that your self but you need Power of Attorney so you can make legal decisions on your grans behalf especially as she's suffering possible dementia.

It'll mean her will can't be changed etc. without your consent. I had this for my grandfather and as my dad is also getting on a bit I have attorney for him too just in case he became ill first!

Anyway when gramps did pass away in a home my Power of Attorney was revoked as my dad was the named executor of his estate in his will. Hence the need to get PoA to make sure the will is in order and not changed with coercion.

Sorry but you can't muck about when it comes to family and money!

Good advice. Also bear in mind there are two types of PoA. One for medical decisions and one for financial. For obvious reasons the two can not go to the same person.

 

[bimbleuk]

Good advice. Also bear in mind there are two types of PoA. One for medical decisions and one for financial. For obvious reasons the two can not go to the same person.

More good advice and I think I may have had legal PoA in that case.

 

[spulse]

go round to your aunts house and take down half her photos

seriously though this sounds crap, had a similar situation with my mum & her brothers recently - it's petty and completely pointless in the scope of all things. My only advice would be to spend as much time with your gran as possible and forget the rest.

 

[MadMouse101]

How much does the aunt stand to inherit... sounds like she is planning ahead. People do strange things when it comes to inheritance.

+1

 

[MaxP779]

I don't think my gran has a whole lot of money tbh, maybe a few thousand im not sure. Theres no property to inherit or anything, not a whole lot of actual possessions.

I know both my mom and my aunt are executors to the will. So I don't know how that will work when there are two executors who have fallen out.

 

[Deleted member 66701]

What should we do?

Soylent Green.

/end thread.

 

[Hiijinx]

This is why, (should I ever have kids) I will quietly leave all my money to someone outside the family, maybe a nurse, a good cause or even just have it incinerated for a laugh. While all the time lead them to believe they all benefit, just wish I could see the look on their faces...