Dilemma over buying a car from a friend - W.W.G.D.D??

Street said:
Haha, yes! My missus's mates think I'm a right **** for all the things I've supposedly stopped her doing, I'm not particularly bothered, they aren't my mates!
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Likewise. It's always me stopping her from going out to see her friends when she doesn't feel like going!

As above, you went halfway with it in your initial message, why not go the whole hog "he's put his foot down" etc. I'd be interested to see what she gets for it in the end. Probably loads more since she was doing you a great deal as a friend and appreciated you helping her out. :rolleyes:
 
"He's put his foot down and says you're a bitch anyway. I can see his point. Have a nice life!"
 
Back out if you lose the friendship then wasn't worthy of being a friendship in the first place.
Pretty simple it will cost too much than it's worth and she won't take the 2k, so just politely decline
 
TrixiBuG said:
How do I tell her all this, without hurting her feelings and not losing her friendship? Or is it all borked now?
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She can't be much of a friend if she's happy for you to pay £2,500 for a car that has a known electrical fault. And even if the car would pass an MOT on the brakes/discs, they're obviously warn down to the extent that they'd need doing in the next 12 months at most.

Tell her to sell it elsewhere see what she gets

Edit/ Didn't realise you'd already declined. Good choice, who cares if her feelings are hurt, if they are, it just goes to show that the car wasn't in good condition and she knew full well it wasn't as she knows she'll be out of pocket. Also, an immaculate car at 13 years old with an electrical fault. I'm sure you could strip the car apart and not find a single immaculate part on it, being an already cheap car as new that evidently hasn't been well looked after, given she allows parts to wear completely down before replacing them.
 
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Well the brake thing is not necessarily true, any one who knows anything about garages knows it's the oldest trick in the book for an unscrupulous spanner monkey to say your brakes are shot to make a quick buck. But I'm kinda playing devils advocate here.

What we know..
It's got electrical gremlins
It's overpriced on that point alone

The "mate" should provide more assurance if she's commanding absolute top dollar for the age/mileage of the car..that meansqa service and an new mot as a bare minium.. the lack of that is worth knocking £400 off the asking price..and possibly another £200 for the brakes..and that's assuming the rest of the car is A1.
 
mattyfez said:
Well the brake thing is not necessarily true, any one who knows anything about garages knows it's the oldest trick in the book for an unscrupulous spanner monkey to say your brakes are shot to make a quick buck. But I'm kinda playing devils advocate here.
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Very true. Back in the 1990's I caught a VW main dealer doing this. At an annual service they reported that the brake pads needed replacing so I got them done. A year and about 4,000 miles later later the same garage said exactly the same thing for the same pads. I took the previous receipt with me to collect the car. They were at a loss to give me a reasonable explanation when I confronted them.
 
This so called old friend seems a little pushy and self absorbed for me to believe she actually is a good friend.

Personally, I would walk away from the car and her if she behaved that way towards me.

I have known long term friendships come to an end because someone has shown their true colours - usually that they are manipulative, that they use you and that their so called friendship is almost always on their terms only.

Obviously I don't know either of you so I am loathe to judge, but it does come across as being all about her and I think you have been more than reasonable.

I think you have done the right thing.
 
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If you say that you are concerned about possible future expenditure and you cant spend any more than £[whatever you wish to pay], then no harm is done. She can either accept the offer or accept that it is not small money to either of you.
 
Trix - Just tell her the cars a load of crap, you think she's asking too much. I'm very frank with all my mates and if she gets offended by that she needs to chill out. Don't let this bother you, she's not being so nice in the way she's handling this tbh.
 
TrixiBuG said:
So some of you called it right! Here is what I said:



Which went down like a lead balloon



And I replied with this which I haven't had a reply too



Well it's done now. I don't know if I will get a reply off her and I don't know if I will speak to or see her before she goes which makes me sad but I've done the right thing

Thanks all :-)
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Derek W said:
OP hasn't said it is so everyone keep posting :p
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TrixiBuG said:
So some of you called it right!
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So...she tried to sell you a car which has a fault she acknowledged but played down a lot (the electrical fault that allegedly somehow only happens once a month when she drives it but happened twice an hour when you drove it) and at least one other probable fault (the brakes) and she refused to allow the car to be properly checked even though you were going to pay for that check (massive warning flag there). On top of that, she wanted what would be a pretty high price for the car even if it didn't have issues.

Then when you politely back out of the deal, she burbles semiliterate hostility at you.

Doesn't sound like a very friendly friend to me.
 
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