What would your reply have been to this.-

Like you I'd have cancelled the cheque, told them to get ****ed and never contact me again.

People don't realise how much weddings can cost for guests to start with by the time you've booked time off, hotel rooms, travel, etc.
 
Terminal_Boy said:
Cancelled cheque and severed all contact.
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THIS^^^

The whole wedding gift situation usually leaves a bad taste in my mouth as well. A couple of weddings I have been to have had a shopping list (with respective details to log on and order etc)with the green tree company attached. A list of items which presumably the bride and the groom want. Dinnerware, electronics and gift cards.

It puts you in an awful scenario where you do not want to come across as being cheap but its an absolute ***take IMO.

I have never been invited to a birthday party where I have been sent a shopping list beforehand. Some couples deem the gifts as a means to offsetting the cost of the wedding.
 
The absolute cheek of them
your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes
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Ha

Cancelled cheque for certain.

In response to your email I would like to make an adjustment, the initial cheque which was seeming not thankfully received has been cancelled, do not expect a replacement.
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We were grateful for every gift, regardless of value.
 
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I wouldn't even dream of expecting a wedding gift from a work colleague if it was my wedding (nice if they do).
 
Yeah, that would have be cancelling the cheque, £100 is not a small gift at all.

Rifte said:
THIS^^^

The whole wedding gift situation usually leaves a bad taste in my mouth as well. A couple of weddings I have been to have had a shopping list (with respective details to log on and order etc)with the green tree company attached. A list of items which presumably the bride and the groom want. Dinnerware, electronics and gift cards.

It puts you in an awful scenario where you do not want to come across as being cheap but its an absolute ***take IMO.

I have never been invited to a birthday party where I have been sent a shopping list beforehand. Some couples deem the gifts as a means to offsetting the cost of the wedding.
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I don't know about this, I think that the wedding gift lists can work very well. Weddings have always had larger gifts than any other occasion, and having a shopping list of suggested items means that people can know the gifts they get are actually wanted. We've all heard of people with 4 ice cream makers in a garage somewhere from their weddings.

As long as the items on the list are reasonably priced, with a good bit of variance in price for people of different incomes, its a good idea. It also stops people spending too much. Some people take gifts very seriously indeed and choose very expensive items, I'd be very embarrassed to receive such things and feel a large obligation to respond in kind in the future.
 
Cancel the cheque, but also make sure as many of there friends and family see the original email as possible.
 
I would send them a letter apologising profusely and enclose another cheque for £1000. (Then cancel both of them.)
 
"In response to those who suggested she should cancel the cheque, the guest explained that the cheque had in fact already been cashed"

So wotya gonna do?
 
Yeah, that £100 would have been cancelled and a reply CC'ing everybody in, would love to know how much they were expecting.

I don't understand why people getting married should be receiving gifts? I know I wouldn't expect anything, but assume it's tradition?
 
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