Overs 40's : Are you Happy with your lot?

I hit 50 on the 12th July (where were my presents OCUK!!!) and I feel better and in a better place than I did at 40. Life is what you make it, keep your health (worse for me since 40 due to asthma) and mind (better for me since my 40th) and money pot (better than when I was 40). Some of these things are under your control, some are not but contentment is different for different people. I think if you are spending time pondering your past you might be showing some signs of depression, so worth keeping and eye on it.

I would say this, have a plan. What is done is done, start today and plan your next 40 years. Can't change the past, can't do stuff differently other than from this point forward.
 
I spent the better part of six hours doing a round trip to North Devon. It could have been worse with the holiday traffic but everything was aching by the time I went to bed. Woke up with god awful cramp in my right calf about 4am too. I can't wait for a cyborg body, then I will start my middle age rampage put the world to right.
 
59 years old here. Lost my wife 5 years ago and have moved on, like you have to. All the usual aches and pains for my age, but it still dosn't stop me getting out on my Ducati 1098s at least twice a week :p. Friends are the most important thing in my life and over the years you learn who your real friends are.
Am i "Happy with my lot" ? You bet i am............................great mates, loads of stupid stuff we do when out lol............................strange thing is though, in my mind i still feel like a 25 year old...................................work that one out :D
 
43 next month.
I think looking back pre 40 you are greatly influenced by everything around you. Then mid 30's you stop listening to others and actually form your own honest assessment of yourself.

Then for me in any case, I realised that pre 40 most of us a winging it and pretty ignorant.

I have business interests and still have hobbies that I enjoy. I have been a buccaneer and entrepreneur. I keep my life simple less toys more meaningful stuff.

I appreciate people more and empathise better now then when I was younger and I don't stress over minor stuff.

My only regret was not settling down and having children. I worry that I may never have children and especially as I'm the 'uncle' to all my friends children it has started to hit home.

I also ramble on posts in GD
 
31 in august, and feeling like life is slowing down tbh. Or should be.


Still out partying on a Friday and Saturday night though :D live it while you got it because before too long you'll be too old. :)

Edit. On topic. I feel I'll be the same in 9 years time.
 
Far happier than I was in my 30s even with tinnitus in both ears 24/7. Financially more settled (not what I'd call secure yet) and got a family on the go. Watching your child growing up is incredibly rewarding.

Lost my mother last year and my Dads health is fading fast but if I live to be their age I'll be a happy man and nearly at retirement age.. not that I ever expect to retire :-/
 
48 here. Quite happy really. I feel I had a LOOOOONG life already. Born in france, got in computers at 12, programmed my life away until my 20's -- did projects at 18 that most people would dream of even now -worked for Apple when it wasn't cool, take that you hipster beepstards- , started playing guitar in bars in Paris clubs at night, and working during the day; drank a lot, clubbed a lot (mostly music clubs); then moved to the riviera for a few years. Work, Sun, etc etc; then I moved to the UK 18 years ago now.
Been working a lot, lots of cool companies, projects; I'm married with my soul mate (met her when I was 21), we don't have kids (we hate kids) -- we earn quite a lot, each; we own 3 houses, some land for stomping around.

So yeah, all the old little injuries you picked when you were <20 are waking up to remind you they weren't entirely gone -- needs to be careful about drink, and general health, picked up the 'hereditary' high blood pressure stuff -- luckily I've calmed down a LOT since my 20's so it's manageable...

But overall, I had a pretty good ride so far, I wish people didn't 'worry' as soon as they are 25 about pensions, houses and all that ****, and actually lived their *own* lifes, not their parents or their kids; that way they wouldn't feel all bitter and twisted when they hit 40.

But, the ONLY THING people should know is to make themselves 'sellable' : employable, sharp. That way they can make money, and ultimately that will buy you time. Everytime you do anything consider wether it's a good investment of your time; TIME is the precious thing you'll miss later on, especially if you have kids who will just suck all your time away. I seriously wish days were 30 hours so I could do MORE stuff I like to do!
 
NewGamer11 said:
He's old so he needs that Viagra.
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No need for that. I just can't be bothered any more. :) I have children and grandchildren. I guess my urge to procreate has gone. I still enjoy a nice view though but I tend to not feel the urge for a spot of hiking so much.
easyrider said:
What do you do ?
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I manage and coach two small teams of IT techs for a large well known company.
 
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