Enough of this Alpha/Beta male rubbish. I don't believe in pretending to be fine, I believe in honesty. It is not as if I have curled up, quit work and gone into depression.. The old David a few years ago would have, I've since learnt a lot and become more of an adult.
It is not as if I am taking her back. We are trying to be adults. We are exchanging emails, she is paying her half of the rent. We've seen each other twice since and she has told me everything she can, to my face.. It's one thing lying in an email, another lying to ones face about such things.
I have not spoken to the guy since Sunday, he wanted to speak to me after refusing to see her when she wanted to tell him the truth, he realised it was not as it seemed and is too ****** up to see her. She has since seen him to get some of her possessions she had stored at his so she can use her PC where she is currently staying.
We've both been in really dark places throughout our relationship but always supported each other. I would not be who I am now if it weren't for her, I would not have gone to college, uni or got this job. I am not saying this excuses her behaviour but she is in a bad place. I would not like to make assumptions at this stage or cause any more pain after what we had, and she is in agreement, hence being apart but still in contact.
I do not buy the reasons she may have for lying as she has told me stuff that she knows would hurt me but still told me. Her friends also know the full story. She knows she has had a problem with lying but never knew why she did it so is now trying to be honest with everyone as it's the only way she is going to get through this. I know I have mentioned her mental health before but I truly think this is one part of this which complicates the situation and makes it different to taring her with the typical lying cheating woman brush. No it does not excuse her but it changes things.
That is how it is and that is how it is going to be. To me it seems like the right thing to do at this time, there is no point hating each other and being children. It solves nothing.
We will see in time how we move on.
It is not as if I am taking her back. We are trying to be adults. We are exchanging emails, she is paying her half of the rent. We've seen each other twice since and she has told me everything she can, to my face.. It's one thing lying in an email, another lying to ones face about such things.
I have not spoken to the guy since Sunday, he wanted to speak to me after refusing to see her when she wanted to tell him the truth, he realised it was not as it seemed and is too ****** up to see her. She has since seen him to get some of her possessions she had stored at his so she can use her PC where she is currently staying.
We've both been in really dark places throughout our relationship but always supported each other. I would not be who I am now if it weren't for her, I would not have gone to college, uni or got this job. I am not saying this excuses her behaviour but she is in a bad place. I would not like to make assumptions at this stage or cause any more pain after what we had, and she is in agreement, hence being apart but still in contact.
I do not buy the reasons she may have for lying as she has told me stuff that she knows would hurt me but still told me. Her friends also know the full story. She knows she has had a problem with lying but never knew why she did it so is now trying to be honest with everyone as it's the only way she is going to get through this. I know I have mentioned her mental health before but I truly think this is one part of this which complicates the situation and makes it different to taring her with the typical lying cheating woman brush. No it does not excuse her but it changes things.
That is how it is and that is how it is going to be. To me it seems like the right thing to do at this time, there is no point hating each other and being children. It solves nothing.
We will see in time how we move on.
