What privilege do I have, as a white male, that my non-white wife doesn't have? Because I haven't noticed any and she hasn't pointed any out. Nor has any of her family. Indeed she has a higher level of education than I do, works fewer hours, etc, etc. The difference in earning power between us is down to career choice differences.
I'm also not crying for extra help for my non-white kids because I don't feel they are discriminated against in any way (and don't feel they will be in the future). Indeed they seem to have achieved far more success, and been given more opportunities than many of their predominantly white class mates have. But I don't put that down to colour. It's simply that they are good at most things and WANT to be, and STRIVE to be, better than others in things they aren't yet best at.
Colour simply hasn't been a factor in our lives and we have been a mixed race couple since 1991.