Wedding Honeymoon Fund

sanaxe1 said:
Gifts at weddings have happened for thousands of years, so its a pretty sure thing your going to receive a gift. Why would you then not tell people how they can best spend there money so they don't waste it? I know id rather contribute to something they need, than to buy them something they already have and is useless to them.
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I'd rather not have people digging into their pockets for the privilege of attending an event of my choosing. I want my friends there because they're my friends, I don't want their money.

If they want to give something, that's up to them, but there's no obligation. I'll take whatevers given, useful or not!

Just remember that wedding are pricey now for guests too. Accommodation, time off work, taxis, clothes, drinks, and that's before funding the couples' Maldives trip ;)
 
Fusion said:
Probably going against the grain, but I always think it's a bit cheeky asking for anything, don't think I'd do it. I'm probably just old fashioned though :)
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I'm the same. A wedding list, or in this case a request to pay for the honeymoon, just seems a bit cheeky. I do understand it's the norm nowadays but wedding gifts were intended to help the young couple get started together. Asking for someone to pay for a holiday seems a bit much to me.

But that's just me :) Congrats OP anyway :)
 
Fusion said:
I'd rather not have people digging into their pockets for the privilege of attending an event of my choosing. I want my friends there because they're my friends, I don't want their money.

If they want to give something, that's up to them, but there's no obligation. I'll take whatevers given, useful or not!

Just remember that wedding are pricey now for guests too. Accommodation, time off work, taxis, clothes, drinks, and that's before funding the couples' Maldives trip ;)
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Absolutely this. I actually think its rude regardless of whether you put it behind a poem or straight up ask for money. I didnt even mention it in mine, no wedding lists etc and most people just gave money
 
DEAR GUEST

EVER SINCE WE SAW SAILOR MOON, IT'S BEEN OUR DREAM TO GO TO ~ GLORIOUS NIPON ~ AND SUBMERGE OURSELVES IN REAL ANIME (IT IS NOT CARTOONS, DAD!) AND OTHER JAPANESE CULTURE. PLEASE DO NOT GIVE US GIFTS UNLESS IT IS A SWEET KATANA. GIVE US JAPANESE MONEY INSTEAD.

THANKS

^w^
Eliot-San
 
I find it really tacky to be honest, the vast majority of wedding attendees these days give money anyway so there shouldn't really be a need to out right ask for it.

We just didn't communicate anything and mainly got money, or targeted gifts towards our honeymoon (dollars / resort vouchers for spa etc). With only a few actual presents given which were actually nice to have!

If you want to go on honeymoon it should be bought and paid for by yourselves, anything you received should be seen as and treated as a bonus... My 2c anyway!
 
So anyone who wasn't previously going to spend much or anything on a gift now feels obliged to give you money, and because it's literally an amount of money they'll be obliged to give you more than they might spend on a gift so they don't look tight. Yeah, I wouldn't do that. I'd go some where cheaper and go to Japan the year after if I couldn't afford it.
 
Thanks guys some helpful posts in here i'll be taking a look at all of these.

Just to clarify we aren't asking for it per-se, I think its just basically saying something like this on the back of the invite where we were going to do a FAQ type thing i.e as an example:

Is confetti allowed?

Confetti is allowed :)

What time should I arrive?

The ceremony is due to start at 12.30pm, we ask that you arrive in time to be seated by 12.15pm. There will be photos in the gardens immediately after the ceremony (weather permitting!) before moving on to the reception.

Is there a dress code?

We don’t have a dress code as such; just wear your glad rags and make sure you have your dancing shoes on!

Do you have a gift list?

We have already set up a beautiful home together and so is your presence not presents we request for our special day! If you really want to spoil us however, we would be more than grateful to receive a small contribution towards our honeymoon www.insertlinkhere.com/blahblah
 
I know a couple who asked for money and were supposed to use it for the honey moon but I think the wedding was more expensive than they planned so money went on that, great day though.
 
When I got married a couple of years back I was we were in the same boat. We didn't need any physical things and didn't need the money for the honeymoon. As we were getting married in Cornwall we said that coming down was gift enough. However we still had a few people asking if we had a gift list.

I didn't want to just ask for money toward the honeymoon so we set up a honeyfund page which listed the details of our honeymoon and a list of activities that we were going to be doing, or hoped to be doing that people could contribute to. This was from small things such as a Singapore Sling at Raffles, through more extavagent things such as Private Tour of the Night Zoo. People could part pay for things or pay for lots of different things.

When we were on the honeymoon we took pictures of ourselves enjoying anything someone paid for, or helped pay for and then sent them that picture inside our thank you card. It worked out well for us and people appreciated the photos to see what they paid for.

We had it in the past where we have given to other's honeyfund and they didn't bother to do the thing that we paid for and just took the money to use it on something else which annoyed me slightly.
 
Eliot said:
Thanks guys some helpful posts in here i'll be taking a look at all of these.

Just to clarify we aren't asking for it per-se, I think its just basically saying something like this on the back of the invite where we were going to do a FAQ type thing i.e as an example:

Is confetti allowed?

Confetti is allowed :)

What time should I arrive?

The ceremony is due to start at 12.30pm, we ask that you arrive in time to be seated by 12.15pm. There will be photos in the gardens immediately after the ceremony (weather permitting!) before moving on to the reception.

Is there a dress code?

We don’t have a dress code as such; just wear your glad rags and make sure you have your dancing shoes on!

Do you have a gift list?

We have already set up a beautiful home together and so is your presence not presents we request for our special day! If you really want to spoil us however, we would be more than grateful to receive a small contribution towards our honeymoon www.insertlinkhere.com/blahblah
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Thiz is basically what we did. The donations mostly covered wedding cost
 
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