Friend online I've known for 1+ year hates me because I spoke his first name

Seems very odd to me, I would just find other people to play with. I am generally just known as "Link" when I play online and that is what I prefer to be called, but I do not have an issue with someone knowing my real first name and/or using it occasionally. It's on my steam profile after all I believe.
 
Dis86 said:
Bit? That's an under statement.
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I'm trying to be polite :p

linktoinsanity said:
Seems very odd to me, I would just find other people to play with. I am generally just known as "Link" when I play online and that is what I prefer to be called, but I do not have an issue with someone knowing my real first name and/or using it occasionally. It's on my steam profile after all I believe.
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To be fair if someone wants to find out who you are they generally can on the internet. I was on bad company game once and I was ganking someone and they suddenly started calling me out by my real name and telling me they were going to kill me :p
 
No1newts said:
I'm trying to be polite :p



To be fair if someone wants to find out who you are they generally can on the internet. I was on bad company game once and I was ganking someone and they suddenly started calling me out by my real name and telling me they were going to kill me :p
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Might have been me :eek:


I keel you.
 
Fubsy said:
To be fair if someone wants to find out who you are they generally can on the internet. I was on bad company game once and I was ganking someone and they suddenly started calling me out by my real name and telling me they were going to kill me :p
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No one is going to know your name and connect it with a gamer or forum tag unless you have connected them somewhere yourself or you are connected with someone else that openly shares your details.

If you never start connecting tags and names and emails there is nothing to go with.
 
HazardO said:
People in this thread using a forum name that isn't their real name and don't understand why in another online community someone might get upset if their real name was revealed. Ironic no?
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A quick click through this thread reveals a good proportion of posters have their (presumably) real name on their trust. So while it isn’t in your face it is also not anonymous.
 
Online gaming is a bit weird anyway. I've done it for years on and off, and it's very easy to believe someone you can potentially spend a lot of time interacting with is a 'friend'. That person might not see it that way.
Some of the people I've gamed with over the years just disappear without trace, which felt a bit weird at first, and others have become real life friends.
 
Is anybody else weirded out that somebody sits in front of their PC/games machine, plays games online and then calls people on the other end 'friends'?
I must have missed something!
 
Malevolence said:
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Laughing at someone because you can't counter their argument might be effective in a political sense, but it's no substitute for a counter-argument and only shows that you don't have one.
 
Angilion said:
I'll throw in a different opinion that might shed light on the situation for you:

You badgered him into revealing personal information you knew he didn't want to reveal.
Eventually you defeated him and he gave you that information.
You then gave it to other people. Without his consent. Against his will as well, since you knew he didn't want that information revealed.

You'll probably be thinking that you're not in the wrong because the information isn't important. I can think of 3 problems with that counter-argument:

1) The information isn't the only issue. There's also, perhaps more importantly, the issue of consent. Or, more accurately, the lack of consent.

2) The information might not be important to you, but it obviously is to him and you know that. It's fine for a person to choose to reveal information about themself as they please. It's not fine to do it to someone else against their will. Making a choice for yourself is very different to making that choice for someone else, especially if you know that your choice is the opposite of theirs and you're imposing your choice on them.

3) If the information isn't important to you, why did you go to such lengths to obtain it? ("You have no idea how hard it was to get this information.") Either the information was important to you (which nullifies the whole "not important information" argument) or bending him to your will was important to you (which is much worse than revealing personal information).

If you still don't understand his position, try this thought experiment:

Think of some personal information about yourself that you would not want spread about. Something not directly harmful to you, but something you want to keep private or known only to a certain circle of people. It could be anything - an odd but harmless sexual preference, an unfashionable liking for 1950s musicals, whatever.

Imagine that someone badgered you into revealing that information to you.

Imagine that they then told other people.

Imagine that they didn't even understand what they'd done wrong because they genuinely didn't care about your choices for yourself and so saw it only in terms of their own choices - if they don't mind the information being spread, then they don't see anything wrong in the information being spread.



It's probably best to leave it alone and find other friends, but it would be polite to tell them that you won't ignore their lack of consent and give out that information to other people in the future. I'll assume you didn't do so in the OP for this thread and instead gave a fake name for them.
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You're totally right.

Its such a simple request. What's the point getting emotional about such a basic request. If you really want to be his friend then respect his wishes, acknowledge this as a nistake and don't use his name again simple.
 
asim18 said:
You're totally right.

Its such a simple request. What's the point getting emotional about such a basic request. If you really want to be his friend then respect his wishes, acknowledge this as a nistake and don't use his name again simple.
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Goes the other way. If he was a decent friend and not a complete weirdo he wouldn't throw a hissy fit over someone using his first given name.
 
Plenty of weirdos out there. I had a steam friend on my list for a while having played loads of racing games together. No mans sky released and I posted a comment saying that performance was fine for me. He completely goes off on one. Thank goodness for the block button.
 
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