Lunch with the opposite sex

Liquiduk · 4 Jul 2017 at 14:24

No issue for me!

atpbx · 4 Jul 2017 at 14:33

I am out and about with women who are not my spouse all the time.

Whether its work related, or just getting something to eat whatever.

It's just people at the end of the day.

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 14:44

I can sort of understand where this is coming from to be honest.

If you are married/in a relationship then going out with a female alone for a drink would be very very odd in my book.

Likewise if my girlfriend said "Oh, I'm off out to x restaurant with Y for a meal, see you later" I would be like, "excuse me?" and it would be the same if the roles were reversed..

Freefaller said:
Define regularly? I used to have a friday coffee "date" with a good friend/colleague of mine. We're both married, but it was our "thing". A good time to escape from the office, chat on life, the universe and bitch about people at work!

That's just one example. Heck I went out with 3 women from work for a few drinks - my wife didn't even flinch. She knows these people too - in fact they came round a couple of weekends ago for a bbq. I don't see a fine line between friends and other things - for me it's quite a clear line. But I'm not alpha male probably...

Interesting use of the phrase "used to" what made it stop?

Also going for a drink with 3 women is not a one on one situation.

Captain · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:02

antijoke said:
If you are married/in a relationship then going out with a female alone for a drink would be very very odd in my book.

You have a good friend you haven't seen in 12 months, she wants to meet up and catch up, what do you say?

Ayahuasca · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:05

Clov!s said:
You have a good friend you haven't seen in 12 months, she wants to meet up and catch up, what do you say?

"No, my other half will mentally or physically abuse me"

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:06

Clov!s said:
You have a good friend you haven't seen in 12 months, she wants to meet up and catch up, what do you say?

Come on over some time, it will be good for us to see you and have a catch up.

Glaucus · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:11

wow so many people have no trust and boring life, unless they and their partner work identical hours, you have to sit around just waiting for them.
Tonso I understand he's a religious extremist are the others saying the same also heavily religious as well.

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:14

Glaucus said:
wow so many people have no trust and boring life, unless they and their partner work identical hours, you have to sit around just waiting for them.

That is not what I am saying at all!

Freefaller · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:23

antijoke said:
I can sort of understand where this is coming from to be honest.

If you are married/in a relationship then going out with a female alone for a drink would be very very odd in my book.

Likewise if my girlfriend said "Oh, I'm off out to x restaurant with Y for a meal, see you later" I would be like, "excuse me?" and it would be the same if the roles were reversed..

Interesting use of the phrase "used to" what made it stop?

Also going for a drink with 3 women is not a one on one situation.

Changed jobs, other end of London and she's on maternity at the moment. She came over a few weekends ago though.

I still meet ex colleagues for lunch and a drink at least once a month.

My mentee is also female so spend a lot of time with her. Though I am also a diversity champion for my industry so perhaps see women in a completely different way.

I completely accept that I may be atypical with regards to this but I just don't understand the lack of being friends with women with absolutely nothing else going on. It's something I find really hard to grasp.

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:26

Freefaller said:
Changed jobs, other end of London and she's on maternity at the moment. She came over a few weekends ago though.

I still meet ex colleagues for lunch and a drink at least once a month.

My mentee is also female so spend a lot of time with her. Though I am also a diversity champion for my industry so perhaps see women in a completely different way.

I completely accept that I may be atypical with regards to this but I just don't understand the lack of being friends with women with absolutely nothing else going on. It's something I find really hard to grasp.

Being friends and going out with them on a one on one situation for drinks/a meal don't equal the same thing in my mind.

Freefaller · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:29

Clov!s said:
You have a good friend you haven't seen in 12 months, she wants to meet up and catch up, what do you say?

Can't wait to have a catch up! So much Goss to share!!

Freefaller · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:31

antijoke said:
Being friends and going out with them on a one on one situation for drinks/a meal don't equal the same thing in my mind.

What does it equate to for you? I don't go out for dinner often as I live in the country and getting home from London is a trek and I already have a long commute.

However a quick drink one on one or sometimes with a few women friends does happen.

When I lived in London it would happen more often.

Freefaller · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:32

Tosno said:
Boys and girls can't be friends.

A girl is only interested in a man A) Sexually or B) he has something offer non sexually to be used as a beta orbiter for her

Likewise Chad isn't going to dinner with that 94inch hip monster from the daily mail yesterday.

It is no wonder 1 in 10 men are rising another man's child unknown to them when they are like 'Oh, my business partner goes for dinners, drinks, gigs, etc (ect = sex) with male friends and I'm totes cool with it.'

Not sure if serious.... If not serious that's a cracking post!! If you are serious you need to grow up!

Glaucus · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:36

antijoke said:
Being friends and going out with them on a one on one situation for drinks/a meal don't equal the same thing in my mind.

I work shifts, a couple of my friends are new mothers, should they sit at home bored, or like we have done I've gone and had pub lunch with them or gone around there houses and chatted etc.

what a backwards view you have and it's sad that people still restrict themselves in such an odd manner, well feel more sorry for any other half you have and you put your restrictions on them.

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:43

Glaucus said:
I work shifts, a couple of my friends are new mothers, should they sit at home bored, or like we have done I've gone and had pub lunch with them or gone around there houses and chatted etc.

what a backwards view you have and it's sad that people still restrict themselves in such an odd manner, well feel more sorry for any other half you have and you put your restrictions on them.

I don't put any restrictions on her, she doesn't do it either and holds the same views to be honest as me, so maybe we are just made for each other.

Captain · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:52

antijoke said:
Come on over some time, it will be good for us to see you and have a catch up.

Your friends aren't always your wife's friends though, so how do you work it out?

Ayahuasca · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:55

Clov!s said:
Your friends aren't always your wife's friends though, so how do you work it out?

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:57

Clov!s said:
Your friends aren't always your wife's friends though, so how do you work it out?

I dunno, they aren't like some dirty secret where I go out for a drink with them alone, if they came over my girlfriend would treat her as a friend. I wouldn't need to hide anything from my gf by going out for a drink alone.

Ayahuasca said:

Lol, your killing me.

dl8860 · 4 Jul 2017 at 15:59

antijoke said:
I don't put any restrictions on her, she doesn't do it either and holds the same views to be honest as me, so maybe we are just made for each other.

Pleased it works for you, but the notion of not being able to meet a female friend without wife being present sounds horrendous to me. It just stinks of trust issues.

antijoke · 4 Jul 2017 at 16:03

dl8860 said:
Pleased it works for you, but the notion of not being able to meet a female friend without wife being present sounds horrendous to me. It just stinks of trust issues.

In all honesty I do not have that many female friends. None of which would I necessarily go and meet on a one on one basis.

Do you have a partner out of curiosity?