Do you find, Gordy, that you're surrounded by people who completely lack your ambition? I say this from the perspective of someone who used to be a produce worker for a supermarket earning my beer tokens. All the bosses used to walk around high powered, talking in abbreviations, bossing about people who didn't care at all other than to keep their job for the money come pay day. That'd frustrate the crap outta me.
A relationship thread with a difference
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We all know your doing so well because even the male directors fancy you come on admit it youve been using your manly charms and chiseled good looks to get to the top 
On a more serious note as long as your enjoying your life then thats all that counts weather people like the way you choose to live or not
On a more serious note as long as your enjoying your life then thats all that counts weather people like the way you choose to live or not
Quite simply put you have to outclass everyone at every opportunity. If there's no opportunity then you have to make one.
You have to know what you're doing - then do anything/everything that is required to achieve it. Although you have to ensure *you're* effort and knowledge is visible.
Good on you Gordy. Too many people slack back in my opinion (although blending with family life is a challenge in itself!).
You have to know what you're doing - then do anything/everything that is required to achieve it. Although you have to ensure *you're* effort and knowledge is visible.
Good on you Gordy. Too many people slack back in my opinion (although blending with family life is a challenge in itself!).
I will answer this question properly tomorrow... I've just got back from the gym and it's time to start getting ready for a night out. I shall enjoy the fruits of my labour tonight.
There is nothing wrong with being ambitious and wanting to achieve a lot. Though you got to wonder why you do it. Is it all about being wealthy?
Personally I could never be happy to sacrifice my quality of life and work so much that people who I loved left me. Sure, work hard and play hard but I don't think any amount of money would change this. I would rather take less money so long as I could live a comfortable lifestyle.
In your case however, sounds like you were not right for each other anyway.
Personally I could never be happy to sacrifice my quality of life and work so much that people who I loved left me. Sure, work hard and play hard but I don't think any amount of money would change this. I would rather take less money so long as I could live a comfortable lifestyle.
In your case however, sounds like you were not right for each other anyway.
Totally with you on this one!
I came out of a long term relationship around Christmas, and can honestly say that whilst I did love my two ex-boyfriends and don't regret the time with them, I have never been happier than I am now. For the first time in five years, I can do what I want, when I want, how I want. I love my job and the people I work with, and looking at how I can use it to transfer to another position abroad (US or Oz, probably); and I'm constantly out with friends during the week doing endlessly cool things. I'm closer to my family than I have been in a long time; and I've bought my own house now (speaking of which, where in Essex are you actually from?!) where I can kick back at the weekends. I've been on more holidays in the last six months than I have in five years, and I'm going travelling for five weeks in Aug/Sept during a brief "sabbatical". Perhaps in a few years I'll consider starting to settle down, but at the moment I'm having far too much fun!
I came out of a long term relationship around Christmas, and can honestly say that whilst I did love my two ex-boyfriends and don't regret the time with them, I have never been happier than I am now. For the first time in five years, I can do what I want, when I want, how I want. I love my job and the people I work with, and looking at how I can use it to transfer to another position abroad (US or Oz, probably); and I'm constantly out with friends during the week doing endlessly cool things. I'm closer to my family than I have been in a long time; and I've bought my own house now (speaking of which, where in Essex are you actually from?!) where I can kick back at the weekends. I've been on more holidays in the last six months than I have in five years, and I'm going travelling for five weeks in Aug/Sept during a brief "sabbatical". Perhaps in a few years I'll consider starting to settle down, but at the moment I'm having far too much fun!
I think that with the exception of moving away, I could do all of that whilst still having a girlfriend, plus I'd be able to share the experience with someone.
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Relationship thread? Seems more of a boasting thread to me
Relationship thread? Seems more of a boasting thread to me
lol was just thinking the same.
I'm in this position now, I have been offered the CTS role of produce but my manager is a bit of a numpty, all talk and no action. If I took the role it would be a pay cut, as I'm on night shift. I really think I should be trying harder to get a different job in honesty though.
Oh and on a side note, I also broke up with my long term girlfriend a while ago, best thing ever for me.
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Have to agree with that, I'm also engaged and we're emigrating to New Zealand within 8-9 months so we're even managing to move away as well. Each to their own but personally I love having someone to share experiences with but maybe that's just part of growing up and wanting to settle down as well as being lucky in finding the right person.
Also, we still make a point of having time for ourselves with friends and have the odd weekend away with mates so I think it's just a case of getting a healthy balance rather than getting stuck in a rut by spending all your time together and hence having nothing new to talk about and wondering how you came to be such a dull couple (have made that mistake before!!).
Yes, you might be able to, but I've never lived life to the extent that I'm doing now whilst I've been in a relationship. And why, by not going back to the same person at home every night, would I not have someone to share that with? I have a fantastic circle of friends, and every experience that I share with them - either individually or as a group - brings us closer which is just as important to me as being able to tell my boyfriend all about it!
ricky1981, congratulations on the engagement!
Relationship thread? Seems more of a boasting thread to me
Not really, the man's done well for himself, give him some credit.
I work as a Duty Manager in a supermarket, and most people in my store turn up, do their "shifts", and go home again. They have no desire to better themselves or seek higher paid jobs. Some people have been there for 20+ years. I'd been there less than a year before I mentioned that I wanted to progress, and I now have that chance. I get around the county a lot, working in other stores, and because I have no commitments (kids, girlfriend, whatever), then they're going to like that. I'm basically at their disposal, and I'm quite happy to do whatever it takes to get to the top.
I'm basically at their disposal, and I'm quite happy to do whatever it takes to get to the top.
Just remember - when you're at the top there's nobody to tell you what to do - so don't fall into the trap of being the best number two or worse still the best lackkie/henchman.
At some point you'll find that you'll need to develop beyond that.
Start learning about business (MBA for example) in your own time too for example. More importantly - learn the way of city finance. People will show you one way.. perhaps the not always the complete picture either.
Not that I want to sound like a 70's kung fu teacher..
There's also a host of board level investment games that you'll need to learn too to maximise the return of the position (non-exec positions on related firms etc).
Smile, always be relaxed and pleasant - there will come a time when you'll need or want help from people you've passed on the way up.
Or even easy women with money?
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I just read this whole thread, didn't even look at the date lol, deffo need an update as pay back.