Am I right to be peeved off?

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My wife's nan and grandad have invited the family out for a slap up evening meal on the 27th.

3 weeks ago I asked my mother If she would mind looking after my son( her grandchild) for that evening. Her response was "we don't know what we are doing yet"

I again asked her again yesterday and again she said the same thing. I've just had a text from her saying she is now going for dinner herself round a friends.

Am I out of order for being peed off about this? I've literally given as much notice as I could and yet she wouodnt give me a answer.

I mean you either can or you can't surely? Seems since I've asked shes actively tried to find a better offer.
 
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Dr House said:
no you are wrong. Someone is doing you a favor and its over christmas so they don't know what they are planning yet.

Stop being cheap and pay for a babysitter
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I can pay for a childminder just fine. thank you. I'm more annoyed at her lack of ability to simply say yes or no.
 
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Well it works both ways I suppose.

Just to make it clear, I don't expect anything from my parents. In fact I rarely ask for anything. I was asking a favour that's all.
 
Basher said:
Well if you'd organised babysitters at the point I mentioned, you wouldn't have asked your parents again and wouldn't have been disappointed. So i guess you said you hadn't.
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I thought my mum and dad might like to spent some alone time with my son so I asked again.

I'd always prefer he stays with more familiar faces if possible.
 
hondo said:
Look at it from the other way round.

Your parents ask you to baby sit your Grand Parents, while they go out for a slap up meal. :D
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Already done that a few times when my dad wasn't around and my nan had a fall.

Personally I'm very family orientated and would do as much as I could to help them out. Just got to except some people are not.
 
byeo said:
Is it out of the question to take you're kid(s) to the meal? They are family too...
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I did a similar thing earlier in the year with him and the entire evening was spend stopping him tryimg to run into the kitchen or screaming... It's not pleasant for anyone.
 
theleg said:
Very family orientated but leaving your mum out of a big family meal at christmas and getting angry at her when she decides to do something else..Interesting

How old are you, out of interest?
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Old enough to realise some people need to be out on the ignore list....

Why is it people can't just discuss something rather than post veiled digs and jibes.
 
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C.R.A.Z.Y said:
I think it's more that the OP is hurt that his parents would rather arrange to go out with their friends (something they can and most probably do all the time) then spend some time with their grandchildren.
Unless they see/babysit all the time then I can understand how the OP feels tbh. (If they do already spend a lot of time with their grandchildren then you need to respect that they too have a life and that it's not fair to impose yourself upon them)
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This is exactly the way I'm feeling! You've put it better into words than I could.

My rents might see my boh for maybe a hour every 2 weeks? Tjhey literally live 2 miles away. I always end up taking him to their house but they don't seem interested in doing anything with him.
 
Surfer said:
Depends on the context.

If you are not seeing your parents at xmas and they find out that you are going to a big family slap up meal but they are not invited...hrmm not nice no?
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Different side of family. Supposed to be having mum and dad round on boxing day.
 
My mum doesn't work and is at home most days. My dad works a faor big or is off fishing.

They have babysat before he's stayed overnight once and they have maybe the odd afternoon sometimes but no more than 10 times. He's almost 2 1/2 now
 
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theleg said:
Bet theres a lot more to this than OP is mentioning. Whats the history here? Summit is going on.
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I never had a great relationship with my mum. I'm sure I made a thread about it last year. My dad is a wimp who is to afraid to rock the boat and stand up for himself.

Although I don't know what happens now but When my nieces were younger my rents bent over backwards for them but not for my son.

My wife's parents on the other hand couldn't do enoivgh to help us.
 
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C.R.A.Z.Y said:
I wouldn't worry about it dude, sounds like you have a nice loving, considerate and interested family on your better half's side, just make sure you don't forget this the next time your rents want a favor!!
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I should have put this all in the OP. Problem with GD is people are far to quick to put someone down.

Im tempted to find a better offer and bin off boxing day with them but at least they are coming to mine for once!
 
theleg said:
Thats a little unfair. In most normal situations, you would be wrong to be peeved. Your specific history and relationship with your mum changes things...but you didnt mention any of that until later.

GD isnt so bad when they know the deets.
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Your right I should have put all this on my OP.
 
.Lethal said:
Did you consider that with it being Christmas that friends and family often go out together over the holiday season? You got told they didn't know because reasons that frankly are not your business.

You got no sympathy from me, you come across as a self entitled ass hat who feels their owed something.
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And just as I was thinking GD might have a heart. I'm firmly shown it isnt.. Bravo sir
 
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