Can't Understand the situation with this girl...haha

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lawrence281 said:
So basically, here's the story, i'll try keep it simple and short.
I went out to a dnb rave about 2 weeks ago and met this girl, 5minutes within talking we exchanged numbers etc.
She's 18, from netherlands, studying in the uk until feburary and cute as hell.
We hit it off, was texting nonstop for 2-3 days, same interests, love for dnb music, banter was flowing, we constantly made each other laugh.
Also ended up telling me she also has a bf back in Dam, shes been together with for 5 months and apparently "First guy she's been in love with" blablabla.

Anyway, we ended up going for a coffee, nothing but laughter through the night, I could tell she enjoyed my company. Then went for one drink and decided to go see a movie, so we went. To cut it short, I kept noticing she kept eyeing me and looking at me during the movie..so i thought I'd make the move, i was kissing her down her neck..slowly going a bit lower and tried to go in for the kiss but she moved away(undeceive)

She explained everything next day that she was overthinking etc etc

Then next time she came round mine to watch a movie, and i was it was chilled but i had the notion she wanted me to make a move or something..because next day she wasn't really replying or talking to me at all.
(Also to mention, her boyfriends a dealer, so the love may be in the wrong place :D )
Was there signs she basically wanted to cheat..? because she told me she "didnt want to lose her boyfriend" but..kept throwing signs
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She has a boyfriend, stop deluding yourself and leave her alone.
 
Evangelion said:
She has a boyfriend, stop deluding yourself and leave her alone.
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I dunno, maybe I'm just getting old and cynical....but WHO CARES? She's not married with kids, is she? She's 18 and has been with her BF for 5 months? Sorry, maybe I'm evil incarnate for saying this, but life is too short. Go for it. Maybe (and forgive the cliche) her and the OP are meant for each other? I don't see any problem here. Life is more spontaneous and organic than "GIRL HAS BOYFRIEND. MUST NOT ACT." Sometimes (all the time?) people meet, click, and start a new chapter. I'm sure we've all done this and/or been on the receiving end of this?

Who's with me? Anybody? <crickets>
 
lawrence281 said:
I went out to a dnb rave about 2 weeks ago
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That's the main issue I have with your post. A 'rave' isn't a rave unless it involves Altern8, Awesome 3, Shades of Rhythm, SL2, Prodigy (oldskool Prodge ofc), Ragga Twins, KLF, Liquid, 2 Bad Mice, Quadrophonia etc :-)

I might have let you off if you said oldskool jungle, but you said dnb.
 
Pawnless Endgame said:
That's the main issue I have with your post. A 'rave' isn't a rave unless it involves Altern8, Awesome 3, Shades of Rhythm, SL2, Prodigy (oldskool Prodge ofc), Ragga Twins, KLF, Liquid, 2 Bad Mice, Quadrophonia etc :-)

I might have let you off if you said oldskool jungle, but you said dnb.
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Well Liquicity rave is a liquid label bro
 
LOL THREAD

Pawnless Endgame said:
That's the main issue I have with your post. A 'rave' isn't a rave unless it involves Altern8, Awesome 3, Shades of Rhythm, SL2, Prodigy (oldskool Prodge ofc), Ragga Twins, KLF, Liquid, 2 Bad Mice, Quadrophonia etc :-)

I might have let you off if you said oldskool jungle, but you said dnb.
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Blast from the past there! you forgot World Dance though ;) mind you that was more an introduction into Jungle.

That's the one thing this country will always be king of, the rave scene!
 
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Hang on

You were at a rave - doesn't that require a time machine?

You say " i was kissing her down her neck..slowly going a bit lower and tried to go in for the kiss but she moved away(undeceive)"

WTF is "undeceive"? Pls explain.

Is it like shizzle your snizzle?

You are like a 24/7, you never close :p
 
Nix said:
Cheating is wrong. Cheating on someone is an extreme betrayal of trust, and for those who are cheated on, it is an incredibly painful thing to go through. I am a firm believer in the golden rule and in applying understanding and empathy to the human condition. It doesn't matter if you're not the one in the relationship, you are party to facilitating the act as you are aware of the facts.

If you are helping to facilitate cheating, you are actively breaking the golden rule for selfish gain. You may not be in the relationship so are not the one directly betraying the other individual, but you are still engaging in the act at someone else's expense for your own gain and that makes you almost as bad as the cheater themselves.

Your cognitive dissonance is essentially this: "I don't care, I'm not the one in the relationship here therefore I'm not doing anything wrong." It's a weak argument and you're playing mental gymnastics to justify being able to get your end away. You are still party to the act of betraying and hurting someone.

It all boils down to selfishness.
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for the counter point:

The chance that an 18 year old girl has already met 'the one' is slim, she isn't in a long term relationship nor is she engaged - she has had a 'boyfriend' for a few months... odds are they will split up sooner rather than later anyway. Women aren't property, she can make her own mind up about who she wants to be with - if she chooses to be with the OP instead of the current boyfriend who isn't even in this country then that is up to her... people break up, it happens - she doesn't belong to the boyfriend nor has she made any serious commitment to him in the form of starting a life together or getting engaged.

It boils down to women being free to make their own choice about who they chose to date.
 
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Pawnless Endgame said:
Amen!
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got me listening to Prodigy now, probably one of their best tracks ever and a personal fave, mind you the whole album Experience was great.


Leeroy's dancing was amazing, to think all this kids nowadays shuffling to house thinking it's a new thing, Leeroy was the king at shuffling!

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EDIT: Thread derailed sorry OP :D
 
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Curio said:
I dunno, maybe I'm just getting old and cynical....but WHO CARES? She's not married with kids, is she? She's 18 and has been with her BF for 5 months? Sorry, maybe I'm evil incarnate for saying this, but life is too short. Go for it. Maybe (and forgive the cliche) her and the OP are meant for each other? I don't see any problem here. Life is more spontaneous and organic than "GIRL HAS BOYFRIEND. MUST NOT ACT." Sometimes (all the time?) people meet, click, and start a new chapter. I'm sure we've all done this and/or been on the receiving end of this?

Who's with me? Anybody? <crickets>
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completely agree - it is up to her, the OP isn't going to be a homewrecker or break up a marriage here. He's potentially going to end a relationship that was likely to only have a short shelf life anyway... if she is interested in him (which she seems to be) then maybe she will chose to end things with the boyfriend and be with him - that is completely up to her.
 
@ SonniLombardi - 101% agreed with you about the Experience album! My fave off that album was probably "Charly". That said, I liked how the single version and album version would differ quite vastly and Charly was a great example of that!
 
Pawnless Endgame said:
@ SonniLombardi - 101% agreed with you about the Experience album! My fave off that album was probably "Charly". That said, I liked how the single version and album version would differ quite vastly and Charly was a great example of that!
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a good way of extracting maximum revenue from the fans...
 
So basically OP had an invitation to smash pasty but goofed it. :rolleyes:

I used to do drugs but too old for that stuff now. How old are you OP?

Young adults at 18 are a mixed bunch some are nice, some are ****ing horrendous humans no matter if male or female. :(

Clubs+Drugs+Youth = Madness. No relationship will work if that is the criteria of meeting.

I know from first hand I can assure you. :(
 
JunglistE said:
I was watching The Hunt last night. David Attenborough said that Polar Bears only successfully catch a seal 1/20 attempts.

Don't be a polar bear
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Haha be a Porscha spider... And Porchas last superpower! She is a genius ha. What an amazing little peice of film that was
 
Love to see how she viewed this whole thing. "He never had chance, I was just hanging out with a friend". SMS her a link to the thread please. :D
 
SonniLombardi said:
got me listening to Prodigy now, probably one of their best tracks ever and a personal fave, mind you the whole album Experience was great.


Leeroy's dancing was amazing, to think all this kids nowadays shuffling to house thinking it's a new thing, Leeroy was the king at shuffling!

Best bit at 2:23

EDIT: Thread derailed sorry OP :D
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Na synth is better in the live one, and you can actually hear the snare.

 
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