Serving spirits (or not) at a party

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My parents are organising a party and have wine, beers and champagne.

I said myself and other family members would bring spirits but parents said they don't want spirits as apparently it will get complicated with people wanting xyz drink instead of getting wine/beer/champagne. Plus would need to have all different mixers and people would end up very drunk if leaving spirits open for people to drink as they please.

Now personally I have never been to a party (or hosted one) where spirits were not welcome not would I like it. I know for sure some of my friend would even go out to get spirits or leave early and go to bars if none were available/could bring their own

I tend to have a few beers then go onto shorts instead of feeling overly bloated on beers. Some people I know only drink shorts like whiskey and a dash of coke. Wine I usually have with a meal

Usually at other peoples parties I bring a few beers, maybe a bottle of wine and a bottle of spirits to share around and leave them when the party is done, presuming any remain.

If hosting ill have some mixers and maybe a bottle of vodka, gin and JD. If people wish to bring their own, then so be it

I'm all for contributing to beers and wine but is am I being unreasonable to think its a bit crappy if there are no spirits - even if its bringing them myself?
 
Holst1981 said:
Depends on who is making the drinks.
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^^^^ this, completely depends on context.

If it is a party where guests are expected to bring along a bottle etc.. then it would be pretty silly/anal to be restrictive etc..

If it is a party where they're inviting guests and saying "don't worry, we'll provide everything, just bring yourselves" then aside from catering for people who don't drink I think it is up to them.

If they're manning a free bar and pouring out the champers, beer, wine and orange juice etc... then maybe they just want to keep it simple - especially if lots of guests/busy bar etc.. it really does depend on context.

Then again you could perhaps have a compromise, they do their bar with the stuff they've paid for and then have some table off to the side for stuff that guests have brought along, self service.
 
Holst1981 said:
Depends on who is making the drinks.
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This is the main concern I think. It's all family and close friends so the way I see it, if you want a spirit drink you make it yourself. Failing that, wine/beer/champagne is available
At all the parties i've been to and hosted, i usually get offered a drink. If its other than beer/wine, then its make it yourself / i make it myself. Spirits on the side, there's the mixers - crack on
 
I would not attend.

Maybe they are trying to put people off going? They do not sound like they really want to host this party.
 
Sounds like a dull and anally retentive party.

If it's really a problem, then just pre-mix your cocktails/longs. That or be real man and drink whiskey or cognac neat.
 
BDEE said:
I would not attend.

Maybe they are trying to put people off going? They do not sound like they really want to host this party.
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ColdAsIce said:
I like my Rum. If it wasn't an option at all. Even to bring my own. Would not be impressed :|
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Yeah, tell your parents to screw their party. Who the hell do they think they are, calling the shots (lol) at their own gig?!

Honestly I wonder about people sometimes, I really do.
 
Just get smashed before you go, then enjoy the small sweet sherry and vol au vent when you're there.
 
I don’t drink beer, rarely drink champagne, and usually only drink wine at dinner, so if there was no vodka, which I’ll happily drink straight if there’s no tonic, then I’m out.
 
It does seem a bit weird, especially if they actively don't want people to bring their own even.

If they don't want people getting too drunk, why are they having champagne? I don't know anyone who isn't smashed after a few glasses of champagne, it does a number on everyone!

It is their party though. Just sneak a little flat bottle of Bells in in your jacket pocket, real classy like :D
 
Lopéz said:
Yeah, tell your parents to screw their party. Who the hell do they think they are, calling the shots (lol) at their own gig?!

Honestly I wonder about people sometimes, I really do.
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Why?

I don't like to drink loads of beer, wine is something I prefer in small amounts and Champagne is not something I choose to drink. I much prefer spirits and I'm not going to turn up to a party to drink water.

I think probably 90% of people turning up somewhere to be offered a choice of Beer, Wine or Champagne are going to be pretty miffed.
 
Depends what kind of party it is I guess - I've been to a few that are slightly more towards formal, maybe a bit pretentious, where just red or white wine or a couple of "premium" beers are all that are on offer and can't say it really bothered me though I'm much more likely to be drinking spirits at a party.
 
either they'll be really ****** off if people turn up with bottles of vodka etc, or nobody will care after a few drinks

I think you'll be the best judge of that!
 
Guest2 said:
It's all family and close friends so...
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Does a family member get rat arsed on whisky and cause a scene every time? Your parents might find it easier to remove spirits from the equation than confronting and/or not inviting that person.
 
If you are invited to a party then you follow the rules of said party set out by the host especially if it's your parents. It's not rocket science.

You can if you want stash a bottle somewhere or drink before hand and then just have beers when you are there.

I honestly don't understand how fully grown adults have issues with attending social events. Ocuk had some of the most beta males ever to exist.
 
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