OcUK Dadsnet thread

KiwiTaff said:
Not a dad yet...! Mrs is 12 weeks pregnant. Though I am currently deployed for the next 4 months! (Found out she was pregnant a couple of weeks before I left the UK) pretty gutted I am not going to be there to help her out as she goes through the majority of the pregnancy. I'm equal parts excited and absolutely bricking it! :)
Click to expand...

I came back from a 3 week exercise with no comms home to be told she was late - did the test and there was the line! That still feels like yesterday but he’s almost 20 months old now!

You get two ante-natal appointments you can submit as leave, although I’m not sure if that includes travelling expenses from operations :cry:
 
Maccy said:
I’ve heard it gets better from a few other dads and then goes to **** again!
Click to expand...

Yeah it's not linear. Once they're in primary school things settle down into a routine though so don't worry 4-5 years to wait. :D

Congratulations though! Enjoy the journey it's an interesting one!
 
Im sat here feeling slightly awkward and very lucky. We've rarely had less than 10 hours apart from when she was unwell. The only issue has been actually getting her to sleep as she's gotten a little older however routine is definitely key.
 
Our daughter will be 3 at the end of March and she seems to have suddenly grown into a proper little human over the last few weeks. We spent 5 days at my parents over Christmas and I definitely got some dust in my eye when she was running around shouting granny and grumpy and following them around to play.

My nearly 16 year old step daughter has unfortunately gone the other way and is becoming more and more like her dad acting like the world owes her something and that she's the victim in every story...I'm hoping she grows out of it once she realises that mentality will get her no where in the real world but we shall see.
 
Both my kids still are in car seats. Well my eldest doesn't really need her booster anymore (she's an inch or two shy of 5" :eek: ). But my youngest is still in a car seat although just on regular seatbelt.

We use the children bays at the supermarket as it makes life easier to be able open the door wide to help do their belts up and so on. I still feel justified on parking in family bays as they're both under 10. Although we probably could get away without using one.

I get irrationally wound up when people who don't have children park in family bays. It feels selfish to me. I always say something passive aggressive which is always rebuked with a "reason" or an excuse. Of course I'd love for all bays to be big like that but come on guys it's not easy putting a baby seat in in a normal bay.

Rant over.
 
Freefaller said:
Both my kids still are in car seats. Well my eldest doesn't really need her booster anymore (she's an inch or two shy of 5" :eek: ). But my youngest is still in a car seat although just on regular seatbelt.

We use the children bays at the supermarket as it makes life easier to be able open the door wide to help do their belts up and so on. I still feel justified on parking in family bays as they're both under 10. Although we probably could get away without using one.

I get irrationally wound up when people who don't have children park in family bays. It feels selfish to me. I always say something passive aggressive which is always rebuked with a "reason" or an excuse. Of course I'd love for all bays to be big like that but come on guys it's not easy putting a baby seat in in a normal bay.

Rant over.
Click to expand...

My OH has called people out for it - yelling at them across the car park that they’ve left their child in the car :cry:
 
Freefaller said:
I get irrationally wound up when people who don't have children park in family bays. It feels selfish to me. I always say something passive aggressive which is always rebuked with a "reason" or an excuse. Of course I'd love for all bays to be big like that but come on guys it's not easy putting a baby seat in in a normal bay.

Rant over.
Click to expand...
It’s always either people in massive cars or old people who just are past the point of caring about anything. 74 old year retired Doris in her huge Range for her daily trip to M&S during peak hours that she could absolutely park somewhere else if she could be arsed with the extra 45 seconds they’d have to walk.
 
Freefaller said:
Both my kids still are in car seats. Well my eldest doesn't really need her booster anymore (she's an inch or two shy of 5" :eek: ). But my youngest is still in a car seat although just on regular seatbelt.

We use the children bays at the supermarket as it makes life easier to be able open the door wide to help do their belts up and so on. I still feel justified on parking in family bays as they're both under 10. Although we probably could get away without using one.

I get irrationally wound up when people who don't have children park in family bays. It feels selfish to me. I always say something passive aggressive which is always rebuked with a "reason" or an excuse. Of course I'd love for all bays to be big like that but come on guys it's not easy putting a baby seat in in a normal bay.

Rant over.
Click to expand...
Agreed, I’ve gotten into a couple of arguments for this very reason in more than one Tesco car park.

I don’t care if your car is expensive or new, they are parent bays for a very specific functional reason as are disabled bays.

If we’re talking late at night I’m not particularly arsed as most of the bays will remain free anyway, its peak times that it really winds me up.

Otherwise - with a holiday break consisting of illness, a teething 15month old (3x molars at the same time, joy), and a very misbehaved 3 year old….

….roll on Monday and back to a routine. I can’t be the only parent thinking this :-D
 
Last edited:
t2na said:
It’s always either people in massive cars or old people who just are past the point of caring about anything. 74 old year retired Doris in her huge Range for her daily trip to M&S during peak hours that she could absolutely park somewhere else if she could be arsed with the extra 45 seconds they’d have to walk.
Click to expand...

I am a BMW driver, but I’m not a ****. There’s always some dick in their clapped out 320i parking in there to “protect” their car
 
A parent and child bay is the last place I’d want to park my fancy car, way higher chance of trolley scuffs and general misdemeanours with young kids running around. You should see our 3 year old when he gets hold of a trolley :eek: Saying that though, he loves things with wheels so much, it’s the fingerprints and licking that you’d really worry about.

Pavement parking has only really wound me up since having kids. Similar vibes.
 
Last edited:
Back home from our trip to Australia and Singapore for Christmas/NYE, and built my 3 year olds new bike. He's mega excited but his feet barely touch the floor. I fully understanding my parents when I was a boy, when they'd say 'he'll grow into it'. :D
 
ChrisD. said:
Back home from our trip to Australia and Singapore for Christmas/NYE, and built my 3 year olds new bike. He's mega excited but his feet barely touch the floor. I fully understanding my parents when I was a boy, when they'd say 'he'll grow into it'. :D
Click to expand...
I think you're generally supposed to have it so you touch the ground on your tiptoes, but I've never got on with that, it's just so uncomfortable!
It feels like it's a bad position to start learning from.
 
tom_e said:
Our nursery have changed their policy now so if the kids need anything like Calpol because they're a bit under the weather they now automatically need to be collected.

Had to pick the little one up today because she had a slight temperature and was generally just a bit whiny, got her home and gave her some Calpol and she's fine.

So that's half a day nursery cost wasted, a couple of hours I've lost at work and a cancellation charge because I had a dentist appointment this afternoon that I now can't make all because it feels like they basically just don't want them unless they're absolutely fine (which we all know is not a thing between September and April).
Click to expand...
So... You want to leave your child who has a bug (hence the raised temp) to stay in a setting with a bunch of other children? Are you happy with spreading viruses?
TommyV said:
Are you finding that the bug starts the day after their last day of nursery for the week?
Click to expand...
Every single time. Because of people who CBA to take their child home when they are sick. As they clearly find their offspring to be inconvenient.

Some may find my view above as a little harse, I don't care. I've lost over £8k in the past year due to cancelling jobs. Because my child was sick, directly linked back to another child within his group at pre-school who was pretty poorly 75% of the time but sent in by a stay at home mum. And she is seen at shops, in town, socialising... Seriously?
She KEEPS doing it! Drives me round the bend.

If your child is sick, STAY AT HOME WITH THEM. DO NOT SEND THEM TO INFECT OTHERS.
 
Diagro said:
So... You want to leave your child who has a bug (hence the raised temp) to stay in a setting with a bunch of other children? Are you happy with spreading viruses?

Every single time. Because of people who CBA to take their child home when they are sick. As they clearly find their offspring to be inconvenient.

Some may find my view above as a little harse, I don't care. I've lost over £8k in the past year due to cancelling jobs. Because my child was sick, directly linked back to another child within his group at pre-school who was pretty poorly 75% of the time but sent in by a stay at home mum. And she is seen at shops, in town, socialising... Seriously?
She KEEPS doing it! Drives me round the bend.

If your child is sick, STAY AT HOME WITH THEM. DO NOT SEND THEM TO INFECT OTHERS.
Click to expand...
I think your example is completely different to @tom_e though.

If a parent isn't working and is sending a sick kid into nursery then that's a different conversation to a child who has a slightly raised temperature, but otherwise is absolutely fine, being sent home.

Our nursery is great, they apply common sense 95% of the time. If our daughter is being a little grotty and she has a slight temperature they'll often call us to ask if they can give her calpol to see if that helps, otherwise we'll come and get her.
 
I'd happily run a nursery that refused children who were a little poorly.
I could just play PS5 all day.

More seriously, there is the argument that this is the time where children are building their immune system, so although it can be deeply frustrating when you get a string of illnesses that keep your child home over and over again (we had this in the run up to christmas), it's setting them up to be more robust when they're older.
 
Last edited:
Diagro said:
So... You want to leave your child who has a bug (hence the raised temp) to stay in a setting with a bunch of other children? Are you happy with spreading viruses?

Every single time. Because of people who CBA to take their child home when they are sick. As they clearly find their offspring to be inconvenient.

Some may find my view above as a little harse, I don't care. I've lost over £8k in the past year due to cancelling jobs. Because my child was sick, directly linked back to another child within his group at pre-school who was pretty poorly 75% of the time but sent in by a stay at home mum. And she is seen at shops, in town, socialising... Seriously?
She KEEPS doing it! Drives me round the bend.

If your child is sick, STAY AT HOME WITH THEM. DO NOT SEND THEM TO INFECT OTHERS.
Click to expand...
I understand the frustrations mate trust me, when my eldest started it all fell on my shoulders in these scenarios as my partner was pregnant with a high risk pregnancy for multiple reasons. It feels never ending and side swipes you out of nowhere getting that dreaded ‘come get them’ call when you’re trying to earn money to support your family.

What I can say though is that it DOES get better and your little one becomes much more resilient, I promise.

Our eldest caught this real bad flu/cold that’s been going round start of the Xmas holidays, temp through the roof and not eating properly for a week, but she took it in her stride and being able to communicate with us about how she is feeling makes it a 10x easier process through to recovery.
 
mcwildcard said:
I'd happily run a nursery that refused children who were a little poorly.
I could just play PS5 all day.

More seriously, there is the argument that this is the time where children are building their immune system, so although it can be deeply frustrating when you get a string of illnesses that keep your child home over and over again (we had this in the run up to christmas), it's setting them up to be more robust when they're older.
Click to expand...
Exactly it's good for the immune system. Mine go in school if it's something I would also go to work with.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom