My best friend dropped dead last night at the age of 32

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My ex girlfriend who, after we broke up, became my best friend over the past ten years, died suddenly at home last night. Nobody knows what happened. We're waiting for the autopsy. She was at home with her boyfriend and suddenly she collapsed and died all within about 60 seconds. The ambulance didn't get there fast enough.

I don't know why I'm posting this... I'm losing it... I don't know what to do. 3 people I know have died in the last 48 hours.
 
mistersprinkles said:
My ex girlfriend who, after we broke up, became my best friend over the past ten years, died suddenly at home last night. Nobody knows what happened. We're waiting for the autopsy. She was at home with her boyfriend and suddenly she collapsed and died all within about 60 seconds. The ambulance didn't get there fast enough.

I don't know why I'm posting this... I'm losing it... I don't know what to do. 3 people I know have died in the last 48 hours.
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Oh man that’s sad. It hits with me as I nearly died at 32. I had a ventricular tachycardia and a stroke. To think i could have already been dead for 5 years!

Very sad indeed, is there any idea yet as to what happened? Something that quick sounds to me like a fatal heart arrhythmia. Can’t think of anything else that could kill a healthy 32 year old that quick :(
 
Life is incredibly robust and yet sometimes ever so fragile. There are always reasons why things happen but rarely explanations about why they might hit you hard at a specific point in time. Talk about it, and let your brain unscramble and process.
 
Very sorry to read. Though I am not in the same situation as you, I have lost those close to me.

You are brave to even post this online and should you wish to speak to another human being I am more than welcome to if you message me.

Try to keep your head up and persevere, it can't rain all the time.
 
Yikes! Thats terrible! :(

We might be strangers on a forum but we're here to listen, also feel free to post in the Mental Health thread for more support during this horrid time.

On a slightly weird positive note - sounds like it happened so fast that she went peacefully so suffered minimal pain/fear. Still a ***** thing to happen though.
 
I'm just very sad right now. My other best friend spoke to her about 30 minutes before she died and she was totally fine. So many bad things are happening in my life. My father has been homeless for almost 3 months and has tried to kill himself several times (thankfully unsuccessfully) because he doesn't have the strength to go on with his life and feels he has no hope for the future. If I had my own place he could live with me but I live with my mom and my parents hate each other. She doesn't want him here and even if she did he would refuse to stay here.

And now my friend is dead. I used to think that most people lived to an old age but I've had 5 friends die already and I'm only 34. They all died young, and suddenly, except for one friend who died a slow horrible death from cancer. That was really really sad.

One friend lived alone in a small town a few doors down from another good friend of mine. His name was Jules, He called my friend Vincent over and over one night but Vincent didn't pick up because he was too drunk. He went to check on Jules the next morning and found him dead in his living room. Vincent has been riddled with guilt ever since because he thinks Jules was calling him for help and he was too drunk to pick up the phone.

So much sadness...
 
sorry to hear that, sadly it could be something like a cardiac arrhythmia as robfosters mentioned, the fatal/sudden death ones are rare but can happen suddenly to otherwise healthy/fit people :(

I had a brief incident of AF once (which is the top two chambers essentially going a bit, for want of a better word, "spazzy" - other than stroke risk it is fine as the bottom two chambers continue pumping blood around but it was very scary at the time)

these sorts of things are quite rare in young people but sadly they do occasionally occur
 
So sorry to hear this. Don't really know what to say. All of us will be here to lend a shoulder if you need us.
 
dowie said:
sorry to hear that, sadly it could be something like a cardiac arrhythmia as robfosters mentioned, the fatal/sudden death ones are rare but can happen suddenly to otherwise healthy/fit people :(

I had a brief incident of AF once (which is the top two chambers essentially going a bit, for want of a better word, "spazzy" - other than stroke risk it is fine as the bottom two chambers continue pumping blood around but it was very scary at the time)

these sorts of things are quite rare in young people but sadly they do occasionally occur
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Yeah I’ve had it as well, brought on by exercise, sudden rush of panic and doom was awful as when your heart starts playing up you think you’re a gonna.

I still get runs of missed beats now and the odd skip but I’ve had a number of tests that all came back saying structurally it’s fine but there’s always that voice in the back of my head wondering if one day the run of missed beats will lead to something else.
 
MooMoo444 said:
Live life to the fullest because it can end when you least expect:(
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This. This. And this.

My dad died at 60. His dad died at 56. I had a life threatening health scare at 42. You just don't know what will happen. Live every day to the full.
 
What an awful time for you OP. So sorry to hear this. If you need an ear or a shoulder please don't be shy :(
 
Very tragic. Sorry to hear this.

The story about Jules and Vince was also particularly harrowing. Imagine the guilt he must be feeling, knowing he was calling :(
 
Very sorry to hear about your loss.

I'm a similar age to you and I've lost 3 good friends over the years, its terribly sad how fragile life is. As said above, try to live life to the fullest.
 
Sorry to read this.
Just got messaged from a very good mate he is in hospital undergoing test for cancer.
The world is a weird place some days.
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The older you get, the more people die around you. I'm 52 and I've actually lost count of the people I knew who are no longer here. It's horrible when they are young.
Most of us try to plan for the future, with houses, savings, pensions etc, trying not to think about it all coming to a crashing end at any time. :(
 
However you're feeling right now just know that it is temporary. Grief is a terrible thing and you might feel that the whole world is overwhelming you but keep your friends and family close by. Talk to them, talk to us, whatever you feel you need to say then we have always got time to lend an ear.
 
Very sorry to hear this. I've lost relatives, whilst it may be as hard, I don't know how I'd cope with losing a best friend. I hope you regain yourself soon :(
 
I'm 34 and already lost half my extended family to various things, 2 work colleges (1 drowned in a river while drunk) and a guy I knew at school who died from a heart attack in his 20s.

It can take a while, but you do eventually let it go.
 
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Sorry to hear about your loss, it's never easy and we all deal with death in different ways. Time shall heal it's just unknown as to how much time will be needed.
 
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