a little problem

Cybermyk · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:01

As a parent I would want to know, kids who keep it to themselves will just continue to get bullied. You need some help.

UOcUK Poopscoop · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:01

stevechapman said:
I wouldnt treat is as a one off, he could be walking down the street and they just kick the **** out of him again, I wouldnt want that to happen to my child.

Tell your parents NOW

I'm a parent too, and I would want my child to tell me.

So I agree with you.

Trouble is we are being asked for advice by the child not the parent.

In the real world most people will get picked on (bullied) at least once in their life.

If this was just a one off event and he goes to his parents/ teacher it could potentially make him far more of a target in the future.

I agree though. The next time it happens (if it does) it could be potentially worse.

Tough call in reality, but I would personally hold off for the moment.

EDITED for misleading typo.

riddlermarc · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:04

comp builder said:
no they are about a year older than me (im in yr 10 they in yr 11) except for another lad that was in the gang (he never touched me) he is 2 years older and when that lad beat me up he recorded it on his mobile, sick *******

It's a carp situation isn't it.. luckily when I was young I was tall/big enough never to get bullied but I felt real sorry for the other kids who did. If the pressure starts up again, you HAVE to tell your parents otherwise something bad could happen. Now I'm older and have a 4yr old son, I'd be heartbroken if he was getting bullied when he was older but didn't feel he could tell me.

Most bullies will give it a rest when they realise you are fighting back, be that physically or by telling someone so you are not suffering alone.. as the advert says, it's good to talk

hyper_piper45 · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:05

comp builder said:
i aint a square or a loner or anything if thats what you mean i am quite popular just obviously not with these lads

If you are popular get a few lads together and sort em out.

It's a tricky situation though and a resolution is not really that simply of tell your parents/teacher. What can they do? Even if the kids are excluded they will jsut wait or you when you finish school.

Do you live near school/where these lads live?

If you don't see them outside of school time, maybe move school. I know its a big thing but it might be the only thing to solve the problem.

G|mp · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:07

Put a snooker ball in a football sock, run into their class and start whacking **** out of them whilst shouting "Im the ****ing Daddy naaah"

MookJong · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:09

It's funny how society kind of puts up with this because somone is of school age yet it would be called criminal assault if you were a couple of years older.

Nobody should have to put up with this, anoyone who calls you a grass for speaking out is just scared themselfs.

It takes more guts to speak out and do what is right than to be walked over and suffer in silence.

I hope this gets resolved.

comp builder · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:09

yeh i will probably not tell them yet. im just learning to deal with it now as i have being bullied for most of my life, i was bullied in the most part of primary school (not everyday just on odd occasions) and its started again (sort of). i suppose the main reason i get bullied is i am not really the type to go chasing fights (although i have being in one or two) so i am not "ard".

the funny thing is the lads never say anything or do anything when im in school and with my mates just when im alone. they are all useres (all four of them) they talk about each other behind their back etc, im glad im out of it though

Andr3w · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:10

Scuzi said:
I don't know if this is your sort of thing but it worked for me when I was a bit younger than you...

I had a bit of trouble with bullies when I was about 11 and it got to the stage where I'd had enough. I went absolutely psycho one day, kicking, punching and biting any of them who came near me. I absolutely went buck mental. I had to be pulled off them.

I never had any trouble after that. The only downside was that I had a reputation for being the kid who was messed up in the head.

That sort of happened to me in year 6, this guy had bullied me from year 1-6, i went sick, first i pinned him up against a wall for calling my mum disabled (she isnt at all :confused:

), next day he started again so i just starting kicking punching kneeing etc, we then got pulled apart and stood outside the heads office, him crying me grinning

Steve09 · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:10

poopscoop, I agree with you mate

As this is the 1st time in a year, it could be a one off.

But I wouldnt want my child/myself to take this risk of being beaten up again, just try and keep out of their way, and if they come for you again, tell your parents

comp builder · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:11

riddlermarc said:
It's a carp situation isn't it.. luckily when I was young I was tall/big enough never to get bullied but I felt real sorry for the other kids who did. If the pressure starts up again, you HAVE to tell your parents otherwise something bad could happen. Now I'm older and have a 4yr old son, I'd be heartbroken if he was getting bullied when he was older but didn't feel he could tell me.

Most bullies will give it a rest when they realise you are fighting back, be that physically or by telling someone so you are not suffering alone.. as the advert says, it's good to talk

im sure my mum would be heartbroken if she found out i couldnt tell her, shes a nursery nurse at a school so she knows what goes on etc

Gilly · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:12

I got bullied a lot at school, and I agree with poopscoop. Treat it as a one-off and if it escalates or carries on then speak to your parents about it. Dealing with it with your parents and/or teachers now may simply exacerbate the situation.

SidewinderINC · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:14

comp builder said:
no they are about a year older than me (im in yr 10 they in yr 11) except for another lad that was in the gang (he never touched me) he is 2 years older and when that lad beat me up he recorded it on his mobile, sick *******

if somebody recorded it on their phone then you could have gone to the police about it, no doubt they will have sent the video to their friends.

MookJong · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:21

comp builder said:
im sure my mum would be heartbroken if she found out i couldnt tell her, shes a nursery nurse at a school so she knows what goes on etc

She is in a prime position to understand the situation then. Don't give her the full story if you don't want but at least let her know there is bother brewing.

comp builder · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:21

hyper_piper45 said:
If you are popular get a few lads together and sort em out.

It's a tricky situation though and a resolution is not really that simply of tell your parents/teacher. What can they do? Even if the kids are excluded they will jsut wait or you when you finish school.

Do you live near school/where these lads live?

If you don't see them outside of school time, maybe move school. I know its a big thing but it might be the only thing to solve the problem.

yeh my school is within walking distance and the lads live down the road from me. We were going to move house (not because of anything like this just because the area is becoming a ****hole with 14yr old kids drinking and smoking etc.

luckily though there are a lot of other kids that live here and they are ace (most of them older than me 17-20 and some my age) most of them hate these lads that are giving me grief , because they seem to walk around like they have the world on their shoulders that it revolves around them (as my mum says

)

comp builder · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:22

SidewinderINC said:
if somebody recorded it on their phone then you could have gone to the police about it, no doubt they will have sent the video to their friends.

we did call the police and they said it was called "happyslapping" but when the police arrived at his door he had already deleted the vid :mad:

Steve09 · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:25

Well if there are people around you who are 17-20 who also dislike this group of people/gang you call it, just talk to one of them and they may be able to help you.

Im sure they are bigger than these nubs

comp builder · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:26

MookJong said:
She is in a prime position to understand the situation then. Don't give her the full story if you don't want but at least let her know there is bother brewing.

she would understand she just takes it too far though, when i was beat up she tried to have the lad done for assault (and even though i didnt want her too really she did)

GoldenGlory · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:33

Call the police.

On a more serious note though, just ignore them. They want a reaction, they want an excuse to bully you again.

Sputnik II · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:53

crystaline said:
Take up martial arts

Seriously I know someone who did this Worked as far as I could see.

That's what I did when I was having a bad time at school, I never told anyone then one day things sparked off and I broke my hand and wrist punching someone in the head.
Although I got hurt, It was good feeling that I hurt them too and they left me alone from then onwards.
The hospital wasn't so understanding and made me wait hours before putting a cast on me but, you cant have everything as they say.

Sherbs · 6 Sep 2006 at 16:58

Heh, when I had my hand x-rayed. My medical notes said something like.

"Punched wall several times while intoxicated"

The receptionist said, "Over a girl?"

Me: "Yeaaah.."

Her: "Thought so, I've got a son too"

Went of to see the x-ray man, and he had a look at my notes and said.

"Wont be doing that again will you?"

I am a prat sometimes, but I really liked the girl.