Kids Bullied

G-MAN2004 said:
It's not ideal, but I think the only way to deal with bullying these days is fight back. Schools are absolutely terrible at dealing with it, from experience.
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Actually schools are hot on it.

Itst he kids who refuse to say anything.

Like the other day, one kid was getting bullied, barely said a word in a meeting with slt, then as soon as his mother turned up he burst into tears.... LIKE WTF? make it look like the school doesn't care why dont you
 
Diagro said:
Actually schools are hot on it.

Itst he kids who refuse to say anything.

Like the other day, one kid was getting bullied, barely said a word in a meeting with slt, then as soon as his mother turned up he burst into tears.... LIKE WTF? make it look like the school doesn't care why dont you
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no wonder he gets bullied, what a wimp.
 
No1newts said:
Thanks for the tips but for the people saying see the school etc it is nothing like that, this was just a daft little thing in the play area but wondering how I would cope if it was something else in the future.

For parents who have had it how did you deal with the frustration/helplessness of it all, you can't exactly bang out the kid :p
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I suspect you're taking this incident a bit personally, I know I have done in the past so it's no criticism.

A bully who happened to interact with your kid is different to someone actively looking to bully your kid on an ongoing basis.

In this case it maybe just best to tell your child to avoid the kid who pushes others around if possible.

You also have to account for different kids, my brothers boys are far more rough and tumble than my daughter, but there's no real malice in their actions when they push and shove her.

I much prefer that to the snide comments and lies that my sister's daughter uses to upset mine.
 
Diagro said:
If your a parent i expect your kids to be bullies
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I don't have kids, nor would but it's pretty obvious if you're a wimp bawling in the canteen they run out of dessert you're going to be a target for bullies.

You think other people in authority should help your little jimmie because he doesn't have the backbone to stand up for himself. That's the problem society of wimps expecting others to sort out their problems, don't have a backbone to stand up for themselves, just be a emo.
 
I rememeber my dad telling me when I was in primary school and there was a known bully "If someone hits you, hit them back 10 times as hard"

A few days later the known bully pushed me to the floor and I got up and head butted him. I had no trouble throughout primary and upper school. The known bully actually went to a different school and came back in upper and was still a bully. This time though schools had merged from a number of areas and he was known and regulaly got the crap kicked out of him. I sort of felt sorry for him in when I was ~14/15/16
 
Bullying is part of life. I was bullied at school and I carried the anger with me till I was about 30 and eventually realised it was pointless to feel upset by childhood experiences. Kids can be cruel.
 
Thanks for Sharing Thereis0nly0ne sounds pretty horrible.

My sister suffered somewhat similar to your daughter but luckily was able to pull herself round finding a couple of good friends in college. She has since went on to be married but to this day (15 or so years later) she is still anxious and not the best socially.
 
I will teach my kids what my parents taught me. Never hit other kids unless they hit you first, then you can hit them back
 
Yes, please don't ignore it. I was a sickly child and was ferociously bullied at school - never physically, always verbally - and my parents left me there to rot.
 
Chaos said:
Get him into martial arts.

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Not just any martial art, a practical martial art that has full contact sparring, not this arty farty showey stuff, so something like boxing, kickboxing, BJJ, MMA, vs some daft stuff like karate, or Akido, which don't work and will likely get your child more hurt than not.
 
There is one memory of when I was in the 2nd year of High School and a school mate constantly got bullied by a 5th year. This one day he had enough so did something none of us had seen before but was explained later. He grabbed the bully by the lapels, turned and threw him hard into the floor so he couldn't get up. We found out it was called Judo and nobody ever messed with Kevin again.

For my part I never got bullied or bullied anybody myself and luckily none of my kids got bullied.
I did get verbally/mentally bullied by a work colleague for at least 5 years until one day I told him to **** ***. He called management who stood there shrugging their shoulders because they all knew what went on. He then continued with a bulletin board campaign for 2 years - seriously, I'd come in the morning and he would put newspaper clippings up on a board all aimed at me.
Anyway, he became seriously ill and I would often ask his wife how he was and when he came back he came straight up to me, took my hand and hugged me. He said he had been a bad man and during his time off I was the only person who showed any sympathy towards his condition. It took a while of trust but we became best mates and late last year he died, I was the last friend he had spent time with earlier that day.
 
ThereIs0nly0ne said:
Thanks @No1newts, glad your sister's situation worked out and I have hope things will resolve themselves. Unfortunately my daughter took another overdose this afternoon and was admitted to hospital again.
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OD for what? Bulling? I thought you said your son was being bullied? :confused:

I might have lost track somewhere in this thread, maybe? :confused:
 
itchy said:
OD for what? Bulling? I thought you said your son was being bullied? :confused:

I might have lost track somewhere in this thread, maybe? :confused:
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I'd posted my daughter's experience of being bullied earlier. I deleted the post for privacy reasons. Anyway, yes, this is a consequence of her being bullied at school.
 
hornetstinger said:
What a condensending little ***** you are.

I don't have kids, nor would but it's pretty obvious if you're a wimp bawling in the canteen they run out of dessert you're going to be a target for bullies.

You think other people in authority should help your little jimmie because he doesn't have the backbone to stand up for himself. That's the problem society of wimps expecting others to sort out their problems, don't have a backbone to stand up for themselves, just be a emo.
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Sounds like you were a bully. And probably still are based on your immediate jump onto expletive name calling.

Did I mention anything about a child crying about food in a canteen?

No.

Although I have seen it happen in primary schools.

Bullying tends to happen more so in secondary of which it can be quite bad. Some children tend to hide it from the school and hide their emotions until they arrive home. The parents then are faced with this outburst of emotion and issues that they then think the school doesn't care or can't see the issues. When in fact the school wasn't made aware because the child was hiding it.

It's not all black and white like you may think. Standing up for yourself can land you in just as much trouble.
Better for all is actions such as bullying others just didn't happen, if it didn't happen then there would be no need for children to stick up for them self's.


Thanks for your poor contribution to this thread. Go find some wimps to laugh at. Make your self feel good.
 
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