Anyone ever rent a room out in your home

[dirtychinchilla]

Try to think of it from another viewpoint than your own, what I took from it is they're both comfortable with that arrangement. She saves money and has casual sex once a month for a room, hey she may even enjoy it. He gets casual sex with a young attractive female, potentially saving hundreds on what he'd pay for say an escort of similar attractiveness.

I always find it amusing when men try to shame others for being in a position any rational thinking male would put themselves in.

I'm not trying to shame anyone. The guy isn't even on this forum! I just don't think it's very pleasant.

She may enjoy it, who knows. I wouldn't want to trade sex for anything, personally. Not that I'm saying that's an option hah.

 

[hurfdurf]

Try to think of it from another viewpoint than your own, what I took from it is they're both comfortable with that arrangement. She saves money and has casual sex once a month for a room, hey she may even enjoy it. He gets casual sex with a young attractive female, potentially saving hundreds on what he'd pay for say an escort of similar attractiveness.

I always find it amusing when men try to shame others for being in a position any rational thinking male would put themselves in.

Indeed, who are we to judge other people for their sexual choices. Ok, its fine if you aren't ok with having sex for money or in return for something, but just because you couldn't do that doesn't mean other people can't, or should be disgusted with themselves for doing so.

I would never pay for sex, that doesn't mean I think men who do so are disgusting, I know plenty of prostitutes who love being paid for sex.

I'd rather have sex for 5 hours a week and earn £40k a year then clean toilets for minimum wage, I know what I find more humiliating and what I find more rewarding. Who is anyone here to judge

 

[Ayahuasca]

I'm not trying to shame anyone. The guy isn't even on this forum! I just don't think it's very pleasant.

She may enjoy it, who knows. I wouldn't want to trade sex for anything, personally. Not that I'm saying that's an option hah.

Well that's the problem, very few men have the option to trade sex for anything, with women it's entirely the opposite.

If I'm single at 52, in a comfortable position financially I don't see the problem with having an agreement with a young female tenant to offer her services in return for a room. It's definitely not disgusting, it's pretty much human nature at its core level.

 

[task]

Yes, on 5 separate occasions;

Lodger number 1 was a friend of a friend. Total nightmare, acted like a complete child, ignored any sort of respectful behaviour. Culminated in many arguments about leaving windows/doors open when leaving the house and bringing random strangers home when drunk (mostly male), he left.

Lodger number 2 was a guy from work, he was pretty sound apart from trying to do a load of dubious stuff on my wifi which I soon blocked. Kept himself to himself and didn't really leave his room other than for meals.

Lodger number 3 was a contractor from work, he had similar interests to me and needed a place to stay whilst he was going through divorce. I'd rent to him again and we are still friends. Whilst this guy was staying another friend broke up with his partner and I ended up with one in the living room and one in the spare room.

Lodger number 4 was a friend from Romania who wanted to try to get work in the UK, he was only around for 6 months and spent most of the time playing EvE online, we are also still friends.

I then didn't rent out for several years, I'd only really needed the money for Lodger 1 & 2 to make life more comfortable and the rest of the lodgers had been favours. I also had a partner move in for several years, an entirely different kind of mistake.

Lodger 5 was a friend and workmate who broke up with his wife shortly after I'd finished a long term relationship. He stayed for a year and was a great lodger, like having a mate round but also paid bills and cleaned. He loved cleaning.

My house picked up the name "House of Broken Dreams" due to the number of failed relationships that ended up here...

In short, I would rent the room out but be very mindful of who you are renting to. I had the best experience renting to friends and they were the easiest to talk to if I had any issues. The first two had less respect for me and my property.

 

[BennyC]

Yes, vet them well and you'll have no problems at all and eventually no mortgage

 

[norm]

My mate who I am in a band with rents a room in his house to a 21 year old girl, she is gorgeous and does not pay any cash rent,

he is 52 and is a reasonable looking guy, and takes payment once a month in 'other ways' let us say.

Once a month?

That lady is basically a live-in prostitute. Would you really want to encounter that person day-to-day? She'd be a constant reminder of your seedy arrangement. And how do the practicalities of it even work? Post-it note on the fridge requesting her services tonight?

That is bizarre.

 

[Soundood]

Once a month?

That lady is basically a live-in prostitute. Would you really want to encounter that person day-to-day? She'd be a constant reminder of your seedy arrangement. And how do the practicalities of it even work? Post-it note on the fridge requesting her services tonight?

That is bizarre.

Oddly it works very well, she has even came out for a drink with us and our wifes, she is a lovely girl and in no way a prostitute,

it all started when she was out of work for a few months, and Ian let her stay rent free until she got on her feet, soon she was on her knees lol.

since then she has started working again, and still does not pay rent, it isnt once a month exactly,

lets just say she takes care of him in that area, friends with benifits sort of thing.

he has a room, he is an attractive older man, she needs the room and he needs her company, they both have something each other wants. why not trade?

there is a lot worse going on in the world, if you get my meaning, they are harming no one with their decision.

 

[David _b]

Well. I met lady number 2 today for a we look around the house, and a we look around her

Seems very genuine. Story to match her circumstances etc. Works.
And is a extremely strong 8 outa 10. Lol

So left it with each other to think about further.

 

[David _b]

Only minor issue is she smokes. I don't mind but it would need to be outside

 

[Shampoo]

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[Narj]

Only minor issue is she smokes. I don't mind but it would need to be outside

Just a note on that - the smell will get on to their clothes and they will still bring it into the house with them.

My lodger smokes and I told him to hang around for a few minutes before coming back in, otherwise this waft of smoke smell seems to follow him in to the house. Waiting a bit seems to make it less of a problem.

I put up with it because he's very tidy and I hardly notice him apart from that.

I think I want to go back to living alone next year though as I don't really need the cash. I miss being able to walk around in the buff and it feels a bit awkward when I've got drunk and brought some fogbeast back home to smash (even though he laughs about it).

 

[Puzzled]

Looking at it from the lodgers perspective, what do you expect from them in terms of how much time they spend in the house / shared living areas?

I'm looking at the possibility of renting a room (I'd be the lodger) short term to save some cash but from some of these responses it seems many lodgers just stay in the bedroom / keep to themselves.

I've done house shares with friends but not sure what to expect when living in someone else's house. That said most of the places round my way seem to be Mon - Fri only so pretty pointless unless I live on the streets at the weekend

 

[Narj]

Looking at it from the lodgers perspective, what do you expect from them in terms of how much time they spend in the house / shared living areas?

I'm looking at the possibility of renting a room (I'd be the lodger) short term to save some cash but from some of these responses it seems many lodgers just stay in the bedroom / keep to themselves.

I'd be more than happy if I had a lodger I could do some gaming/watching films and stuff with. I do go out for beers and the odd curry with mine - we've become pretty good friends but he still mostly keeps himself to himself.

 

[Soundood]

Well that's the problem, very few men have the option to trade sex for anything, with women it's entirely the opposite.

If I'm single at 52, in a comfortable position financially I don't see the problem with having an agreement with a young female tenant to offer her services in return for a room. It's definitely not disgusting, it's pretty much human nature at its core level.

yes I agree with this, I had not put myself in the situation Ian is in, but same as above,
If I was single at 52 with a spare room in the house and had an attractive young woman 'willing' to trade the room, for maybe an evening out, followed with some adult fun, I would be up for it.

no different to picking a girl up in a bar, after buying her drinks all night, then meeting again for more drinks before she decides to come up with the goods.

probably cheaper in the long run as well

may I add, I think there is a certain level of attraction between them, they just dont ever think they would go out with each other, or get married and have babies, a realalistic viewpoint, given their ages IMHO

 

[Feef]

I rented a room in a guy's flat for 9 months or so after leaving my old relationship, also mostly just kept to my room. There was another guy there too, who was usually off on tour doing tech for some band or other. Occasionally cooked something, or went up on to the roof to smoke, but we almost never saw each other (I have literally no idea what he did/does for money). Fairly sure we still saw each other far more often in the pub that we did in the apartment.

He was also a furry, but that's for another thread.

 

[Leeroy Jenkins]

I rented a room from a middle aged couple in a foreign country for about 3 months. They trusted me to house sit for them while they were away on holidays for a week so I must not have been too bad.

I mostly kept to myself in my room and didn't really feel well about entering the living room/their bedroom as they used it as their room at night but would still invite me to talk now and again.

I think you really need to get to know someone's character before trusting them to rent a room.

Probably going about it the legal way and having a contract for payments etc might be the way to go as some people already suggested.

 

[David _b]

So she contacted me again and is up for it. I'm half warming to the idea. I need to check with nationwide, my mortgage, that they don't mind. I also need to check with my insurance.

Or would you just fire on ?
I will be having a contract. As for what I put in it I have yet to decide. I don't mind sharing the house, I don't mind the idea of having some company.
As for some rules, anyone have any ideas ? I may add something like no visitors after 8pm on week days, no sleep overs male or female, no visitors after 10pm weekends, (or would you just go strictly no visitors?), no smoking in the house, no pets, payment amount of 200 plus 50 to cover the electric, to licence, broadband.

Would it be strange to put it on a month by month basis for first 3 months ? Then if it's all gravy we could talk about other terms.

Just shout people, no idea is bad

 

[Mynight]

No visitors sounds a bit harsh but it is your house after all. Unless you really don't want people there maybe it can be worded in a more "dont take the **** with noise" kinda way rather than outright ban/ban after certain times.

She might have hot mates .

I dont think it would be strange. Got to work each other out. She could be an absolute nightmare. If anything I think it's a good idea, if she does turn out to be a pain then you don't have to put up with it too long.

 

[David _b]

Exactly. If it doesn't work out, she won't be around for long. You can remove a lodger inside a month no matter what length is on the contract, so if there is any daftness it's out ya go time

I be more say cautious if she hooks up with a fella and he sees it as he's welcome here, as and when he fancies. Which is not the case, I'm letting a room to her, not anyone else.

Was thinking about what's included for the £50 to cover bills, should I leave electric off what's covered, in case she is in love with the tumble drier, lights, etc

 

[David _b]

Would it be fair to call the girls employer ? To check job security