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Long story short. Long distance with current GF of almost a year. A few months ago her ex comes back out of the blue and things happen. I dump her, move on and find someone else. She comes back saying how she only wants me, etc I've moved on so it shows I didnt love her, etc, etc. So being the idiot I am I get rid of the new GF and get back with the ex.
Fast forward to 3 months on. Her ex lives 30mins from her. I live 2 hours away. She still hangs round him (only as a friend she says) stays over his place and still has a key to his place!! Each time she does this we argue and she runs to him for comfort. Does my head in.
Anyway. The last few weeks have been pretty eventless and things have been getting better and better until the coming weekend. She was due to come down to visit but has cancelled as its his B'Day party and she wants to go there as it will "hurt his feelings" if she doesnt go. And no I cant come along!
I've pretty much had enough. My head gets screwed up each weekend but she always claims she doesnt love him anymore and just stays at his as a friend. She wants me to move up there to live with her and this will involve giving up my friends and job down here!!
I told her a week or so ago that if she really is serious about it and wants me to give up everything she will have to at least give up him as it causes arguments everytime she sees him after the history of her cheating on me with him. She claims I'm paranoid but would people say its a reasonable request my end? I cant see how hurting his feelings by not going to his bday is better than hurting mine by choosing to go to his party instead of seeing me!!
Am I completely screwed in the head or would others here just drop her and be done. I really want to just get rid of her but my head is so messed up these days I dont know if I'm just being paranoid.
Opinions please from the masses! Would you accept your GF who cheated on you with her ex and whose ex still admits he loves her? She claims I'm an idiot and I should stop being so paranoid but surely this isnt on from someone who wants me to move up there?
After typing all this I can see that I'm an idiot and if a friend told me all this I'd tell him to open his eyes!! But I've written it all now so I'm going to post it anyway and get ridiculed
Long story short. Long distance with current GF of almost a year. A few months ago her ex comes back out of the blue and things happen. I dump her, move on and find someone else. She comes back saying how she only wants me, etc I've moved on so it shows I didnt love her, etc, etc. So being the idiot I am I get rid of the new GF and get back with the ex.
Fast forward to 3 months on. Her ex lives 30mins from her. I live 2 hours away. She still hangs round him (only as a friend she says) stays over his place and still has a key to his place!! Each time she does this we argue and she runs to him for comfort. Does my head in.
Anyway. The last few weeks have been pretty eventless and things have been getting better and better until the coming weekend. She was due to come down to visit but has cancelled as its his B'Day party and she wants to go there as it will "hurt his feelings" if she doesnt go. And no I cant come along!
I've pretty much had enough. My head gets screwed up each weekend but she always claims she doesnt love him anymore and just stays at his as a friend. She wants me to move up there to live with her and this will involve giving up my friends and job down here!!
I told her a week or so ago that if she really is serious about it and wants me to give up everything she will have to at least give up him as it causes arguments everytime she sees him after the history of her cheating on me with him. She claims I'm paranoid but would people say its a reasonable request my end? I cant see how hurting his feelings by not going to his bday is better than hurting mine by choosing to go to his party instead of seeing me!!
Am I completely screwed in the head or would others here just drop her and be done. I really want to just get rid of her but my head is so messed up these days I dont know if I'm just being paranoid.
Opinions please from the masses! Would you accept your GF who cheated on you with her ex and whose ex still admits he loves her? She claims I'm an idiot and I should stop being so paranoid but surely this isnt on from someone who wants me to move up there?
After typing all this I can see that I'm an idiot and if a friend told me all this I'd tell him to open his eyes!! But I've written it all now so I'm going to post it anyway and get ridiculed
