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[shifty_uk]

Just after some advice regarding an incident at work...

Myself and my supervisor don't get on at all. Mainly because she's continually very rude, nasty and some would even use the phrase 'bully'. She's the type of hard-nut girl that you wouldn't want to get on the wrong side of. She's also very rude to customers and other staff, not just me.....although I do get most of it on a daily basis.

Yesterday she was being her usual self, talking down to me, stating the obvious, pulling me up right infront of customers etc etc. At one point I'd just had enough, I spoke to her normally, she was very cheeky in return so I shouted "Oh for **** sake", on our sales floor.

She has now filed a complaint against me for two separate incidents and the 'big scary' area personnel manager is getting involved. When I got interviewed today I just sat silent....didn't put up any fight atall. I thought if no one is prepared to stand up for me(including my managers who witness this behavior on a daily basis) then I won't stand up for myself.

Apologies for the story, but I'd like to know where I stand. Can they sack me for this? Should I hand in my notice tomorrow morning? I really want to badly, but haven't looked for another job yet.

This has been ongoing for months, even our cleaners....yes our cleaners always comment on the way I'm treated by this certain individual.

Thanks!

 

[Surfer]

shes rude you say? she not been answering any emails? i hate that as well.



Ok seriously you need to stand up for yourself. If you dont no-one else will. Fight for your rights. Have you got any witnesses to the bullying being done by her to you? Put it all in writing to the head office if you think the other local managers/supervisors havent got the balls to do something. If they sack you (which tbh they might) claim unfair dismissal.

You mention 2 incidents - what was the other one?


Dont say nothing - otherwise the evil witch will continue her reign of terror over new meat.

 

[jamief]

Surely if nobody else will stand up for you then the only person who can is yourself? Don't give up - fight your corner!

 

[K.C. Leblanc]

You have not helped your self, by not dealing with this sooner and not taking proper action. I'd request another meeting with the area manager. If you get this apologise for what happened then clearly state the events that lead up to the out burst. Also mention other incidents where you feel she has treated you unfairly. Make sure your concise and give good descriptions of actual incidents (with dates, times and names of witnesses), not just anecdotal stuff about her character. Make a list and take it in with you.

Take a colleague, ideally someone who's respected.

 

[rossyl]

I got this on my gap year job. Was constantly picked on, and asked lots of questions etc.

One day i just stood up for myself. I did raise my voice a fair bit, but i made it known i was being treated Unfairly on a consistent way, and if she expected me to perform well she should treat me like everyone else.

from that day on she loved me. It went from 3months of crap, to being the favourite.

so swearing wasn't the best idea.

Here's what i'd do.
-say it was said in the heat of the moment after months of bullying.
-that the reason you never spoke is because you feel extremely stressed, uncomfortable, and intimidated at work.
-other collegues have said you are treated badly but will not speak up due to being scared of the manager. Name everyone who has said or seen anything.
-write a letter stating the above email it to the person who interviewed you and copy in the email address of that person's superior.

obviously add any other details here. Make sure you use words like, bullied, intimidated, stressed, victimised, constant, ongoing, consistent.

you must spell out that this has been a constant victimisation and bullying that led you to snap.

ask on here for further advice. Put a draft of the letter up, but blank out all names.

 

[shifty_uk]

You mention 2 incidents - what was the other one?

I just made a comment one night, in hope that she'd take it as a joke but she never!

Thanks for the advice all. I'll have a think about it and then possibly take it further. I'm just at the stage now where I hate the job that much that I wouldn't care less if they fired me. That's partly why I can't be bothered with all the fuss.

If I handed my notice in tomorrow, they'd be absolutely stuck without me.