How much verbal(or even physical) abuse would you expect in a year

jsmoke said:
So how often would you expect to get into verbal/aggro/physical in your daily life, from what I can make out some people it seems a lot, others probably hardly ever?
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I would not class it as abuse, only annoying people, usually drunks, homeless or just mental people, in which case it would be maybe twice per week on average.

If you talk about online gaming, once per 15 minutes its either get cancer or some other sort of insults, but they are all haters.
 
Minstadave said:
Working in the NHS earns you the occasional interaction with some fruit loop, but only I frequently. Probably less than once a year.
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I suppose that depends on the department you work in and the Hospital location as my wife experienced it at least once or twice a week as a nurse on a surgical ward her friends in ED got it more often.

In the job I used to do I expected it every shift but that came with the job most of the time it made me laugh which just wound them up even more when they don't get the response they expected.
 
mattcrane said:
I suppose that depends on the department you work in and the Hospital location as my wife experienced it at least once or twice a week as a nurse on a surgical ward her friends in ED got it more often.

In the job I used to do I expected it every shift but that came with the job most of the time it made me laugh which just wound them up even more when they don't get the response they expected.
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I do paeds so you'd think it would be very rare but the public are an odd bunch.
 
builder22 said:
I used to feel like giving out abuse every day (not for the fun of it...after getting cut up etc) when I had a driving job...was ridiculous and was only going to end in me getting done in some day :p...couldn't help it so I no longer drive for a living!
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I know exactly what you mean, as a black cab driver in London, it was an hourly occurrence.
I very, very, rarely bit when someone took a liberty, certainly never 'leaned' on the liberty taker's vehicle, couldn't take a chance on putting my taxi out of commission, I needed it to earn my corn.
I would, if I could, stop alongside them, glance across, and shake my head from side to side slowly, that REALLY ****ed them off.
There were probably more drivers who thought that I was a liberty taker, but you can't do that job if you're a shrinking violet, if it was my go, or I saw an opportunity to use a space, I went, or I took it.
 
arctine said:
Well if you've never experienced abuse before it makes sense not to expect it. However, back to my point, that is weird.
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I didn't say I've never experienced abuse before.

When I said "I haven't" it was in reply to the comment "Because you've experienced it many times before and it becomes normalised and expected.".

To clarify, I haven't "experienced it many times before".

Does that explain things better?
 
As a kid I was a beanpole, so I got a lot of abuse, both physical and verbal. Now I look more like The Mountain from GoT, so I get none.

England is pretty bad when it comes to such things. I've found the people on the continent to be far more excepting when it comes to people who don't fit in a certain typecast.
 
Feek said:
I didn't say I've never experienced abuse before.

When I said "I haven't" it was in reply to the comment "Because you've experienced it many times before and it becomes normalised and expected.".

To clarify, I haven't "experienced it many times before".

Does that explain things better?
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No, I still find it peculiar that someone doesn't expect to receive abuse again at some point.

You'd have to be doing something differently to anyone I've ever met...Which, to me, would be weird.
 
in person, not much, think the highlight this year was some woman in a car park in truro who was clearly having a bad day and throwing f-bombs at anyone in ear shot.

the internet is of course the internet, although the amount of abuse that's managed to actually annoy me is virtually none.
 
You're twisting my words.

I said that I don't expect to receive abuse as part of my day-to-day life.

Not that I don't expect to receive abuse again at some point. Yes, I'm quite sure it will happen some time, but I don't expect it, I don't regard it as likely to happen.
 
Feek said:
You're twisting my words.

I said that I don't expect to receive abuse as part of my day-to-day life.
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I'm not twisting your words, I misunderstood what you meant by day to day life.

Feek said:
Yes, I'm quite sure it will happen some time, but I don't expect it, I don't regard it as likely to happen.
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You're quite sure something is going to happen yet don't find it likely to happen?

Again, I don't understand you.
 
Taking the definition of 'expect' to mean 'likely to happen', I quite simple don't expect it.

I never walk out the door expecting to be physically or verbally abused. Why would I, it's very unlikely it's going to happen. It would be an unusual occurrence. It's not a normal expectation.

Do you understand me now?
 
Luckily I am 6ft 3 so rarely Get abuse, maybe the odd gesture in a car when people cannot see but I'm not an aggressive driver so I can count those on one hand...

I either look non threatening or very scarey as even when very drunk no one ever has a go at me.
 
Feek said:
Taking the definition of 'expect' to mean 'likely to happen', I quite simple don't expect it.

I never walk out the door expecting to be physically or verbally abused. Why would I, it's very unlikely it's going to happen. It would be an unusual occurrence. It's not a normal expectation.

Do you understand me now?
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You do expect it though, you said yourself that you are sure it will happen.

What you don't expect is that it will happen every day. Daily life can either mean every day or everyday. OP (clearly) meant everyday and you meant every day. My misunderstanding came from your misinterpretation of the OP.
 
arctine said:
No because no one has a car accident every time they go in their car. I might however, having been in a car accident before, expect it can happen again at some point.

Just to clarify, I find it weird that someone can have never experienced any abuse whatsoever in their life. I'd have thought that rare from my point of view.
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And no one gets abused every time they step outside the door either, unless you really do, well, I might if I was a jew living in Nazi Germany in 1930's. Last I checked I am neither and we live in the UK which by all counts is quite a diverse country with mostly polite people.

I put the likelihood of getting abused just above the chances of winning the lottery, and I don't buy the lottery.
 
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Someone once shouted at me in the street that I was a W. That is the only abuse I recall receiving in all my now many adult years. I wouldn't predict that I will never receive abuse again, but I don't live in the expectation of it. I am also someone who will always try to to defuse a tense situation, and not do anything to escalate it. And I've never worked in a role where I am likely to encounter abusive people.
 
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