In general it is actually much easier to adopt older Children no matter who you are for the simple reason that most people want a baby leaving older children stuck in our care system facing the generally dismal outcomes that it delivers. I have a a lot of respect for anyone adopts and even more so for someone who adopts an older child and all the baggage that can come with it
Adopting a child.
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In general it is actually much easier to adopt older Children no matter who you are for the simple reason that most people want a baby leaving older children stuck in our care system facing the generally dismal outcomes that it delivers. I have a a lot of respect for anyone adopts and even more so for someone who adopts an older child and all the baggage that can come with it
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That makes sense.
On a part of our course were a foreign...I can't remember their exact nationalities but I'm sure he was from Paraquay or similar and she was from Spain. They had both been in the UK for quite some time as far as I'm aware but when I saw them next they had successfully adopted
Adoption is based on so many different factors.
They try to place kids with people from the same ethnic background where ever possible and I believe this makes it much harder to place children from ethnic minorities as the number of prospective parents is much lower.On a part of our course were a foreign...I can't remember their exact nationalities but I'm sure he was from Paraquay or similar and she was from Spain. They had both been in the UK for quite some time as far as I'm aware but when I saw them next they had successfully adopted
Adoption is based on so many different factors.
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My wife and I have just started and had our first meeting with the council, hoping to find out soon if we get recommended to continue onto stage one and get the ball rolling. Scary but exciting stuff.
My wife and I adopted our first child nearly three years ago at 10 months old, and are just about to start(as in, within the next week!) the process of meeting our next.
Out first was adopted from our county, but as my wife has since started working in childrens services we are now adopting from elsewhere in the UK.
We came from a background of infertility followed by repeated unsuccessful fertility treatments. If you have a similar background then they won't even consider you till a good length of time has passed after your last treatment. This will be a big sticky point in their analysis of you.
The whole process is extremely exposing as you will be expected to divulge any and every detail of your life, good and bad as Desmo has already mentioned. Bad things can represent you in a good way if you can show your awareness of them and can demonstrate how you dealt with them. You'll have to be totally honest in your assessment; one of the more depressing parts for me was going through a tick box list of disabilities you would accept or reject.
The whole of childrens services is understaffed and underfunded. The social workers are considerably overworked, and do a thankless job in horrible conditions (at least those who deal with Looked After Children). As such you can probably expect a lot of waiting and chasing, along with considerable amounts of paperwork, bureaucracy, hearings and meetings.
Would I do it again? I've always wanted to have lots of children, but with our problems adoption was the only way. I can't see us wanting to go through the whole rigmarole more than twice. It's extremely long winded and emotionally draining, but ultimately worth it in the end.
Out first was adopted from our county, but as my wife has since started working in childrens services we are now adopting from elsewhere in the UK.
We came from a background of infertility followed by repeated unsuccessful fertility treatments. If you have a similar background then they won't even consider you till a good length of time has passed after your last treatment. This will be a big sticky point in their analysis of you.
The whole process is extremely exposing as you will be expected to divulge any and every detail of your life, good and bad as Desmo has already mentioned. Bad things can represent you in a good way if you can show your awareness of them and can demonstrate how you dealt with them. You'll have to be totally honest in your assessment; one of the more depressing parts for me was going through a tick box list of disabilities you would accept or reject.
The whole of childrens services is understaffed and underfunded. The social workers are considerably overworked, and do a thankless job in horrible conditions (at least those who deal with Looked After Children). As such you can probably expect a lot of waiting and chasing, along with considerable amounts of paperwork, bureaucracy, hearings and meetings.
Would I do it again? I've always wanted to have lots of children, but with our problems adoption was the only way. I can't see us wanting to go through the whole rigmarole more than twice. It's extremely long winded and emotionally draining, but ultimately worth it in the end.
Don't foster kids get moved around rather than given for life?
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depends, my experience of the foster system is yes you get moved between carers on a regular basis, but if you're lucky enough to find a good couple then it's a friendship that extends beyond the legalities and blossoms into a lifelong friendship.
foster kids aren't just kids who failed to get adoption, but kids who's parents can't always cope with being parents, a job traditionally shared amongst family but in the modern world has included people with generosity in their hearts.