A school friend same age as me died suddenly

One of my best schoolmates died 2 years back. We had lost touch and had a falling out, but we were just starting to chat more frequently. He had recently got married and was living in Thailand writing for an English newspaper. He loved a drink and I'm sure a bit more, but he seemed to have a grip on life.
Went to bed, didn't wake up. Crazy.
 
It's one of those things.. my cousin died this year. 10 minutes after new year, he didn't look unhealthy but had problems all his life. He was 3 months older than me. And I'm only 26. Things like that happen and I can see why it hits home more when it's someone your age. But it can happen at any time for number of reasons.
 
Very sad :(

One of the guys I went to school with dropped dead from a brain tumor aged only 18 :(

Another guy from school broke into someone's house with a mate and ended up getting stabbed with his own knife during a tussle with the home owner protecting his wife. Good riddance to him. He'd already done time for armed robbery.
 
I'm 47 and one of my best friends as a kid has just died of a heart attack. Through the wonders of Facebook I managed to message his sister and she messaged back saying thanks and that my message meant a lot.

It doesn't half make you think about your own mortality.
 
I'm only 32 yet I've known too many people who have died young. A few years back a lady I worked with popped out for a cigarette, came back in with a bit of chest pain, paramedics were called as precaution, she felt fine and apologised to them for wasting their time. Made a joke about having to go to hospital with them. That evening she had died as she'd actually torn an artery in her heart. Only in her 40's.

other people going to bed early with head aches, only to have died from brain aneurysm :(
 
grudas said:
It's one of those things.. my cousin died this year. 10 minutes after new year, he didn't look unhealthy but had problems all his life. He was 3 months older than me. And I'm only 26. Things like that happen and I can see why it hits home more when it's someone your age. But it can happen at any time for number of reasons.
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JeeZe i am 28 that is kinda scary. What did he have wrong with if i may ask?
 
Rroff said:
Also those that over do it - I know someone who appears incredible fit - always running and working out, etc. but she has done her knees in - still keeps pushing it too far despite having significant surgery on them twice and a heart problem from pushing herself too far.
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if humans were meant to run for as much as some do we would have four legs.we arent designed for it.yet many claim it keeps you fit. i used to do a lot my knees are pretty much shot.also left shoulder damaged from javelin throwing.did to high level.

the guy who brought jogging to the mainstream died while jogging.pretty much says it all.
 
Bassmansam said:
JeeZe i am 28 that is kinda scary. What did he have wrong with if i may ask?
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had issues since birth, I don't know the exact details but he had issues with blood cloths, blood vessels bursting etc.. he had a heart attack and died right after new year. Was a shock to say the least. :/
 
My cardiac health is pretty much my only worry, I've had all the tests done but regularly get heart flutters and runs of missed beats, even during exercise. I've just had to convince myself nothing will come of it and that it isn't damaging me in any way, it's easier said than done though when it catches you off guard and you cant catch your breath for a few seconds.

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It's more a question of if they are actually looking for it. For example, Fabrice Muamba (the Bolton footballer who was resuscitated after a heart attack on the pitch) had been ECGd plenty of times but it was only after the incident they looked for, and found, long QT. Cardiovascular clinics tend to worry more about VT because it is more common.
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Indeed, some of this stuff just isn't picked up on a regular ECG, there's a UFC fighter who didn't know he had wolff parkinson white syndrome till he was near 30.

There'll be a lot of people walking around with undiagnosed heart conditions and with things like coffee being so popular it can be fatal in those with certain arrhythmias. Magnesium taurate worked wonders for lowering the frequency for me, balancing electrolytes seems pretty important particulalry with potassium levels, I actually stopped eating bananas as I found I'd get more frequent heart flutters the same day as eating them.
 
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One of my friends dads died suddenly in his 40s. Just had a couple of unexpected deaths in my and my wife's work circle.

We live in a bit of a bubble in the Western modern world. The myth is that if you lead the correct lifestyle you will live to the average age. It's utter nonsense, without heavy industry and other environmental factors it mainly comes down to your genetics these days. Everyone is a potentially ticking time bomb, nature / god doesn't give a ****.
 
Meh, sorry for your loss.
One of my sister's friends died age 13 from a heart attack while he was just sat playing in his room. No previous history of anything or any hints/warning signs.
One of my best friends died aged 18, just standing around at a shopping centre. Was dead before he hit the floor. Heart just stopped beating and wouldn't be restarted.

I don't know if I'll get to live to old age, but I don't live every day like it's my last. Cos I can't afford to.
 
Jono said:
I don't know if I'll get to live to old age, but I don't live every day like it's my last. Cos I can't afford to.
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I guess there's a balance? We can't all live life in the fast line for too long or we'll burn out anyway. But similarly if there's something in your life that's getting you down, or something out there you want and can obtain, then go for it. So long as you're not hurting others, threads like this remind me to appreciate the day to day stuff and go for the stuff you want.
 
wingman said:
I guess there's a balance? We can't all live life in the fast line for too long or we'll burn out anyway. But similarly if there's something in your life that's getting you down, or something out there you want and can obtain, then go for it. So long as you're not hurting others, threads like this remind me to appreciate the day to day stuff and go for the stuff you want.
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Exactly that :)

I've started doing some hobby type things (without really starting the hobby, in theory) that I've been putting off for about 2 decades... and I'm loving it.
 
I lost my brother when he was 19. Just dropped dead due to a brain hemorrhage in 1990. I was only 17 at the time. Its was a massive shock and obviously a very sad time... Today I'm 45 happily married with two kids. I've not spent my life worrying if i'm next and if i was to drop dead tomorrow, at least i'd of lived my best yrs, and got to experience a good life. It could happen tomorrow, is it likely to happen ? Probably not. I'm pretty healthy according to the numbers. I did look at some death statistics and i think for males, you have a one in 20 chance of NOT making it through your 40's.. Or was it 50's ? i can't remember. I figured, i've probably got one ahead of the high blood pressure / diabetes / bad health people on that, and it would be them taking up that 1 in 20 statistic, then i remembered i love riding motorcycles, so i've probably balanced out the odds for being that 1 in 20. Anyway point being, don't worry about it, just live the life you want. Do what you want, and try and get in as much as possible. You've only got one life. Make it count !
 
Devils advocate time. To say making the most of your life is not a bad thing to say, but when you die it’s not like you can sit there and think”oh i wish i did such and such”.
 
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