I feel like having a whinge dammit.

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Awww, Diddums, here we go again.

We play games on Friday nights, this is generally accompanied with a healthy dose of happy juice. Now a few of the folks I play with (and have done for over a decade) rarely turn up anymore, but let their kids play with us. Now let me be clear, this is NOT the kind of atmosphere I'd want my kid playing in. Think of a pub at 10pm on a Friday night and you'll have a good idea.

Most times I've fine with it, we were all young once, and it's also nice to have fresh blood in the community so I don't really mind. But when it becomes every single Friday, every single raid, and dad is always "out" whilst they're on, is it really fair on the rest of the group? Dad literally gives them a tenner for an uber eats, puts them on the playstation with us and then buggers off all night. Every. Single. Time.

The fact that raid spots are limited and there are many of us who are the same age, with the same interests, who enjoy a drink and talking crap all night who then have to sacrifice a spot and then watch our mouths because someone's 16 year old kid wants to play doesn't sit right with me.

So I ask you GD, the fountain of reason and knowledge, AIBU?
 
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I think your mate is taking the **** tbh. My son loves playing games with his uncles (my brothers), but 99% of the time it's only when I will also be playing with them, I wouldn't dream of regularly getting them to "babysit" him (because that's effectively what it is :p)

Have a word (or play something entirely inappropriate :p)
 
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I used to be in a clan that had a really old man that used to play with us. I assumed he was a peado. Maybe what is happening to you happened to him, and before he knew it, he was the odd one out?
 
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I used to be in a clan that had a really old man that used to play with us. I assumed he was a peado. Maybe what is happening to you happened to him, and before he knew it, he was the odd one out?

Nah, we're all old farts in the group, I reckon the youngest is 35, with "banter" to match. Not the kind of company I'd want my 16 year old boy to be hanging out with.
 
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AIBU? I don't think so.

If you're anything like me, it's more about the social side of things with mates (mine are all over the UK), the game is just the platform that allows the interaction to take place.
 
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AIBU? I don't think so.

If you're anything like me, it's more about the social side of things with mates (mine are all over the UK), the game is just the platform that allows the interaction to take place.

Spot on. The game is pretty much irrelevant, the winning or losing is pretty much irrelevant, it's just about having a few beers and talking to mates from all around the world.

Except when you've got a kid whinging in your ear every 30 seconds that you're using the wrong gun, missed the jump, sighing, stropping, etc.

I don't have the heart to tell him to get stuffed but I might drop a clanger in our whatsapp group for his dad to read (who is also in the group but never participates in anything anymore since he got a new bird).

I do kinda feel bad for the kid, having his dad bugger off all the time with the new bird and just leave you to fend for yourself online can't be easy either.
 
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I can totally see how that becomes weirder than you're comfortable with. I'm not sure what the answer is, but I'd be inclined to ratchet down the "tongue holding" over time regardless of the impact. The kid's just about old enough to be learning about the real man's world and sus out his own bants comfort level, so either he'll stop turning up (through his own will/his Dad might catch wind of it) or he'll adapt to the environment. Either way you get your environment back. I commend you for being sensitive to a youngster's impressionability and it would obviously be a bit odd to just suddenly revert to full pub man talk instantly, but if you act with the right about of consideration then you need not feel too guilty about reclaiming your online space. You might even be doing him a favour by making it clear he isn't "one of you". If he's anything like most of us were as teenagers, he'd benefit far more from socialising with his peer group.
 
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Raids? Are you playing wow?

Destiny. Hence why there are only 6 slots.

Problem is, we can put up an event on our calendar, and he'll be signed up within seconds of us pressing the submit button. I know he enjoys it and feels all cool hanging out with us which is usually fine on a Tuesday when the guys are usually doing proper raiding without all the tomfoolery but when it's every single Friday without fail, denying one of our actual mates a spot it gets a bit tedious.

I'm probably gonna find an alternative way to form groups without him knowing.
 
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