How much verbal(or even physical) abuse would you expect in a year

Apart from work, from friends. None.

Random people in the street giving me abuse? No thanks. We should be better than that by now.
 
I'd say that 50% of my professional life include some sort of agro or very difficult conversations with irate contractors. Nothing physical so far but a few times in the past I thought it might get that way :p

Can't really say it bothers me as it's work and I sorta detach myself from the situation and come across very matter-of-fact. You may not like the answer you're getting pal but it is what it is. When they realise that all the bawling and crying and stamping their feet won't help, they come to the party. Sometimes it gets legal (which I encourage - out of my hands in those cases) but usually we find common ground.

In personal life, never.
 
Excluding the abuse I get at work, which usually isn't really aimed at me personally, but me as the agent of the organisation I work for, then I'd say it depends. I will usually get told to 'get off the road' when I'm cycling at least once every 50miles or so. And I can usually rely on being abused verbally every time I hold a male partners hand in the street, or otherwise show him affection in public.

No bike, or same sex partner though, and I rarely if ever get abused.
 
jsmoke said:
Back visting parents in home village, cycling to their house, SUV pulls over, stops, and passenger guy leans out window and tells me to get the * of the road, I tell him to * off and he drives away shouting a whole ton of abuse. Pretty sure they were gypsies(I know from my growing up days) although fairly nice SUV and ok presented people, however their accent and verbal gave it away. Triggered a flashback from years ago. Haven't had anything like that for quite a while and been playing on my mind a bit for a few hours. Nothing too serious however still triggers you.

So how often would you expect to get into verbal/aggro/physical in your daily life, from what I can make out some people it seems a lot, others probably hardly ever?
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Mystery solved:D:p (please tell me there wasn't a cycle path and you were using the road as that grinds my gears). My wife being a pharmacist (and working in orchard park for the poster above that grew up in hull, (they will understand)) she gets its quite frequently (ooh err matron). Mostly its the wasters picking up their methadone and on jobseekers /end stereotype. I never encounter it as i dont deal with the general population in my job.
 
Not since school 40 years ago, and that stopped pretty abruptly after only a small amount of violence on my part. :D
 
Currently about 20 times a day from my boss (handed in my notice couple of weeks ago). But it's all in jest and I respond in kind. :D

Otherwise I don't expect any.
 
None. During school days, it was common place with daily competition in running the other guy down which seemed to mainly consist of your mum/dad/gran/whatever colloquialisms. I have fortunately only ever been involved in a few physical confrontations in my life; all of which happened over 20 years ago.

I suspect working from home for the last 7 years has shielded me against encountering the recent resurgence in the proletariat amongst us! :)
 
chroniclard said:
What a sad little country we are at times. :(

Or is it just humans in general.....
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I don't think we have it that bad, verbal abuse is pretty easy to brush off unless you're particularly vulnerable or it gets personal about say a family member or your wife.

Look or speak to someone the wrong way in parts of America and you could have a gun pulled on you and there's far worse places than the US for violence.

For me personally I haven't experienced verbal or physical abuse since school and once I stood up to it, it went away pretty quickly. Nowadays I think I'm far too laid back for people to bother as they realise they won't get the response from me that they enjoy, I've seen managers in the workplace where you can sense them getting a kick out of the power trip and they love it even more if they manage to work you up. Granted I've only seen that once or twice in around 10 years but it's a great indicator to leave a company who have management who behave like that. Some adults aren't a great deal different than children really, at least at a young age there's sort of an excuse about maturity or how they've been brought up.
 
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I certainly don't expect any but that's because my lifestyle doesn't really encourage any.

I'm not deluded enough to think it will never happen, as incidents in the past have been mostly out of my control, but as to how much I expect, the answer is zero. My wife is the most mild-mannered woman you'd ever meet (until I've not put the seat down) and she was on the receiving end of some shocking abuse from drunken hen-do tarts on a train a few months back. That said, she's also a teacher, so she has to deal with dim-witted ********* parents regularly.
 
Some, from my partners mental mother and family. Had to block them all on FB and cut them out of my life. She still gets it. 26 texts in two days from her mother. Some of an abusive nature.
 
Stolly said:
Some, from my partners mental mother and family. Had to block them all on FB and cut them out of my life. She still gets it. 26 texts in two days from her mother. Some of an abusive nature.
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They'd be gone, life's too short.
 
Uther said:
They'd be gone, life's too short.
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They are from mine. She's got kids though. If she cuts her mother out which itself is a hard thing to she will likely take revenge by ensuring they loose their 2 uncles, aunt, and 4 cousins. She's very clearly got extreme mental health issues.
 
I'm clearly living in a parallel universe because l can't think of the last time I, or anyone I know was randomly abused :/ Maybe school?
 
I have lived in Scotland for 45 years and quite often during my working life took abuse for being English particularly when we played Scotland at football but I was a big lad and not frightened to respond. But up here it is known as banter even by the SNP government.
 
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