It’s a suggestion to smile in the form of a playful rhyme, its such an innocent thing to say on the scale of things, I don’t really see why anyone would think that’s such a negative thing to do
Telling women to smile is not OK.
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It’s a suggestion to smile in the form of a playful rhyme, its such an innocent thing to say on the scale of things, I don’t really see why anyone would think that’s such a negative thing to do
You seem quite outraged to be fair, how many posts have you made in this thread? And we've had another person suggesting anyone who disagrees with this lady's opinion is 'on the spectrum', assumedly that means most people in here are autistic now? That's not very nice is it.
It is not "outrage" at all. I am just explaining why I agree with her.
Why does the amount of posts made = outrage? I thought this was a discussion about this topic in a thread entitled "general discussion"
As i have said. It lacks empathy. The stranger had no idea who she was or what she may be going through in her life. She may well have just lost her mum or another close family member. Do you think it would be appropriate to tell someone they should smile (in a poem or not) under those circumstances? No. Therefore if you have no way of knowing if said situation may have just happened to a complete stranger, it would be best not to say such a thing.
It is very basic social etiquette really.
I think after 20 posts from you on the subject we get the general idea.
If George Clooney* had handed her a note telling her she should smile more, and she was really pretty, the reaction would be somewhat different don't you think...
She'd have taken to social media still (I expect), but the tone would probably have been altogether different.
*Insert popular or attractive male celebrity.
Maybe you’re too sensitive or not approachable but that would not bother me at all
There’s so many possibilities to what somebody could be going through , she could have been feeling lonely and down and a simple gesture from a stranger could have gave her a little hope and prevented a suicide, you can never know but that shouldn’t prevent people interacting
Do you really genuinely, believe this? That what that stranger wrote may have prevented someone from committing suicide?
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Could he not have used a variation of jazz hands to encourage smileage?
Lol of course not, I was merely exaggerating to show that a strangers note could also have a positive effect under other circumstances
Well, i wouldn't dispute that. I am talking about this specific note.
To be honest, if it just said she was very pretty and nothing more, i don't think that would be that bad. Still slightly odd given the circumstances, but could be considered just a pleasant note complimenting her and nothing more.
It is the implication she should be smiling that is what she has understandably taken objection to and i understand why.
I guess if it only said that then there would be an uproar because she has been sexualised blah blah etc heh
Where did she post it on social media?
It's my understanding that she submitted her video to a BBC project which is open to everyone from Scotland. http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/articles/33sSDDn9wxm3mYqfrg5h4Kv/about-us
I've just remembered that a while back on a bus, the girl next to me asked me if everything was ok. She must have thought I was looking sad or something but I was just zoned out daydreaming as I tend to do sometimes.
I thought that was a really nice gesture actually. Bit more appropriate than a note.
I thought that was a really nice gesture actually. Bit more appropriate than a note.