Romantic Overture Advice!

oxygene · 29 May 2012 at 07:43

So chaps heres a thread I'm going to regret making! lol.
My previous few relationships have been girls I met then ended up chatting to remotely for a long while so they could get the full force of my personality away from my unappealing features

So things work out those times and I have come to the conclusion that the best thing is to get to know a girl first via a non face to face communications method! Now on to the problem.
Theres a girl I like! Shes a local and I see her often at work. Now how can I make a first move, ideally without her knowing its me, and start the process moving? Before anyone says anything she doesnt have a facebook

My primary idea atm is something like SayItWithBears and my phone number attached for texting...

Skull · 29 May 2012 at 07:49

The first post after GD's landmark overnight closure and it's a relationship thread!

oxygene · 29 May 2012 at 07:52

Hah! Yeah why was it down?!
And FYI its not a relationshpi thread! Its a Help Me Get A Relationship thread!

Skidder · 29 May 2012 at 07:53

Skull said:
The first post after GD's landmark overnight closure and it's a relationship thread!

Relationship? Elephant stalker more like

FARGO · 29 May 2012 at 08:00

Whilst I understand your reasoning I can't think of anything which could creep someone out more. It could be taken as, "You don't know me but I have been watching you, I know where to send you gifts. Like this teddy, which was left on the grave of my last victim".

It puts the other person in a situation where if they feel uncomfortable with it there's not much they can do.... if they ignore you (not that they necessarily will!) they have to live with the fact that an unknown person has taken a shine to them.

oxygene · 29 May 2012 at 08:07

Hmmms, Never thought of it that way. I always assumed people would take the secret admirer thing really well, as someone who likes them but is too shy to reveal themselves!

Yeggstry · 29 May 2012 at 08:11

I have come to the conclusion you should man up and go talk to her when she's around, rather than stalking her and sending her creepy gifts.

oxygene · 29 May 2012 at 08:41

Lol all relationship advise seams to end with that. man up and talk to her!
here i was trying to think of some romantic and non intrusive way to introduce myself and you lot want me to get in close and tell her i like her. tut.

Begbie · 29 May 2012 at 08:45

That just sounds creepy, go talk to her.

Narj · 29 May 2012 at 08:47

Just give up now and spend your nights crying yourself to sleep and watching my little pony!

Swifty55 · 29 May 2012 at 09:11

Post a used condom with your number and a smiley face...

pingwing · 29 May 2012 at 09:15

Poo in her letter box to mark your territory!

valkia · 29 May 2012 at 09:35

pics, need to see what we are dealing with

Duff-Man · 29 May 2012 at 09:38

I rarely ever comment on relationship-type threads (not exactly my forte...), but reading this one gave me some serious :confused:

moments...

oxygene said:
Theres a girl I like! Shes a local and I see her often at work. Now how can I make a first move, ideally without her knowing its me, and start the process moving?

You already know her... There is absolutely no way to pull this off without seeming creepy and/or a coward. Not unless you can contrive a way of it appearing you didn't realise it was her. But that would be just pathological, not to mention pretty difficult to pull off. This is the real world - not "sleepless in Seattle".

My primary idea atm is something like SayItWithBears and my phone number attached for texting...

I really hope that's a joke

Firstly - Creepy++. Secondly, when she calls your number and hears your voice, surely the game is up? :confused:

My advice, for what little it's worth, is simple: Talk. To. Her.

[FnG]magnolia · 29 May 2012 at 10:09

oxygene said:
I have come to the conclusion that the best thing is to get to know a girl first via a non face to face communications method! Now on to the problem.

Let's not get ahead of ourselves here. This is in itself a colossal problem.

Theres a girl I like! Shes a local and I see her often at work.

Work? No, just no.

Now how can I make a first move, ideally without her knowing its me, and start the process moving?

You sound terrifyingly awkward as well as just terrifying. Are you asking for advice on stalking?

Before anyone says anything she doesnt have a facebook

Thank Christ for that or you'd be all over that like a rash, eh? :cool:

My primary idea atm is something like SayItWithBears and my phone number attached for texting...

This is a terrible idea. Hang on - are you 13 years old? My advice changes if you're a minor.

Clav · 29 May 2012 at 11:33

Women in crappy films and even crappier novels like secret admirers and shy awkward guys. In real life (as mentioned above) it is called stalking and generally does not go well. Especially as you already know each other!

[FnG]magnolia · 29 May 2012 at 11:51

At least the OP is sticking to the conventionally held wisdom that most murder victims knew their murderer!

I mean that's a positive, right?

Right?

Oh God, we're in the premonition phase.

sHo0sH · 29 May 2012 at 11:52

Seriously MTFU, engineer a situation where it's easier to talk to her (bar, pub) don't be alone - splinter of from some friends, just don't go stopping her in the street or Sainsburys!

The Halk · 29 May 2012 at 11:59

Why not just ask her out - "Oh, hi. I was wondering do you fancy going out for a drink some time? Oh good, how about Friday, we can maybe go for a drink? Yeah, great! I'll bring some condoms".

Leave out the last sentence unless you can pull off being as funny as me.

[FnG]magnolia · 29 May 2012 at 12:03