Ex's son

Yes you can't really bring in 3rd parties. You can appeal to your exes sense of sympathy. Tell you're fine with your relationship being over but you bonded with her son and you can babysit if need be or take him to outings
 
"If you see me walking down the street
And I start to cry, each time we meet
Walk on by, walk on by"
 
I think you're better leaving it.

That's the problem with breaking up in relationships, all the auxillary relationships we make.

Unless you have an understanding ex and parted as friends then all relationships connected to that relationship should be ended.
 
If the child remembers you when it is old enough to make an adult decision to contact you, then fine.

Other than that, leave it to grow in a stable environment and respect the natural parent.

I had a step daughter from age 1 to 9 but dropped contact after our divorce as we agreed it was in her benefit.
 
Harsh but fair. Poor kid. He will get over it/you.

My aunt is the same, i have 3 cousins, 3 different dads and multiple guys after that too.
She must have been a complete nightmare.
 
I think it best to just let her know how you feel and don't involve the kid. I'm afraid you will have to let her lead you.

At the same time don't let her mess you around, if you does then move on. You have a life to live and get on with as well as they do.
 
No idea what the answer is sorry but just a quick note to @Jonnybmac I really feel for you mate.... in a relationship that long and you had that much of an imprint on the little one I am sure you feel about him a lot like he was your own...
It is nice that you actually give a sh.. enough to worry about it. A lot of folk would just do one once out of the relationship and not give it a 2nd thought.
 
Best just to move on.
I don't see the good end game scenario here.
You aren't going to see him, he's 5 years old and by time he's older he will barely (if at all) remember.

It would also be difficult for any future partners of hers to handle.

She's said no,
Kids are resilient
There isn't really any gain
It will unlikely last that long

Better to move on with you life for you too. Might be difficult when you find someone to say you are in contact with an ex's son via her and no you aren't the bio dad..

Its tough, but I guess you're still mourning 3 weeks after.
I expect you'll come to this decision anyway yourself soon
 
I agree. It is sad cause it did feel like he was my own.

Also agree to move on from it now. I let my thoughts be known and just gotta accept it's both relationships that ended when we did.
 
Same happened with me and my exs son. I knew him from before he was 1 until he was 4, and loved the little bugger. We broke up, I didn't see him again until he was 6, and he had no idea who I was. I'll not lie, it yanked at my heart when I realised he had forgotten me, but that's how it is.

He will get over it quickly and he will forget you, especially if she dates someone new. I'm sorry, its hard to hear but it's true. It's just how it is when they are that age.
 
Acme said:
Same happened with me and my exs son. I knew him from before he was 1 until he was 4, and loved the little bugger. We broke up, I didn't see him again until he was 6, and he had no idea who I was. I'll not lie, it yanked at my heart when I realised he had forgotten me, but that's how it is.

He will get over it quickly and he will forget you, especially if she dates someone new. I'm sorry, its hard to hear but it's true. It's just how it is when they are that age.
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I would rather it be that way for his sake. No point him feeling hurt when he was innocent in it all - still a sad shame though.
 
Acme said:
Same happened with me and my exs son. I knew him from before he was 1 until he was 4, and loved the little bugger. We broke up, I didn't see him again until he was 6, and he had no idea who I was. I'll not lie, it yanked at my heart when I realised he had forgotten me, but that's how it is.

He will get over it quickly and he will forget you, especially if she dates someone new. I'm sorry, its hard to hear but it's true. It's just how it is when they are that age.
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You should hold your head up high knowing you did the right thing for him
 
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