A relationship thread with a difference

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Hey guys,

Right well some of you know me well from my past exploits here. However I haven't posted regularly for a long time. Work has absorbed most of my time.

Anyway on to the point...

I split up with my girlfriend (whom some of you also knew) Lisa. We were together for five years. Owned a house, a cat; the whole Kit 'n' cabooble. The split was largely down to my obsessiveness with work. I have ambition, and a lot of it. And refused to let anything, or anyone (including my girlfriend) get in the way of what I wanted to achieve within my career. Cold? Maybe.

Anyway, it is now three months since we were last together and you know what? I'm having the time of my life. Now that my name is off the mortgage I have a lot of spare cash. My social life has sky rocketed. I work as many hours I want, when I want. I don't have to ask permission before I do something. And I am just generally far happier in life than I was before. Oh and there's certainly no shortage of women when you really need some company ;)

I'm not really sure why I am posting this... I guess it's just a general message to those who post here concerning a relationship split. Life can be good as a singleton. Embrace it.
 
To be honest, if you're happy with your single life + career ambition, good for you:)
However, it might not be everyone's cuppa tea, most people when they're somewhere in their career, would love to go back home and be in familiar company - mainly GF/Wife.

From my view, you might be fun and happy now - with the new found freedom but a few months down the line, would you walk back into your empty home and think, am I missing something?
 
I guess it depends on the person.

I'd much rather have a satisfying relationship than a high flying career that demanded more than 37.5 hours per week. Mind you, if the relationship wasn't working then the job is irrelevant, you have to end it. I guess if your relationship was meant to be it would have been strong enough to pull you away from work.
 
I think he's he management position in retail ?


Yep, deputy store manager for Tesco. And I love it.

I'm in probably the most high profile store in the country which means I am continuously hob-nobbing with the main board of directors. I Walked Sir Terry Leahy round the store at Christmas and the company use us as a trial store for all new operations so Terry's number two, David Potts is in and out of the store every couple of weeks. It's extremely satisfying to know that a lot of your own ideas are now rolled out and in use around one of the largest companies in the UK.

Should have my own store very soon which will put me in the six-figure salary bracket. And from then on, assuming all goes well I hope to have my first directors position by the time I am 30-32.
 
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Thought that was the 24/7 monstrosity at Bar Hill, which is the flagship Tesco store?

I'm not talking size wise. The store i'm at is the closest one to head office in Cheshunt. It is the local store for most of the main board and Operations Directors. They all shop there for starters... Hence its high profile. :)
 
I'm not talking size wise. The store i'm at is the closest one to head office in Cheshunt. It is the local store for most of the main board and Operations Directors. They all shop there for starters... Hence its high profile. :)
Aye I wasn't referring to size myself. I just meant that BH is where all the trials are first run, and the chairman/directors regularly turn up unannounced to check up on it.
 
Should have my own store very soon which will put me in the six-figure salary bracket. And from then on, assuming all goes well I hope to have my first directors position by the time I am 30-32.

:eek: That would be a cracking position to be in, best of luck with that :)

Mind if I ask what career route you took? I'm hoping to graduate from uni just as I turn 23 or 24, and would be looking at a job starting around £20k-25k or so, and to be honest I couldn't see myself being on that much in my chosen career (engineering).
 
Aye I wasn't referring to size myself. I just meant that BH is where all the trials are first run, and the chairman/directors regularly turn up unannounced to check up on it.

I would assume then that more than one store is used for such trials. Right now we are simultanously running four trials. One of which relating to evening availibility, one for produce availibility, one for backstock reduction and the last is going live in to the store at the beginning of July which will invlove a complete refit of 70% of the aisles in the shop. We will be storing the backstock of best selling lines on the shopfloor itself, above the aisles! :eek:

Out of those four trials we were the first store to have them all apart from the produce availibility one which incidentally went into Potters Bar and Hatfield two weeks before my store. We only got that trial as Terry Leahy wanted it in as it linked nicely with the evening availibility trial which we have pioneered.

Regardless, we are considered one of the most high profile stores in the UK. Whether it is the "most" high profile or not is irrelevant and perhaps I could have phrased it better.
 
erm Engineering has massive opportunities at the min. You should look around a bit more if you doubt it. I regularly see eng jobs with good starting wage and good prospects. depends if you are willing to travel as well though I guess.
 
Make sure you don't sacrifice future relationships over work though. If it turns into a pattern you can really hurt your long term prospects. Good on you for being ambitious though, but have a healthy dose of both!
 
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