hmmm interesting testing there. I just did a couple of runs of the Open VR benchmark just there. I am getting around 27, using Godlike. I have a 5800X CPU. As for VR chat, I don't have that installed. Don't have Elite Dangerous installed either. However, as said earlier in this thread, I have tested Fallout 4 VR, Skyrim VR and Half Life Alyx. In these games, while the performance jump hasn't been huge coming from a 6900XT, there has been a noticeable increase. The Mad Dog Overhaul was almost unplayable when using the 6900XT.
Based on your posts, I went searching the internet and found that there seems to be a problem with Iracing too. Here is a video you might find interesting.
He has another earlier video that complains about problems with the 9070XT. This one is a follow up where a driver update and some setting changes seems to have fixed most of his issues.
It seems that there might be driver issues with certain games, or maybe it's even all games and when they get around to sorting the issue, performance will improve in all VR games. At least in some games, the newest beta driver seems to have improved performance (Iracing) But that wasn't running great in desktop mode either, so that VR improvement might just be a happy coincidence.
I would say if you are unhappy with the performance, return it and get the 5070Ti. You might be waiting a while for AMD.