Bringing up subject of money owed from friend....

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Right one of my best mates was due to get married this year and unfortunately due to his **** of a (now ex) girlfriend the whole wedding is off.

They were set to be wed abroad in Greece and as his best man of course had booked onto the wedding holiday with him at the hotel he recommended at great expense.

Now obviously as the relationship has broken down the wedding is of course off and we've been lumped with still having the holiday booked. We don't want to go there as we would never choose to go to the resort so have looked into cancelling it. Luckily we are able to get our money back for the hol minus the deposit which is about £350, so still a fair chunk.

Now here is where it is a bit tricky, in convo with him he basically said he doesnt want any of us going out of pocket and losing out money because their relationship ****** up so he said the least he could do is pay us back the money we have lost through cancelling the holiday.

Brill I think, thats great as we could really do with that money back as it could do with being cleared off our credit card ASAP. He said he would pay us back in Jan and here we are today he still hasn't paid it us.

My problem is I don't want to seem like a bit of a penis by saying "oh btw you haven't sent us that money that you said you were" as obviously he's my mate and its been a difficult time for him, but myself and my gf could really do with it back so i've been thinking of a way to bring it up with him without being too insensitive, but i'm struggling. Am I overthinking this or do you think I should just man up and ask outright?
 
Id have went on the holiday and not made my best friend feel like he had inconvenienced me too much. What with his marriage breaking down of course.
 
Do you desperately require the money right now? More than he does considering recent circumstances.

If he's back up and running independently and you know he has the funds to pay you back now then go for it, otherwise I'd give a best friend more time unless I required the money to get by.
 
Maybe it's working out a whole lot more expensive for him than he thought and thinks maybe to delay yours longer as he knows you better? Or that perhaps you won't mind not getting paid back at all...

I'd write it off tbh. If you ever get it back someday then bonus.
 
I'd be looking more to see if I could transfer the holiday to somewhere else - it is a booking under your name after all, and you are liable for it, try and use it in some way.

I suspect that he has likely made the gesture of paying it back before realising the total costs involved (other cancellation penalties, other guests, family members etc) and is struggling a bit with getting everything paid.

Are you looking to use the money for another holiday? As if you need this 350 quid back, but are saving a whole stack by not attending the wedding which was a 'great expense' I would be inclined to let it slide, and if the money does turn up then that is a bonus.
 
Avenged7Fold said:
If the wedding went ahead, how would have you managed without the money. Weigh that option with his needs.
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Along with all the other costs associated on top that you're now not having to pay out.

Yes it's a bummer but if he's a good enough mate that you were his best man I'm sure you can give the guy some more time to get over his marriage going up the swanny and I imagine he's been hit with a lot more lost expense than you even before you take in to account him saying he'd cover you all.
 
so you got all your money back bar the £350 deposit and your mate said he'd pay the £350?
think id give it a bit more time before i asked him
 
Sorry I should have said the relationship broke down start of November so it happened a while ago.

He is back on his feet and getting by well recently, obviously these things take time to get over fully but he accepted what had happened quite quickly and has done excellently at moving on.
 
If he's as good a friend as you say then he wont mind at all if you ask him, just don't demand it, he's obviously got/had a lot going on at the moment and may have forgotten about it, just casually ask him when it might be.
 
I dunno why you don't just go on the holiday. you might surprise yourself and have a nice time.

You were gonna spend the money anyway.
 
Just say to him casually "Any chance of you sorting me that cash out? I am not being funny or pushy but I could be doing with the money to pay off my CC or it will incur more charges/interest and I would be even more out of pocket." If your friend gets the hump about that then he's not really a good friend.
 
ZXSpectrum said:
Just say to him casually "Any chance of you sorting me that cash out? I am not being funny or pushy but I could be doing with the money to pay off my CC or it will incur more charges/interest and I would be even more out of pocket." If your friend gets the hump about that then he's not really a good friend.
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I'd leave that bit out at least, just makes you sound like you're being a bit of a penis.
 
Also, if its your "Best friend", then you should probably know how to approach the guy by now.
 
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