How children change mothers ownership rights

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I don't like asking this but I'll fire anyway as I would like to know for a few years down the line...

I am currently in rented accommodation and have a girlfriend of 8 months, she does not live with me in the rented accommodation. She does not want children yet and neither do I however I sometimes get the impression she is only saying she doesn't want kids because she knows I don't. Not saying I don't in future, just the time is not right at the moment.

I'm buying my own place which is in early stages but hopefully I'll be moving in in around 8 weeks. She cannot afford to buy with me, nor contribute towards the deposit, so the house is solely in my name. We have discussed and might have a 'trial run' to see if we can handle each other for a few weeks, after she might become a lodger and contribute towards food/bills.

If say, she was to become pregnant, would this change her 'ownership' of the property in any such way? I have read stories of guys getting screwed over by their partners when their girlfriends just happen to become pregnant when they come into (har har...) money or get their own house

...it's a trap. maybe
 
If she contributes to any bills and upkeep after having kids together she's basically got a claim to the house in a fashion my sister in law is going through a divorce and is claim the full house even tho she didn't pay the mortgage
 
If you don't let her pay for the upkeep of the house, then she doesn't have much stake in it.

If you have a child then obviously you'll have to pay maintenance.

PS. Keep records of everything.
 
Obviously isn't totally relevant.

But a guy in work loses some of his pension (maybe even as half as 50%) to his ex wife because his wife supported him etc, looked after the kids whilst they were married. Unbelievable.

It's a trap.
 
You should dump her if you think she's going to get pregnant to steal away half ownership of your new house

Even entertaining the idea as a hypothetical is stupid if you trust her, which according to this thread you seem not to
 
Trusty said:
If you don't let her pay for the upkeep of the house, then she doesn't have much stake in it.

If you have a child then obviously you'll have to pay maintenance.

PS. Keep records of everything.
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Does this mean that if i'm a lodger in someone elses house and contribute to the upkeep, I have a stake in it?

I do trust her but good to get info on this stuff. As I said, stories have of others have made me curious
 
Guest2 said:
Does this mean that if i'm a lodger in someone elses house and contribute to the upkeep, I have a stake in it?

I do trust her but good to get info on this stuff. As I said, stories have of others have made me curious
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Marriage/children is the key part, you can't be living in your mates house and claim to have a stake in it :p

VincentHanna said:
I think anyone who really trusted their partner wouldn't post a thread like this.
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Whats the divorce rate again?
 
Begbie said:
Obviously isn't totally relevant.

But a guy in work loses some of his pension (maybe even as half as 50%) to his ex wife because his wife supported him etc, looked after the kids whilst they were married. Unbelievable.

It's a trap.
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I suppose an argument could be made if she was with him for the majority of his working life and she was a housewife for the entire time. She would never have had any earnings of her own and so would only be entitled to a basic pension without any additional income.
 
Just be prepared to take a 50% pay cut for the rest of your life and loose your whole house if it goes wrong.

Women always want equal rights until they you cheat on them or they cheat on you. Then as is happening with a friend of mine, they want your house, 50% of your money and you get to see that kid maybe 1 weekend every month. Sounds like great fun doesn't it?

Also I forgot some solicitor snake rat will want 10% of your wage too to make you feel like you can actually get more of your stuff or time with your kid. Tbh you are better off donating the 10% to save the children or something cos the solicitor is probably already rich :p
 
If you don't trust her enough to have this kind of conversation with her.. just what in the hell are you doing in a relationship with her?!

Jesus wept. OcUK forums - the home of gynophobia.
 
People change whether you trust them or not.

Saying it's all based on trust is nonsensical when trust can so easily be broken.
 
You don't want kids... get the snip now and she won't get pregnant ;) at least not with yours

* waits for the "it's not 100% effective one-upmanship comments but let's say it's one of the best options.
 
Op ignore all the trust-based comments. It's irrelevant as things change and only a fool wouldn't at least understand their legal position, notwithstanding the ridiculous accusations of woman hating.

Half the guys talking about trust are probably virgins living their love lives vicariously through the honour code of a manga comic. Real life isn't so simple.
 
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