On The Wagon... then in 'ere!
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Giving this another try (stopped last night) as I just can’t keep my drinking under control. My sleep is suffering big time and it feels like my health is too now. Not to mention my bank balance and weight.
I kid myself that I don’t drink that much but working it out close to 100 units a week on a ‘steady’ week is clearly not a good idea long term.
Always been a drinker and can’t say that I don’t enjoy it whilst I’m drinking (home drinker) but I’m not enjoying any other aspect any more. Hopefully I can do it but I’m very known to relapse hence writing it down this time to hopefully keep a few updates going.
Well done to everyone else I genuinely can’t see my life without alcohol ever again but that is the goal going forward!
I kid myself that I don’t drink that much but working it out close to 100 units a week on a ‘steady’ week is clearly not a good idea long term.
Always been a drinker and can’t say that I don’t enjoy it whilst I’m drinking (home drinker) but I’m not enjoying any other aspect any more. Hopefully I can do it but I’m very known to relapse hence writing it down this time to hopefully keep a few updates going.
Well done to everyone else I genuinely can’t see my life without alcohol ever again but that is the goal going forward!
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Do yourself a favour and read Alan Carrs book on how to control your drinking.
I am coming up three years without a drink and if I can do it I am sure you can.
I kidded (lied to) myself for decades about how much I drank, that I was going to stop and could never imagine stopping drinking
Almost three years later I can't ever see me drinking again (and don't particularly want to)
Thinking back on how much I drank the things I did (and the anxiety of not knowing what did) and lying to myself and family, I really wish I had the strength and courage to have stopped so so long ago
The hardest part is admitting you need to stop
I had this advise, bought the book (second hand), but never read it. I ended up paying for a counselor which was something else I never imagined I'd do
It's sat in a drawer in my study. If you would like it, PM me your address and I'll happily post it to you
Whatever you decide to do - good luck
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I think I quit drinking 10 years ago in a couple of weeks and time smoking 25 years back, maybe longer.
Thanks guys, it’s amazing to hear the years some of you have accomplished.
Appreciate the offer @{SAS}TB but I have already read the book (and the quit smoking book) and they do make absolute sense. For me I know I just need to stop completely, one day of drinking leads to another and then the weeks have flown by without a break.
I don’t feel too bad at the moment it’s just like a little void at night but I am determined this time, going to bed earlier seems to help at the moment.
Appreciate the offer @{SAS}TB but I have already read the book (and the quit smoking book) and they do make absolute sense. For me I know I just need to stop completely, one day of drinking leads to another and then the weeks have flown by without a break.
I don’t feel too bad at the moment it’s just like a little void at night but I am determined this time, going to bed earlier seems to help at the moment.
Good hear and you can always get support in here
The offer of the book is open to anyone by the way
Wish i'd found this thread a while ago... tried many times, starting again today for the x number of times trying.
My 'trydry' app recorded 4 days off it last week, but caved on Friday as was attending a charity do then just carried on rest of the weekend.
Stuck in a cycle really, find not drinking through the week easier, but as soon as the weekend comes I nearly almost give in to peer pressure it seems
My 'trydry' app recorded 4 days off it last week, but caved on Friday as was attending a charity do then just carried on rest of the weekend.
Stuck in a cycle really, find not drinking through the week easier, but as soon as the weekend comes I nearly almost give in to peer pressure it seems
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Wish i'd found this thread a while ago... tried many times, starting again today for the x number of times trying.
My 'trydry' app recorded 4 days off it last week, but caved on Friday as was attending a charity do then just carried on rest of the weekend.
Stuck in a cycle really, find not drinking through the week easier, but as soon as the weekend comes I nearly almost give in to peer pressure it seems
Don't. Make sure you are very firm in asserting that you are a non-drinker now. Do not listen to other people telling you "one drink won't hurt" etc, it's disasterous. Firmly and categorically state that you do not drink. You don't need to think about this, your decision is made. Also tell them not to ask you again, and if they continue, tell them you won't be coming out any more or you'll find some other friends.
Also try to keep away from alcohol in terms of physical distance as much as possible. If you aren't near it, you can't obtain it. Do not allow yourself to get into close contact with it.
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It is best to attempt a complete stop as soon as possible. Yes, alcohol is very bad for sleep and greatly affects the quality of sleep.
Make sure you keep well away from alcohol temptation, e.g. avoid the supermarket aisle etc. Do not buy it. Don't let it get into your home.
Find something else (non-harmful) that you enjoy doing at home. If you quit, you will have time for other things. Reading or another hobby would be a start.
Think about the money you will save, and use it to buy something hobby related.
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Do these 'trydry' apps really work? I'm thinking they are just a reminder that you haven't had a drink in a while, and that might be a temptation. I would have thought it better just to block out the thought of alcohol completely. I guess it's good to count the days though and not break the run.
I'm probably not the best person to ask as I fell off again on the weekend... however, they do make you feel accountable too. I am going to give it another go from today.
Hope it works for you.
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Essentially, I don't drink.
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Nice. Im nearly 6 months since I recognised i had an issue and I've been dry ever since. Unfortunately I didn't realise my brother had an a very serious issue with it and he passed away 6 weeks ago. Chronic alcohol use was a factor and he was 40 so if people think they are too young and it won't effect them...it absolutely can.
In a lighter note after 4 months dry I treated myself to a "gaming" laptop and I bloody love it.
So sorry to hear about you're brother - that's terribly terribly sad
Good on you though, that's amazing - well done