Work giving me a mental illness and aggravating my physical disabilities.

ethan

ethan

ethan

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I'm ashamed to be in this situation. I've always paid my debts on time, stayed under their limits and never had any issues paying my bills; but when life hits you in the face like this I am at a loss as to what to do. I can't remember the last time I had a normal nights sleep or ate properly and am just full of hurt and pain. Basicly I think I'm having a nervous breakdown. I previously mentioned that the family company I worked for was in trouble due to councils snatching clients back and giving them to different companies. Well it turns out this is no longer going to happen and the Commissioner who decided to do this has been replaced. The company I work for is seemingly safe and expanding with new clients in different areas. However, it seems that the director has overspent with the accountant telling her that she needs to make cutbacks. It transpires that she has reduced my hours . We cannot pay our bills on this.
 
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Given the timescales on this, context and financial implications to you and your partner the most important things you can do tomorrow morning are a) speak with ACAS and b) speak with a employment law specialist solicitor.

Please please please take the above advice and go from there.

The next most important thing you can do is find another job. I presume your competitors would benefit from your skills?

In short, on the face of it you shouldn't be put in this position and you may both have a constructive dismissal claim possibly unfair dismissal. However, it sounds like internal relationships have broken down in the business, cash flow is tight and ultimately you need to focus on yourself and partner so get out.

If you listen to the wrong advice or take the wrong approach on this you could significantly jeopardise your outcome. Hence a and b.
 
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Whats worse is his sister doing this to him and his wife.....!!!! yea +1 on ACAS and take her out of sister title ..... she doesnt deserve it at all....
 
Going thru acas at the moment for my previous employer.

Dont worry about going thru them they are really hellfull and the process has been a breeze. Just waiting for a court date now!
 
I'd speak to an employment solicitor, also there is plenty of irrelevant information in that post that could identify you, I'd consider editing it.

To echo the others: look for another job - were you working 40 hours a week prior to the cut to 5 hours a week? Or were you part time? If they can afford to have you there for only 5 hours a week then presumably they don't think you were adding much value . I'd definitely look for another employer.
 
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I'm ashamed to be in this situation. I've always paid my debts on time, stayed under their limits and never had any issues paying my bills; but when life hits you in the face like this I am at a loss as to what to do. I can't remember the last time I had a normal nights sleep or ate properly and am just full of hurt and pain. Basicly I think I'm having a nervous breakdown. I previously mentioned that the family company I worked for was in trouble due to councils snatching clients back and giving them to different companies. Well it turns out this is no longer going to happen and the Commissioner who decided to do this has been replaced. The company I work for is seemingly safe and expanding with new clients in different areas. However, it seems that the director has overspent with the accountant telling her that she needs to make cutbacks. It transpires that she has reduced my hours . We cannot pay our bills on this.
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Wow, sorry to hear this.

As someone who struggled with anxiety earlier on in life whenever I hear of sleepless nights and a poor diet with someone else on the back end of stress it resonates with me.

I have no advice to offer apart from the serious suggestions above. I hope it works out.
 
People say that money won't make you happy, and its true. But worrying about money and being able to make ends meet can certainly bring you down.

You need to start looking for a new job at a salary level where you know you will be able to provide. I'm not sure how bad things are for you financially at the moment, but it might be worth trying to get ahead of things and reaching out to your creditors and letting them know that you're expecting some financial difficulties.

I've been through hell and back when it comes to personal finances, I wish you all the best.
 
well if you lack it then money quite clearly can make you happy to a point (IIRC it carries on buying you happiness up to circa 70k a year or so... perhaps more for London)
 
Does your company pay sick? What kind of work do you do?

Initial thought is go sick on pay and get yourself together but I don't know if your going to get full pay or not. You need to get a different job, its an employee market right now and they shouldn't treat you like poop.
 
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I edited to protect my position. I got some help today. Thank you.
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Great, have you at least got a way forward with potential resolution or settlement?

From experience once things reach the stage you are at and in your context it requires rapid legal intervention or suitable qualified advocacy (not just a union rep etc).

Plus you have the added dimensions and complications of who your employer is; where a direct independent approach and intervention from a third party can avoid a degree of awkwardness and bring a dispassionate detached perspective and bluntness often needed.

Also, sorry to hear of the impact it is having on you. In the context of all of this and your original post, sometimes finding a new role eslewhere if feasible, can be the most expedient resolution and most beneficial to your health and wellbeing. Then if you bring a claim against the company which can take considerable time, it just rumbles on in the background. If you are settled in a new role and you find the legal process too stressful you also have the option to drop it.

From the businesses perspective, poor cashflow and risk to viability and profits will make directors and their accountants take some very direct dispassionate action without concern for impacts on staff or often the legality of such action. Try not to take it personally, it happens all the time and when it does, finding a new role elsewhere is the best recourse. Whether it is right, moral, just or fair etc is a separate debate.
 
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I don't think my health is going to recover for at least 12 months. I think I'm still going to need tranquillisers and counselling to get me through. I made three high priced purchases 16 months ago which were to do with setting myself up a little business to suppliment the income from my main job, which was only part time. I have enough money to maintain the upkeep of those payments for the twelve months its likely going to take me to get back on my feet so I'm going to approach my creditors to explain my situation and ask them if I can pay 12 months upfront to cover the payments and costs of those items through this period. I' thinking this is a good idea. Since seeking advice the company has said they would have me back once they have sorted their outstanding debts which they expect to be dealt within the next six to 12 months. The next 12 months will give me time to rethink my situation.
 
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