Anxiety/worrying

Rudeboy1 said:
Type of person I am, I would never speak to people face to face about how I am feeling, I always say I'm fine no matter what, hence why posting on here for a bit of advice, but thanks guys, means a lot:D
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This is mostly the problem, I'm not one of those 'reach out ' type of people but youd be surprised how many suffer from it and loads of different reasons can trigger it. For me it was when I stopped working to care for my mother. The isolation and lack of doing other activities really hit my confidence in doing anything new.
 
I'm the same, and trying to cope wit hit on a daily basis. I find it helps to drill it into my head that: their will always be SOMETHING. But most of the time it will turn out to be nothing.
 
Rudeboy1 said:
Definitely going to check that book out, even though I'm not a reader, I'll pick it up!
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Do so, it's pretty cheap (like £11) and not long at all.

The content is invaluable though, it really helps teach you how to sort your mind and recognize the exact type of thoughts/worries you have mentioned in your OP. It will teach you to look at those negatives in a different way and process them objectively.
 
I went through this really badly late 2014 and got over it eventually just by my circumstances changing. Within the last two weeks I seem to have slipped back into it and I don't like it. Consciously trying to drink less while I start feeling a bit better.. it seems to have started due to work issues (stress), family issues and some poor choices with regards relationships (again).

It grates me as I end up feeling like I am not living in the real world.
 
Yep, I get this all the time, I am on medication but, I also think it is just the case that some men are not sociable and find it hard to interact.

What makes it worse is that the people who like interaction seem to be everywhere and shout about their mates all the time.

I don't know what would help, but I did hear said recently that different people destress in different ways and some just need to be on their own.

I also think the modern work place makes interaction very difficult, structured conflict yet imperfect behaviour is now very much frowned upon.

In fact in life generally if you go off on one you are made to feel as if you've murdered someone.
 
RSR said:
I can also highly recomend this book, its a great read and highlights main good points.
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I can also recommend this book. Also 'At last a life' by Paul David was extremely helpful. These aren't long books and are really worth investing your time into, the more knowledge you have about anxiety will mean you are better equipped to beat it.
 
I used to have a bad mix of health/social anxiety. I felt sick every time I was going out to socialise and had to drink water to stop myself from gagging. I was always scared of being ill. Once I was actually there and had a couple of drinks I was fine. Strangely, it just wore off after a couple of years. Maybe I subconsciously learnt to cope with it. If that's possible.
 
HaX said:
I suffer from this a lot.

Things which I worry about ;
  • Performance at work
  • Whether or not I've interacted with people effectively enough (mainly at work)
  • Whether I've spoken to people nicely enough or offended them (this often results in me being overly polite to people, even when they are being unpleasant or patronising towards me).
  • The perception others hold of me
  • Whether I've locked my front door
  • Leaving appliances turned on and coming back to a burnt out house

At 35 years old, I doubt that I'll ever be able to shake this off. I am highly neurotic and have OCD tendencies. I also went through a period of suffering from false memory OCD (eg thinking I'd punched someone when walking out of the office).

I suspect that my anxiety and nervousness stem from my childhood - my Dad was a very aggressive and overbearing person and had a violent temper too. Thankfully I have not inherited those character traits, though I am not going to have children in case I ever become like that, or impose my own negative character traits onto my child.

None of the above has stopped me from being successful job wise, though I do wonder what my life would be like without being a hyper-anxious, OCD nutter!
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I have similar traits, but I'm not sure if they are anxiety or paranoia. I think I'm a very paranoid person. The door checking and the cooker checking thing I would class as paranoia.

I don't *worry* about what other people think of me - I assume the worst :p I assume that everybody is out to get me.
 
FoxEye said:
I have similar traits, but I'm not sure if they are anxiety or paranoia. I think I'm a very paranoid person. The door checking and the cooker checking thing I would class as paranoia.

I don't *worry* about what other people think of me - I assume the worst :p I assume that everybody is out to get me.
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Blimey, just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get me.

I fluctuate from naively thinking people aren't taking the Mick to inadvertently trying to be liked and people just thinking I'm weird.
Even with my own family...

I just don't understand people at all.

Work, well ever since I was made redundant I've been scared of losing my job (I was made redundant 25 years ago) what is the matter with me!!?

My advice is to get loads of money and become mortgage free for a start, not sure how to do that though.
 
A good start is to focus your worrying... the most pointless sort of worrying / getting angry relates to what I deem 'contingent problems'; things that may never actually materialise into an ACTUAL issue.

For example, if things could go down either route A or route B, and route B is poopy, try not to worry until route B becomes a reality.
 
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I think you got to face these things tbh which builds your will power and makes you who you are and i know how easy it is for me just to say this.

I also suffer from anxiousness and worry.

For me when i get anxious it is when i am in the car thinking it will crash or something and am like that all the time as well as heights.
 
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Only one thing worked for me (In regards to constant anxiety), medication. I've always exercised, eaten healthy and never smoked. People used to always parrot stuff like that at me.

You have 3 choices really to tackle it beyond say making sure you keep healthy, get enough sleep etc.

CBT sessions,
Meditation or doing something like Yoga which helps mindfulness,
Medication.

I would try all resources before using drugs, but they can also be used temporarily until you get a handle on the other things and you come off them. Speak to your GP if it's causing you problems and see if you can be referred for CBT.
 
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Joining thread because my worrying has been talking over again sometimes

By sometimes , I mean I can talk myself out of it before anyone else has noticed it. But its still in the back of my own head that I'm creeping back to being how I was last year at my worst... Which is surely just a different type of worry

So it's like im stuck in a loop . Worry , realise there's nothing to worry about , stop caring , worry about why I was worrying again or that not caring will just make different problems , worry

I can't get the balance right. If Im not worrying then I'm doing the complete opposite. It's better than worrying all the time but it has negative effects for people around me
 
I just don't give a **** anymore.

I know were op is coming from and it used to haunt me day and night.

One day I just said "F`em "What are they going to do?" Nothing!

If something happens then you move on in the world, it wont end.

Only thing people should worry about is friends and family who are ill, everything else is insignificant. ;)
 
Could be worse, the worst type of anxiety are those with mild palpitations convinced their heart will stop functioning.
 
Deus Ex said:
Could be worse, the worst type of anxiety are those with mild palpitations convinced their heart will stop functioning.
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That is health anxiety. It's quite irrational as nearly everyone has a palpitation or two at times and they are completely harmless. Just a minor interruption in the electrical circuit.

Tricky thing is, they are bought on by anxiety, so the more you worry about them, the more you get.
 
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