Asked to stop blasphemy

Diddums said:
And this is the point exactly. If someone comes to you for advice and as a support, and then asks you to change the way you speak, surely you'd tell them to do one as well? That's what I would do anyway. If they want the advice and the correct terminology, then there are professionals more than happy to take their money for it.
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'someone' - yes, tell them to do one. A friend is different though and friendships can involve a bit of give and take.
 
Meh, if she's a friend and it genuinely upsets her, and if she raised it in a right way (e.g. I wonder if you could stop blaspheming around me, I'm quite religious and I find it a bit offensive. As opposed to you shouldn't use the Lords name in vain, I find it disrespectful and offensive in the extreme!) I don't see the issue. Your wife is under no obligation but if she's truly friends with the woman and the request is sincere where is the harm?
 
Dont see what the issue is? My mother is a Christian, unfortunately, and she asks me and the kids to not use those terms so we try not to.

Its just common decency to be polite.
 
No you do not have to change the way you talk, however it's nice to be polite.

Something a great deal of people seem to have forgotten these days. No shame in being polite and considerate, the world would be a much nicer place as well.
 
Hmm if only one of the core tenets of Christianity was to turn the other cheek and let such things go...
 
I remember when I was 18 I had a Saturday job at a supermarket, and there was this one dude that seemed to be picked on and generally bullied a lot - He was a little different but for the most part seemed alright. I spoke to him every so often and was generally trying to be nice to the guy as I felt bad. In the staff room they had a pool table that he would play on his own a lot, and one day I was in there and everyone was laughing at him and picking on him. He asked if I wanted to play him at pool, and I declined at first because of the peer pressure and I didn't want to make my work life miserable - But after a minute of thought I decided to bite the bullet and throw the guy a bone, so I said I'd play him at pool. They still laughed and picked on him but I felt I did the right thing and stuck up for him. We sat down afterwards and we were generally having a chat, and I made some sort of comment like "Oh my God!" and he interrupted me, asked me to apologise and to never use his Lord's name in vein again. Suffice to say, that was the last time I gave him the time of day :p

Quite frankly if someone did that today (I was 18 and didn't have much confidence myself), I'd probably tell them to jog on :p
 
Dis86 said:
Hmm if only one of the core tenets of Christianity was to turn the other cheek and let such things go...
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And she probably has done many times if its phrases the wife uses regularly. What's really so wrong with saying that it offends and asking if she would mind not doing it? If the nature of the friendship is crap then that's a whole new argument but if I was doing something that offended a friend of mine Id rather try to modify my behaviour within reason to accommodate them rather than have them continually genuinely offended and say nothing.
 
So you'd be fine with me calling you a **** every other sentence? Because why should I change the way I am just coz you're offended, right? It's not like I mean it, or anything...

Common courtesy costs nothing.
 
sideways14a said:
The response they would get from me.... well lets just say they wouldn't be pleased.
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First I'd give them the screwed up wtf look... then a string of over the top extra-blasphemous insults would soon follow for the purposes of de-sensitisation of source.

Used to work opposite a woman who got incredibly offended if anyone burped or farted... by the time I left... she was burping and farting more than anyone else in the office and laughing her head off about the whole thing.

Sometimes its worth pushing things to help people get over their own stupidity.

So if she wants to stay friends... the expose her to lots and lots of blasphemy until she either gets over it or walks away.
 
ttaskmaster said:
So you'd be fine with me calling you a **** every other sentence? Because why should I change the way I am just coz you're offended, right? It's not like I mean it, or anything...

Common courtesy costs nothing.
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What about the other woman's lack of common courtesy?

Asking someone to change themselves for you is much more offensive than a couple of words.

Context is important and I doubt OP's Mrs was using the words to cause direct offence...

Other woman is the discourteous one...
 
crinkleshoes said:
First I'd give them the screwed up wtf look... then a string of over the top extra-blasphemous insults would soon follow for the purposes of de-sensitisation of source.

Used to work opposite a woman who got incredibly offended if anyone burped or farted... by the time I left... she was burping and farting more than anyone else in the office and laughing her head off about the whole thing.

Sometimes its worth pushing things to help people get over their own stupidity.

So if she wants to stay friends... the expose her to lots and lots of blasphemy until she either gets over it or walks away.
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I am sure your teachings have set this woman up in good stead for her future career, and marital prospects, well done :)
 
I would prob try and keep pushing the blas with more and more hardcore stuff every day.
Maybe one day come in with a Tshirt of Jesus on the cross and a tag line for selling "no more Nails", next day a hat ect...

I would prob be lynched.
 
Ask yourself this: Is this persons friendship worth more or less to me than me the effort it takes not to use those words. Then make a decision.

There are many times where you have to curb your language due to the company or situation you are in. It just is part of being civil and a considerate person.

If my wife called me over this, I would tell her to grow up lol.
 
MookJong said:
Ask yourself this: Is this persons friendship worth more or less to me than me the effort it takes not to use those words. Then make a decision.

There are many times where you have to curb your language due to the company or situation you are in. It just is part of being civil and a considerate person.

If my wife called me over this, I would tell her to grow up lol.
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Wrong way round... if you value the friendship you should help the person, rather than let them live in their little box of isolation.
 
ttaskmaster said:
So you'd be fine with me calling you a **** every other sentence? Because why should I change the way I am just coz you're offended, right? It's not like I mean it, or anything...

Common courtesy costs nothing.
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Crikey, that's a bit of a jump isn't it? One's using terminology that might offend someone and your example is insulting someone to their face deliberately. If you can't see the difference between those two then... well, jesus christ.
 
Diddums said:
Crikey, that's a bit of a jump isn't it? One's using terminology that might offend someone and your example is insulting someone to their face deliberately. If you can't see the difference between those two then... well, jesus christ.
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I do it to you though ;)
 
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