Overs 40's : Are you Happy with your lot?

moon man said:
Having moved to Cornwall from West Yorkshire my life is radically different and better , it's not about a career to me it's about working as little as possible , checking out majic seaweed and Bodyboarding the best breaks or walking the coast ,river swimming .
Up in Yorkshire at the moment and really don't know how I lived like this
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You live my dream.

Just want a good lady, no kids, an easy life by the ocean. I'm 31 so still have time
 
Just turned 39 but my life improved a lot at 30 after making a lot of big changes and gets better each year.
Gets more expensive too but you can't take it with you.
 
Only good thing i can say is i know more of what i don't know. People interactions are maybe 5% better. Have increased awareness (knowledge) and decreased awareness (consciousness) and physically far weaker than i was in my 20s. Nobody tells you these things. Your body changes...gets allergies, gets food intolerances, gets weird illnesses. The one good thing about being less aware is things dont bother you as much. I just do what i do to get through another day and make sure the +s outweigh the -s. Its like you are on a ship which started of gleaming shiny and new and which is now a rustbucket and you spend a lot of time maintaining it whereas before it maintained itself.
 
If you want to get on in life you have to find out things for yourself which is a good thing but not so good in some cases. Nobody advised me how to do things but I found out myself and enjoyed doing it in the process. I retired just over 10 years ago but did volunteer work for the Citizen's Advice which i really enjoyed until recently, when you retire you must keep active which I do and I've been told that i do not look 65 and am fit and healthy and do not feel my age. The old saying Age is but an number.
 
Sorry for hogging this forum I am a gamer even at 65 and have been since I got my first computer 40 years ago and I love Flight Sims espically Prepar3d Ver 4. In a few days I will be taking possession of the Oculus Rift Set-up and looking forward to learning all about it. I have never used it in my life. i am not one for sitting watching tv as in this day and age british TV is the worst in the world so much rubbish and very few quality programmes. I have never watched a reality show in my life and never will unless you call "The Apprentice" one.
 
Jock7 said:
in this day and age british TV is the worst in the world so much rubbish and very few quality programmes. I have never watched a reality show in my life and never will unless you call "The Apprentice" one.
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nothing against you, but your statement re British TV is utter rubbish. We make some of the best comedy, drama, documentary, news etc. on the world stage. we have a very wide range of television and much of it is utter tripe because people are free to make and watch what they want.

Have you travelled much? I travel rather too much and the standard of television (and in many countries news and radio) are laughable compared to the best we have to offer.
 
41 here. The only downside I can find is that my body isn't 21 anymore and sometimes I feel every day of my 41 years. AChes and pains last ages and sometimes don't even go away. Younger generation annoy me a lot more now too. Their "I'm entitled to" attitude bugs me and because they have info at their fingertips with mobile phones, they have zero patience. They demand and need stuff now without the ability to be patient and wait for it.
 
Hi, I'm v0n and I'm 44 (the room replies "Hi Vaughn").

After 40, you are still 20something inside, but your body start to fail - knees, joints, hinges, that sort of stuff, hair start growing from new, unexpected places. What you eat and drink starts to really matter. And you begin to perceive time a little differently. Someone talking 10 minutes too long, a TV show that breaks into "earlier on in this episode" summaries every 15 minutes, 30 minute stand still traffic, waiting for computer to boot. Those become a crime in your mind.
 
Skidder said:
Lucky man. When your life is so good that this stands out as THE negative!
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I can't lie, this made me chuckle a little, as I was thinking the same. 65 years everything has been 'great' and then this mornings been a pain, so my life is downgraded to 'okay'

42 here. I played 20 years of American Football, kind of knowing it might cause problems in later life. I have a bad back and a bad knee, but stay active in the gym 2 or 3 times a week and generally get by with only a few aches and pains.

I'm honestly quite worried about my memory these days. I can be talking with someone and their name just leaves me... I know everyone does the old 'walk in to a room and forget why you came here', but I seem to get that kind of thing too often.

The big difference for life now is I can afford things. I wish I had this money when I was 20... but then again, I'd probably have just wasted it.

Just need to find a partner now really, which might not be so easy at this age. Having said that, I make the most of being single... in that I can do what I want and spend money on what I want. I doubt I'd have a Mustang and Sueprduke R if I was married...
 
Can't remember exactly but there's a triangle of time, money and health (or similar three names). Most people never have all three.

You have to decide things you want to achieve, goals. I think we all have to sacrifice some things for what we decide we want. It's not easy to have it all IMO.
One of my aims has been to try to become financially secure. I hate working for others. Therefore have been focusing on earning what I can in case one day I decide I've had enough. I'd hate to have to carry on working into 60's because I have to.Long way to go but if I had kids they'd be a financial drain. So focusing more on work has meant less time for hobbies, settling down with partners.
People are upset by the change to pension age but you need to provide for yourself financially. Many manual workers probably aren't going to be able to be working at 68?. And many people regardless of what they do will be mentally drained. It's not a question of how long we live IMO, at 65 most people have had enough. I see the pension age changes as the government stating "you'd better look after yourselves financially".
One of my uncles retired at 47.
 
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DarrenM343 said:
Can't remember exactly but there's a triangle of time, money and health (or similar three names). Most people never have all three.

You have to decide things you want to achieve, goals. I think we all have to sacrifice some things for what we decide we want. It's not easy to have it all IMO.
One of my aims has been to try to become financially secure. I hate working for others. Therefore have been focusing on earning what I can in case one day I decide I've had enough. I'd hate to have to carry on working into 60's because I have to.Long way to go but if I had kids they're be a financial drain.
People are upset by the change to pension age but you need to provide for yourself financially. Many manual workers probably aren't going to be able to be working at 68 for example. And many will be mentally drained. It's not a question of how long we live IMO. At 65 most people have had enough.
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Enoigh of living?
 
I'm 40 next Feb and yes, I'm perfectly content.

I've got more money left over after bills, more spare time and better friends than at any point previous.
 
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I'm 47 and not at all content. Everything is hard and nothing seems like it is worth bothering with. I hate my job and I hate my life but there we go. I just do what I need to do to survive.

I need to find another job.
 
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