What would your reply have been to this.-

Judgeneo said:
Yeah, that would have be cancelling the cheque, £100 is not a small gift at all.



I don't know about this, I think that the wedding gift lists can work very well. Weddings have always had larger gifts than any other occasion, and having a shopping list of suggested items means that people can know the gifts they get are actually wanted. We've all heard of people with 4 ice cream makers in a garage somewhere from their weddings.

As long as the items on the list are reasonably priced, with a good bit of variance in price for people of different incomes, its a good idea. It also stops people spending too much. Some people take gifts very seriously indeed and choose very expensive items, I'd be very embarrassed to receive such things and feel a large obligation to respond in kind in the future.
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I get your point with this. but I suppose my view with this is that gifting your friends and family on their wedding day should be a completely organic affair. Not predetermined. I do not believe that any guest should feel that they have to buy a gift but attaching a list is almost like ("yeah I want one"). If someone buys a gift...great. if they dont....also great, it was more important to us that you turned up for our special day.

Also, and not wanting to sound like my parents "its the thought that counts", I would want to feel that my guest put some thought process into it. If I have two identical cake makers in my garage....so what. Lists can turn it into an highly efficient process which ultimately lacks soul.

Then again....maybe I care too much about these things :confused:

One of the lists I saw had a Ps3
 
An invoice for my time spent attending the wedding. £75/hour.

It does smell like a troll thread though. If you are inviting a workmate to a wedding because they happen to be well off and are expecting a big present, you really need a good long look in a mirror.
 
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Tosno said:
"In response to those who suggested she should cancel the cheque, the guest explained that the cheque had in fact already been cashed"

So wotya gonna do?
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Ask for the money back - why cash it if it was not enough?! :p

Frankly, I'd probably sever contact - can't be dealing with people who lack humility, or cannot act in a humble way. It's just greedy and rude.
 
Rroff said:
I wouldn't even dream of expecting a wedding gift from a work colleague if it was my wedding (nice if they do).
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Exactly my thoughts.

My partner is going to a wedding in the summer for a colleague of hers. I think there's about 10 of the girls going. Bear in mind they all live in Manchester and the wedding is in London so they've all got to pay for travel and accommodation.

The bride has already acknowledged the cost to them and has said she's not expecting any gifts as their presence is all that she wants.
 
Cheeky *****. £100 is a he'll of a gift. Just because apparently OP's position was she had a recent inheritance..... She's expected to just give her more? Lol

Was she there to support her for her loss to gain it? Doubt it.

Reiterate, cancelled cheque of she hadn't anyway cashed it.

Think the survey says poop through letterbox. Do the Sharon Osborne thing and send dog doodoo nicely wrapped and packaged in a Tiffany box :p
 
Personally I am of maybe devious and harsh view.

I'd exchange £10 into the highest amount possible - foreign currency (Something like veitnam dong etc.)

Then in a nice display box lay said money over a freshly curled out fecal matter - with air freshener to hide the smell - gift wrap and send - with a appropriate card saying something like

'Dear X and Y

Thank you for a wonderful day, it was most enjoyable.

In terms of your comments regarding, what I thought was a most generous bequest to you both, and having thought about it, I woudl like to present you with xxxxxxxx (value of converted currency) as a small token of my appreciation, as well as a small cake (used )

Enjoy and Good luck

regards.....


That would be my chosen view.

Though secondly you could get identical tooth brushes like they use and send pictures of them shoved between your arse cheeks and say after a run we borrowed your tooth brush cheers
 
ThaReaperGuy said:
Yeah, that £100 would have been cancelled and a reply CC'ing everybody in, would love to know how much they were expecting.

I don't understand why people getting married should be receiving gifts? I know I wouldn't expect anything, but assume it's tradition?
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It's a respectable tradition once upon a time. Because a couple marrying would probably both be moving from their respective families and getting a first home together. So neither of them would have all the things a household needs (crockery, toaster, etc.). So friends would all bring a little something to help get them started in life.

Obviously times have changed greatly with most marrying couples already living together and established, that need is much reduced.

I suppose given the cost of a typical wedding it's not unreasonable for close friends to give a gift of cash instead, just to help them out. But actually asking for money is frankly, and I rarely use this word, crass.

I would cancel the check. As apparently they cashed the check in advance of sending the email, I'd reply that if they found my gift unacceptable please return it. I'd also in all probability clearly explain that as I didn't want to spoil their day will ill-will, I'd be declining to attend.

Unbelievable.
 
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