Feeling sorry for myself :(

Mark1989

Mark1989

Mark1989

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Not done this before but wanted to rant and just get it off my chest, ill start by saying i can be a worrier and over think things an awful lot.

About 6 years ago i started having lower back issues, pain and discomfort some days id be okay others even a slight movement would hurt and id get random shooting pains medicine didnt help tried various ones, Docs at first didnt care said its mechanical your young wont be anything sent me away.

At that point i had no wife or son so ignored the problem, since then its always been there but now i have a wife and son i couldn't ignore it anymore, so decided they should do something, Went back they said will try Physio (the doctor was different this time), no improvement, made me try Hydrotherapy again no improvement, The lady doing the Physio/Hydro was lovely and honest and said whilst id love to do X-Ray now i know they will say no till we do Physio and go though the long process.

So fast forward had x-ray done yesterday, Got results today and been told 3 of my lower discs are narrow and rubbing with each other and muscle in between isnt great, They also advised i have lower Spinabifida.

Im now stuck waiting until the specialist is in touch with the next step and tests

So as im a worrier im going nuts in my own head, Its all ready at times difficult to pick my son up (9 months old) and thats just upsetting as it is, im not even 30 and docs said it could get worse with age, just feel like it will effect my son and wife which is what bothers me more.

ARGH #Rant over :(

Sorry for horrible grammar and spelling.
 
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Its only natural to worry about something like this , but try your best not to until the specialist has given his verdict

best of luck
 
Sorry to hear that fella. I think it's important you talk over how you feel with a GP or other healthcare professional. Depression is associated with back problems and it will probably adversely impact your condition.
 
Sorry to hear about this mate, your wife and son (when he's mature) will understand.

Try to ask yourself, if I worry will it help?

Easier said than done I know.
 
I have been more moody and unfortunately made stupid remarks and had little i wouldn't say arguing but bickering maybe with the mrs, i have said sorry as i know its to do with this and just being in pain and general not comfortable at any point.
 
It's rubbish but on the plus side at least now you're getting somewhere and they can start offering some proper treatments.
 
I understand the feelings mate. I'm 33 and after 2-3 years of struggling with seemingly random but pretty severe joint issues, I've just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. My first child is due in Feb and I worry so much that I won't be able to always function as good dad in the physical sense. Some days I'm literally fine, other days I can barely walk or move my arms :(

Hopefully it comes good for you and treatment helps. But I do understand the self pity feelings.
 
Nobody ever worried their way out of anything, it's human nature but try an put a stop to repeated patterns of thinking as it will do you no good. First thing to do if you haven't already is tell the people around you exactly what is going on, get it all out in the open from the off and don't be scared to say your scared. Then put it to bed the next step is seeing the specialist, try and get on with your life till then.

Hope everything works out for you.
 
DailyGeek said:
I understand the feelings mate. I'm 33 and after 2-3 years of struggling with seemingly random but pretty severe joint issues, I've just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. My first child is due in Feb and I worry so much that I won't be able to always function as good dad in the physical sense. Some days I'm literally fine, other days I can barely walk or move my arms :(

Hopefully it comes good for you and treatment helps. But I do understand the self pity feelings.
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Hope you get some good treatment too, fatherhood is great so congratulations on that part
 
Do you feel better actually having a diagnosis though? I've got an ENT clinic appointment for an urgent scan and I'm absolutely dreading it!
 
James J said:
Do you feel better actually having a diagnosis though? I've got an ENT clinic appointment for an urgent scan and I'm absolutely dreading it!
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Yes and no, yes because it's some what of an answer but I have more questions over all and no plan yet so I'm stuck in limbo for now
 
Mark1989 said:
Yes and no, yes because it's some what of an answer but I have more questions over all and no plan yet so I'm stuck in limbo for now
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Well at least now you know and you can get the help required, as others have said it is normal to worry but try to think positive and if you are always a worrier then give yourself a certain time in the day to think about your worries and then forget until that point, worry away during the period and then move on again.

Difficult to master and easier said than done :)
 
DailyGeek said:
I understand the feelings mate. I'm 33 and after 2-3 years of struggling with seemingly random but pretty severe joint issues, I've just been diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. My first child is due in Feb and I worry so much that I won't be able to always function as good dad in the physical sense. Some days I'm literally fine, other days I can barely walk or move my arms :(

Hopefully it comes good for you and treatment helps. But I do understand the self pity feelings.
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Best of luck to you with hope things go well.

Congrats on the little one just remember being a great dad isn't just about being able to function in a certain way like playing football etc :)

Hope all goes well
 
This sucks :( Nothing worse than back pain/problems imo, it's nigh on impossible to get comfortable.

Hoping the specialist comes back with favourable news/a positive plan moving forward and with treatment feel better.
 
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