As a father, what are my rights?

djshauny1

djshauny1

djshauny1

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To cut a long story short, me and the ex split up a few days ago, shes taken my 2 daughters of 3 and 6.

She has taken them to stay at 2 different places, her dads and her sisters so far and lied to me about where my kids are staying. And I know that its very overcrowded as it is.

What are my rights as a father? can I have the kids come back and live with me where I have suitable accomodation until she finds somewhere suitable? Or will a court decide in her favour as shes the mother? She has said she wants the kids to stay with her.

I was supposed to see my kids today but she has not turned up and the same for yesterday. She was ignoring my calls and texts etc.

Is there anything I can do?

Thank you
 
The courts will ALWAYS do what is best for your children, if your ex doesn't have a suitable place to call home for the children and you do, they should be wherever they are provided with stability. Moving kids between homes every night is not stability. All i can suggest is that you seek legal advice as any advice given on here might as well be plucked from thin air. Is there nobody that can mediate between both of you so that you can both come to an arrangement that suits your children? Please don't go the path of using your children as weapons, that's aimed at both of you as parents, it's not good for the children.

Have a read of the following to get some advice.

http://www.separateddads.co.uk/yourrightsasaseparatedfather.html
 
Locky said:
Fathers have 0 rights in the country to be honest.
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tom_e said:
Because that could mean only 8% of fathers actually wanted custody of their children, if it had said that only 8% of fathers that apply for custody of their children actually get it then it may have been relevant.
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I see where you are coming from
 
wez130 said:
The courts will ALWAYS do what is best for your children, if your ex doesn't have a suitable place to call home for the children and you do, they should be wherever they are provided with stability. Moving kids between homes every night is not stability. All i can suggest is that you seek legal advice as any advice given on here might as well be plucked from thin air. Is there nobody that can mediate between both of you so that you can both come to an arrangement that suits your children? Please don't go the path of using your children as weapons, that's aimed at both of you as parents, it's not good for the children.

Have a read of the following to get some advice.

http://www.separateddads.co.uk/yourrightsasaseparatedfather.html
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Thank you. Im waiting on a call back from a solicitor. Id never use my children as a weapon. I just want the best for my kids and right now I feel thats now the case.
 
djshauny1 said:
To cut a long story short, me and the ex split up a few days ago, shes taken my 2 daughters of 3 and 6.

She has taken them to stay at 2 different places, her dads and her sisters so far and lied to me about where my kids are staying. And I know that its very overcrowded as it is.

What are my rights as a father? can I have the kids come back and live with me where I have suitable accomodation until she finds somewhere suitable? Or will a court decide in her favour as shes the mother? She has said she wants the kids to stay with her.

I was supposed to see my kids today but she has not turned up and the same for yesterday. She was ignoring my calls and texts etc.

Is there anything I can do?

Thank you
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OP.

This is going to follow a familiar pattern.

You need to be straight up with ex early on and tell her you want to be in your kids life and essentially give a 1minth deadline to agree on a rota.

If it is feasible, I would always advise on a 50/50 split. How you reach that is up to you. note: Courts do not believe in 50/50 tgus comments of fathers having no rights are in actuality 100% correct

If she is refusing to speak/answer phone you need to write to her. If you do not receive a reply you should let her know that you will be booking an appointment through mediation.

Without getting into the drivel of things I think that is as much sensible advice as I can give and would say is sensible to give.

Credentials: Dad who has been going through Courts for 5.5years, advise other dads on all aspects of contact, law, statements, court orders and process as well as the surreptitious practice of both solicitors, legal advisers, magistrates and judges. Mums also come into sometimes iniquitous positions or sometimes (as in my case downright criminal). I also have an article that has been published and read over 100,000 times. Will even give my time to discuss over the phone if things get too difficult and geographically speaking can and have met to help
 
wez130 said:
The courts will ALWAYS do what is best for your children, if your ex doesn't have a suitable place to call home for the children and you do, they should be wherever they are provided with stability. Moving kids between homes every night is not stability.
Have a read of the following to get some advice.

http://www.separateddads.co.uk/yourrightsasaseparatedfather.html
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Sorry to disagree Wes but if you have been through the meat grinder with an uncooperative ex and an even less cooperative court system you would know beyond all doubt that Mums have primary consideration.

Stability is also not in any way shape or form a consideration unless it counts for which parent the child lives with. Continuity is not important either I've argued that with SWs, Judges the lot and in the end they've all had to drop the matter.

You have no rights as a separated father either and I categorically and emphatically disagree with any notion they do. Their one right that is absolute is to be allowed to submit an application to court for a CAO... /end
 
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