Mothers Day

enigma27 · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:17

OK Guys..

Quite happy to be flamed and told I am wrong but this whole day seems to evolved somewhat from what I remember growing up..

I was always led to believe Mothers day was about celebrating YOUR mother and getting her some choccies, flowers and taking her out for the day for a meal or something nice...

Seems now its just another day as an excuse to pay for some overly expensive gifts..

Am i wrong? I'm 38 and my mother passed away 18 months and now am left to sort out my kids for mothers day as they are obviously too young to go out and buy their own stuff but the wife is expecting gifts bought for her.. (not just flowers and being taken out)

or am I just turning into an old fuddy duddy

Hades · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:20

What does she do for you for Father's Day? I suggest a similar approach.

enigma27 · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:20

The kids get me a card and i send my dad a card and as i dont live near my dad we take the Father in Law out.

Dirk Diggler · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:21

Just treat her and surely she'll reciprocate during Father's Day?

enigma27 · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:23

I was after more of a view of how everyone else does it and is the lavish gifts thing a norm..

or has the whole point of the day been lost.

I am guessing as a lot of women back in the 80's were stay at home mums it was more about giving mum the day off.

JBuk · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:24

Your wife is "expecting" gifts?

Has she said so or do you just feel that way?

If the former then give her a reality check

enigma27 · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:25

She is expecting... but then she has been brought up thinking gifts are the norm... it just never was when i grew up.

NeverWinter · 21 Mar 2017 at 12:50

A card and out for a meal.

It's better to nip this sort of mentality in the bud, keep her expectations low going forward.

dirtychinchilla · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:06

I'm getting my mum a gift (about £25) and a card. It's also her birthday, and I'll get her a birthday present too.

We don't do anything else, though.

Maccy · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:08

Flowers and a card, that's it.

NooBish AbbZ · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:17

Flowers, card and a bottle of wine

suenstar · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:27

Our family doesn't buy in to the whole culture of having to buy big gifts for Mother's/Father's Day, sometimes we'll get gifts but never anything that costs more than £15.
We'll normally do a card, maybe some chocolates and a family meal out.

Avenged7Fold · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:36

Flower/card jobbie max. You get the flowers and make the kids create the card.

When i was a kid, i made my cards. When i was old enough to buy them, i bought them. Not really a gift occasion imo, though my house was never huge into gifts since I shared a birthday with my brother and sister, so we never really gave each other gifts.

G-MAN2004 · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:40

I just get my mum a card and some chocolates. It's never been anything more than that.

MoDe · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:41

Card, Flowers and Breakfast in bed off the sprogs if they are at an age where its fun.

Josh · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:41

The wife wants a CD (yes a cd, she is 40), so will get some flowers and some chocolates also.

Avenged7Fold · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:43

JOSH said:
The wife wants a CD (yes a cd, she is 40), so will get some flowers and some chocolates also.

CD?

You mean those coasters i use at work that for some reason have old OS loaded onto them?

Understandable, coffee and tea rings are a proud mother's worst enemy.

MookJong · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:50

A card and make that extra cup of tea for mum when you are young. When you get older you might take her out for lunch get flowers etc. That is it, no gifts it's just meant to be a rest day for mum.

I am cooking a meal for her this year.

Clarkson · 21 Mar 2017 at 13:56

My mother's birthday is the day after so I'll be getting her some nice jewellery to cover both events. Least amount of faff in typical bloke style.

Avenged7Fold · 21 Mar 2017 at 14:00

OP

I'm really interested in what exactly your wife expects from mothers-day considering her kids are too young to buy her gifts. Will she be mad at you if she ends up getting the same treatment as what you get on fathers day?

If she isn't happy with flowers and a card, what sort of gift would she be happy with?

Surely if its the thought that counts flowers would have been enough and if it isn't just the thought, then there is a minimum price tag on the gift?

Treating mothers-day like another Christmas or Birthday is really foreign to me. Is mo-day<Valantines for your missus?