As a father, what are my rights?

Judgeneo said:
As said, get legal advice.

There shouldn't be any way that your ex can prevent you from regular contact with your kids, you are the dad after all.

Gaining custody if a different matter. As a rule of thumb, if the mother is competent and stable, she'll get custody. The only people who can really make a judgement on this though, are you and your lawyer.
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Not true. Even in the face of a court order they can stop any and all contact with impunity.
 
Why are a lot of women like this these days?..split up then they refuse access to the kids...just makes you wonder what goes through women's minds to think they can completely stop access.
 
Anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? Im pretty upset and just want them back home.

I know the best thing to do is move on etc but its just so hard at the moment. Just feel empty without her and the kids.
 
Hey mate,

Don't worry. You have to stay strong at this point. Get and agree contact first that is going to be amicable as possible. At the same time though don't get taken for a fool, it bites you harder and more often later on.

Ask her to come out for a coffee if possible and discuss and agree things for the kids. If she is going to be amicable its a great thing as it works better for the kids.

Try and keep 50/50 as your starting point if it is feasible. Then you need to make sure it is regular and lengthy.

For more advice around this topic: Dadtalk Legal Eagle (google) sign up and put in a post. Great community with a wealth of experience and advice there.
 
RaohNS said:
Hey mate,

Don't worry. You have to stay strong at this point. Get and agree contact first that is going to be amicable as possible. At the same time though don't get taken for a fool, it bites you harder and more often later on.

Ask her to come out for a coffee if possible and discuss and agree things for the kids. If she is going to be amicable its a great thing as it works better for the kids.

Try and keep 50/50 as your starting point if it is feasible. Then you need to make sure it is regular and lengthy.

For more advice around this topic: Dadtalk Legal Eagle (google) sign up and put in a post. Great community with a wealth of experience and advice there.
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Thanks mate.
 
So we did come to an agreement that I could see the kids every weekend and its a no show from her. We also agreed that I could contact the kids every night at 6pm and of course it was whenever she felt like it.

Is there any kind of legal aid for these matters? I want to go for full custody of my kids if possible?

Can anyone offer any advice?
 
I can't give any legal advice, but start recording the times when you are meant to see them/contact them and are being prevented. It will be useful as evidence should it end up in court, and if this should go on for years, you'll also be able to prove to your children when they're older that you tried everything.
 
djshauny1 said:
Anyone have any advice on how to deal with this? Im pretty upset and just want them back home.

I know the best thing to do is move on etc but its just so hard at the moment. Just feel empty without her and the kids.
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Firstly, what did you do for her to leave? Just kidding ;)

I split up with my daughters mother and I only see my daughter once a week at my parents house, she stays overnight for 1 to 2 days alternate weekends.

I felt the same, lonely with lot of anxiety. They live in Edinburgh and I'm in The Highlands, a 2.5hr drive away, but enough time spent in the car for things to play on my mind when I'm driving back up North.

Are you not on speaking terms with her? Is there no way for her to come back? If you go down the legal route straight away it may get messy.
 
Vargas said:
Firstly, what did you do for her to leave? Just kidding ;)

I split up with my daughters mother and I only see my daughter once a week at my parents house, she stays overnight for 1 to 2 days alternate weekends.

I felt the same, lonely with lot of anxiety. They live in Edinburgh and I'm in The Highlands, a 2.5hr drive away, but enough time spent in the car for things to play on my mind when I'm driving back up North.

Are you not on speaking terms with her? Is there no way for her to come back? If you go down the legal route straight away it may get messy.
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Shes been gone a month and shows no interest. If she could, she would stop me having contact with my kids alltogether. I call every night at 6pm as agreed to speak to the girls and she starts saying im harrasing her.

Im just wanting to speak with my girls.
 
Can your parents mediate? That helped me, she got on with my parents and they wanted to see their grandchild so it worked out ok.
 
It wasn't nice seeing my dad get shafted out of his house, possessions and money despite having his wife cheat on him, never bother with us due to career etc.

Try to resolve this amicably otherwise she can do more less what she wants because 'muh kids' even though she doesn't actually give two ***** about them.
 
djshauny1 said:
So we did come to an agreement that I could see the kids every weekend and its a no show from her. We also agreed that I could contact the kids every night at 6pm and of course it was whenever she felt like it.
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Assuming you're not some monster that's done terrible things to her or your kids, I have to say your ex sounds like an absolutely disgusting person
 
How is it even legal for one parent (regardless of sex) to just suddenly take children away from the other without any sort of access? Surely that's against the law...
 
djshauny1 said:
So we did come to an agreement that I could see the kids every weekend and its a no show from her. We also agreed that I could contact the kids every night at 6pm and of course it was whenever she felt like it.

Is there any kind of legal aid for these matters? I want to go for full custody of my kids if possible?

Can anyone offer any advice?
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You will need to write to her official now. Make an appointment through NFM (mediation) and give her at least 2wks notice of the appointment time and date. If she does not attend using the HM Court Service use the C100 and print it off. If she doesn't attend take the mediation form to confirm no show. Then its on to Court. You don't need a solicitor for this unless you can't get your head around simple stuff tbh.

No legal aid unless you claim violence against you or have no job unfortunately.

Should go to dad talk as well as they (and me) will help.

Solicitors in this game can be beaten. I've yet to lose to one and have been doing it five years. Barristers, solicitors, legal advisers, magistrates they don't know the full extent of law they are passing.
 
AdladUK said:
How is it even legal for one parent (regardless of sex) to just suddenly take children away from the other without any sort of access? Surely that's against the law...
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Easy... Its the law set in one particular parents favour. Even with a court order its impossible to enforce.

In fact children's law is known as the only place where a stranger has more right to adopt a child than a parent in the event of a death. Fact.
 
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