Not that I am experienced in the subject but I like to think that as you get older, age gap matters less. 4 years when you are under 20 is probably a lot, but maybe not so much when you are 30. You two are still in the middle. You are mid twenties and working at a guess; she is 19 and studying/working? Are you likely to share enough interests to make it last, or maybe if you are both after something more casual, you haven't got anything to lose?
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Between 15 and 19 her maturity (or lack of) will have changed significantly - it possibly will continue to change significantly for another couple of years.
On the other hand you are also getting more mature.
It seems there is plenty between you to get the relationship started, just in the past not enough to keep it going.
As long as neither party ends up getting hurt what do you have to lose?
On the other hand you are also getting more mature.
It seems there is plenty between you to get the relationship started, just in the past not enough to keep it going.
As long as neither party ends up getting hurt what do you have to lose?
We're going to need pics to verify this to enable us to give you our very best advice.
On the contrary!
Sounds like you have been going round in circles for years with the original ex and it just leads to disappointment. I'd forget it mate.
Only way I think it would work would be if it was just a 'casual' thing and you don't enter into a relationship. my opinion.
Only way I think it would work would be if it was just a 'casual' thing and you don't enter into a relationship. my opinion.
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Just been to see her tonight.
Had a chat about and we have both agreed we should not worrying about what might or might not happen and just see each other on a casual basis. If something happens it does, if not then no bother.
Was kind of an inevitable solution I suppose.
Feel much better for it anyways.
Had a chat about and we have both agreed we should not worrying about what might or might not happen and just see each other on a casual basis. If something happens it does, if not then no bother.
Was kind of an inevitable solution I suppose.
Feel much better for it anyways.
SCORE! Congrats! Now, where were we on those pics?
This is why relationship threads are kind of pointless, how is anybody here likely to give you good advice about your personal love life? Instead of guessing about it try talking to her like a pair of mature adults. You are both adults now, aren't you?
Oh and yes, pics are necessary of course
Oh and yes, pics are necessary of course
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She ws too young when you first got together - iof you hasd stayed together then, you would have fizzled out anyway as you grew up and grew apart.
I dont think anyone should be entering into marriage or serious relationships till they are at least 25 - need to grow into the person you will become first
I dont think anyone should be entering into marriage or serious relationships till they are at least 25 - need to grow into the person you will become first
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Indeed, hilariousThe explanation makes it funnier
I didn't get Nix's joke
And then I didn't get the explanation :/
It's not a joke, it's a common phrase - "Nothing ventured, nothing gained."
In other words, you don't know what could happen unless you try.
Personally, I have no idea who you are. With that in mind, I have come to the 100% watertight conclusion that you should date your ex's mother and/or gran and see if you can get the ever elusive generation four-way.
[edit] You didn't get Zefans explanation? Are you sure you're old enough to have 'relations' with the opposite sex?
Assuming the only reasons that you two didn't work before was her immaturity, then if she really has matured then you have nothing to lose.
IF she is still immature then there is no problem.
Got to laugh at the age gap though of 4 or 5 years, that's not a big gap!
IF she is still immature then there is no problem.
Got to laugh at the age gap though of 4 or 5 years, that's not a big gap!