destiny ?

Housey said:
It's 22:01. Get a shower, get some clothes on and get down the pub, even if it's just your local. If you don't have any mates, go find a pub with a busy bar and some entertainment and get chatting to people. From there it starts. The likelihood is if you are one of these people (there is nothing wrong with that) your success on dating sites will be crap too, not that i've ever been near such a site in my life.
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On New Years Eve? Are most places not charging an arm and a leg just for entry.
 
moon man said:
as regards your partner wife or husband (now or in the future) or whatever you want to call them
do you think you are destined to meet a certain person in life or is it a case of threres a certain percentage of the opposite sex (or same sex i aint predudice) that you are compatible with you.
in other words do i hang around dating sites or is it going to happen on its own
with this cosmic ordering malarkey or whatever its called
yes i have been drinking and single 13 months
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Nope
 
No, life is a scramble and once in a while you get lucky. I spent years alone until i met someone who i thought was destined to be the one, only to end up realising too late she brought nothing but misery and pain. Divorced her and ended up with a stunning girl a couple of years later who has made my life full of joy, but this was just luck, if destiny existed i should have met this girl while i was still young so that we'd enjoy more time together
 
robgmun said:
No, life is a scramble and once in a while you get lucky. I spent years alone until i met someone who i thought was destined to be the one, only to end up realising too late she brought nothing but misery and pain. Divorced her and ended up with a stunning girl a couple of years later who has made my life full of joy, but this was just luck, if destiny existed i should have met this girl while i was still young so that we'd enjoy more time together
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But would you have valued her as much and seen the better qualities in her for what they are without the bad experiences before?
 
yes so i started thread because i was up on the moors walking dogs and got a strong feeling that i was going to meet somebody .............. but it didnt happen and got me thinking about about the destiny thing and the song lyric "turn a different corner and we never would have met"
im also not brimming with confidence and the thought of approaching strangers in clubs fills me with dread
anyway gives me afew things to work on in 2017
 
Actions are everything. You will get nothing in this world - a girlfriend or a happy meal - if you don’t act on it. Beta you hopes there is divine destiny or karma, where you would be rewarded if you “did good" Have you own reality to the point of it being borderline delusional.
Once you start doing this, you stop caring if a girl doesn’t like you back (truly, it is she who is missing out), you walk away from a girl that wants to string you along as an orbiter (because in your reality, you never need to justify to anyone why you’re alpha), and you are no longer afraid to escalate with strangers.
 
Malevolence said:
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My first thought seeing the thread title
 
moon man said:
yes so i started thread because i was up on the moors walking dogs and got a strong feeling that i was going to meet somebody .............. but it didnt happen and got me thinking about about the destiny thing and the song lyric "turn a different corner and we never would have met"
im also not brimming with confidence and the thought of approaching strangers in clubs fills me with dread
anyway gives me afew things to work on in 2017
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Looking for a life partner 'up on the moors' seems like an obvious error to me.

Take your dogs to a park in a more central location would be my advice.
 
moon man said:
yes so i started thread because i was up on the moors walking dogs and got a strong feeling that i was going to meet somebody .............. but it didnt happen and got me thinking about about the destiny thing and the song lyric "turn a different corner and we never would have met"
im also not brimming with confidence and the thought of approaching strangers in clubs fills me with dread
anyway gives me afew things to work on in 2017
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Screw that OP, put your lucky pants on and get down the local, you can count the stretch marks on the barmaid while you wait for the future mrs moonman to destiny through the door :D
 
No I don't believe in destiny

x% of people are attractive to you,
x% of people are attracted to you,
x% of people are a personality match,
x% of meeting such a person

etc.

It's interesting what you said about "feeling" that you'd meet someone on your walk. If you had met someone you'd be "wow destiny" but really you just got lucky with your x%.
 
No such thing, all it is, is Luck,

Of course with luck you can do things to improve your chances, i.e going outside, join a club (this is bad idea when in your 40s as they are proper bunch of misfits)

Ooo look i am a misfit :)
 
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