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That's strange. To cut a long story short, on my recent 4 week work secondment to the UK on a very drunken night out i got extremely drunk, got chatting to an extremely attractive local lass who was 20 years older than me and even though she was extremely drunk she ended up driving me back to my hotel at the end of the night. In my hotel car park we had a bit of a smooch in her car. I knew she was married and wanted to come back to my hotel room, but i came to my senses and did her right there in the car and left her. I never saw her again whilst i was out working over there.
I've been back home for a month now and it is still on my mind that i did it with a married woman of 16 years. I feel great and basically just wanted to tell someone ....
I've been back home for a month now and it is still on my mind that i did it with a married woman of 16 years. I feel great and basically just wanted to tell someone ....
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Something is not quite right about the whole story lol
The deed was done but he's too guilty to admit to the whole thing.
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yep...best to say nothing ...cos ya know...hell hath no fury lol
if it actually was just drunken kiss and you love your wife, it's not the sign of other problems etc best to keep it hidden.
As much as it is the right thing to tell her, it probably would be end of relationship as it was before.
Really comes down to your motives, whether it truly was the alcohol. If you had gone to her room etc would have to tell her. Only you know your motives.
As much as it is the right thing to tell her, it probably would be end of relationship as it was before.
Really comes down to your motives, whether it truly was the alcohol. If you had gone to her room etc would have to tell her. Only you know your motives.
The fact you say that you didn't see her again on your trip, does that imply you would have taken it further if you had seen her? were you looking? and the point you've avoided, how old was she?!
Shock as you go into work tomorrow and find that she is actually from the same company as you and was also on a 4 week secondment!
Shock as you go into work tomorrow and find that she is actually from the same company as you and was also on a 4 week secondment!
Agree, it's all down to the motives. Mind lapse or wanted it but too guilty to go all the way
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You cheated on your wife doesn't matter if your drunk or not you decided to kiss another woman and now your feeling guilty about it and want other people to justify that it's best not to tell you wife that you went outside of your marriage to seek sexual happiness even if you didn't go the full distance, call me old fashion or whatever but just fell your wife that you kissed another if you can't face the aftermath of what you did then your a pretty low person in avoiding the cost of your own actions, simple solution next don't cheat on your wife!!
So you old fashioned views says that the wife should be punished? Is living with the guilt and spending every day making up for it better for his wife and worse for the husband? You're basically saying he should batter his wife emotionally so ease his own sense of guilt.
This really
Flip it around though, if it was your wife who'd kissed another guy while she was away on business, would you rather she told you or kept it to herself?
Ignorance is bliss and all that, but I think personally I'd rather know
So long as it never happened again and was truly just a one off drunken lapse, definitely the latter. Anyone advocating that he keeps his mouth shut, but that wouldn't feel the same, is a massive hypocrite!
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I'm pretty sure the OP has been found to be economical with the truth before.
Regardless, this doesn't add up; the last place you would post this scenario is on a public forum unless a) it didn't happen or b) you want a carefully managed version of events to be public as manufactured evidence.
There is an option C) but members usually get uppity when I call then stupid so I won't add that one in.
Regardless, this doesn't add up; the last place you would post this scenario is on a public forum unless a) it didn't happen or b) you want a carefully managed version of events to be public as manufactured evidence.
There is an option C) but members usually get uppity when I call then stupid so I won't add that one in.
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That huge speech seems to amount to you getting a handjob from someone else! Not exactly innocent.
OP, you should tell the wife. I personally think that it's unacceptable to kiss someone else when you're married.
Completely agree.
Wtf. How is it his wife's problem?
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For a kiss? I'd rather not know as long as it wasn't something that happened more than once.
For anything more I'd want to know.
If he tells her he is making it her problem, she then has to deal with it. Instead, he should suffer with his own guilt and learn to deal with it leaving his wife in the dark and ultimately a happier person for not knowing.