Annoying your neighbours

SexyGreyFox · 25 Jul 2006 at 23:22

fish99 said:
One of the 'whiners' mentioned banging down the nieghbours door, so therefore the neighbours must have known the problems they were causing. He also said the people who bought his house after him also found the problem equally bad and had the noisy neighbour evicted.

That was me but it was just one 22 year old girl and she made our lives hell. I'll repeat that what made it worse, was she had only one record which she played at very loud volumes over and over and she also did it when she was out of the house. I've actually stood outside her house or watched from our front room waiting for her to come home to turn the music off (or down). She said it was to keep burglars away. She was nuts and I could write a book about her and her other exploits (sexual). One saturday morning she was banging on her front door for absolutely ages. I stood the other side of it wondering what she was doing. A few hours later one of her 'men' called and became apparent that she'd nailed the front door shut :eek:

One saturday morning I'd had enough and got my own back. I went to the neighbours and told them I was going to teach her a lesson and it would be noisy for 30 mins. I had a 1000 watt PA system in the house and wired it up to my stereo and put the heaviest record on that I had in my collection in 1980 which was a Motorhead album. It rattled the house and I thought the cops might come. A couple of hours later there was a knock on the door and it was her asking if I was going to put my music on again. Completely looney.

Fraggr · 26 Jul 2006 at 00:23

dmpoole said:
That was me but it was just one 22 year old girl and she made our lives hell. I'll repeat that what made it worse, was she had only one record which she played at very loud volumes over and over and she also did it when she was out of the house. I've actually stood outside her house or watched from our front room waiting for her to come home to turn the music off (or down). She said it was to keep burglars away. She was nuts and I could write a book about her and her other exploits (sexual). One saturday morning she was banging on her front door for absolutely ages. I stood the other side of it wondering what she was doing. A few hours later one of her 'men' called and became apparent that she'd nailed the front door shut
One saturday morning I'd had enough and got my own back. I went to the neighbours and told them I was going to teach her a lesson and it would be noisy for 30 mins. I had a 1000 watt PA system in the house and wired it up to my stereo and put the heaviest record on that I had in my collection in 1980 which was a Motorhead album. It rattled the house and I thought the cops might come. A couple of hours later there was a knock on the door and it was her asking if I was going to put my music on again. Completely looney.

rofl.

Alexrose1uk · 26 Jul 2006 at 11:57

Im lucky in that I live in the country side, so theres a gap in between our houses. I also may defy the convention as I enjoy some emo (listen to the playing not the voices - it helps

), rock, heavy metal, metal etc, but also enjoy some Jazz like Bela Fleck and the Flecktones sometimes, dependant on my mood.

However, I sometimes play music loud but not generally amazingly loud, as my family by consensus are fairly sensitive to it, and we've had problems with one of our neighbours to the point that once he was playing music in the middle of the night so loud that the noise pollution people could actually hear it on the other end of the phone, when we were INSIDE our house with the windows shut. Makes it pretty miserable I must say.

At night, I tend to either use my headphones, or my speakers at volume where little treble and bass is going through my door and disturbing others, as I have a 5.1, and the woofer near my feet, I can get substantial treble and bass, without waking the rest of the house, although occasional bursts of insanity are good, I understand there is a level. To this point, when I play my bass, I usually dont have it on insanely loud, whereas one of my friends in MK plays his guitar VERY loudly XD

So its all about judging your surroundings, the penetration of your music, and your individual neighbours. There are usually ways to rectify it within certain regions.

Willhub, if you like lots of bass, try getting some Sennheiser HD280 Pros. They cost about £60-90 online, plug those in and crank them up. They're some of the best headphones I've found for representing well a lot of bass at higher volumes, without distorting the other frequencies, and they'll please your neighbours too, then you can play your 5.1 during the middle of the day, when its not such an issue.

And the bass situation is coming from someone who plays Bass, likes Metallica, Trivium etc so I like my bass too

PS. I just got some HD280s off ebay for 67.99 inc delivery, from a shop on there brand new. For the price, these cannot be beaten, the RRP is £110, and they are excellent, I can confirm from previous use, and the bass is very heavy.

Codmate · 26 Jul 2006 at 13:51

t31os said:
The first few whiners were missing the important task of mentioning wether they actually tried confronting their neighbours, and i'd make a wager at saying its likely they didnt.

People always like to moan, and less often like to actually to confront the people causing them distress.

We play loud music occassionally, well mainly me, and so do the neighbours occassionally. Its never after 9pm, and i think we're happy on both sides, all family members are over 16, so i don't think there's any chance of a before 9pm bedtime.

Though my mum hates loud music, except when its her, apparently mines too bassy for her, though she is sat below my room so she's gonna hear that more. My way round that was to play with more bass when shes out.

Where i live, its pretty easy to hear anyones loud music, especially those people 2 doors down, who have the occasionly family or friends parties that last to midnight. These parties sometimes last to 11pm, but its only 1 every 2 months or so, maybe less then that.

Every member of my family, minus my mum likes loud bassy music when they can, where my mum will just settle for treble.... however, i think i'm the only one here that doesnt moan about the noise when these parties go on.

How picky do people want to be?.....
Once in 2 months is acceptable to me.

I'm sure the people here have bigger issues, is it honestly that often?....

I've heard loud music coming from houses, and to me, if its not too often and at stupid times, let them do it, or be a sour grape and just whine. I know everyone has a different idea of what is acceptable, but i'd rather have a little give and take myself, i deal with loud music once in a while, and they do the same.

I suppose its the same people here complaining about music that complain about items being out of stock at the local shop.

However, i do understand how some people clearly have total disregard for others around them, and i've met enough of them, too many if you ask me.

However, secondly, i've also met just as many people that like to complain and whine about every little annoyance under the sun.

So i'm stuck asking myself, is this a thread of genuine personal suffering or of people being over the top whiney, or is it both.

Its a tough one.......

p.s. with all the stereotyping going on here, i guess i deserve to be in jail, because apparently i like to annoy my neighbours.

I'm a perfectly reasonable person thanks.
You're evidently a teenager, who has yet to have to live in the real world.

I've confonted many neighbours about noise in the past, with varying degrees of failure. IME people ignorant enough to produce enough noise to wake most of the street at 3am on a weeknight are usually not the sort of people to respond to a complaint from anybody but the police.

I totally resent the suggestion that complaining about noise is 'whining' and that anybody who is a victim of this kind of abuse is just some kind of fuddy-duddy.
Wait until you are paying through the nose for your accomodation and maybe you'll appreciate how noise, not only affects the quality of your lifestyle, but also the value of your property.

Consistent abuse from noisy neigbours can also produce/excacerpate depression and stress related illnesses.

I don't mind noise up to a certain level, at certain times - but unless it's been agreed beforehand, loud noise late at night is out of order. You wouldn't go around knocking on people's doors at 2am would you? So why play music that is louder than knocking on somebody's door for hours and hours late at night.

I really don't think some people here get the scale of the problem I'm talking about. I couldn't care less if you listen to some music, even quite loud up until around 9pm. As long as it doesn't interfere with what I'm doing then that's OK.

I've lived with neigbours that:
...had a flat party upstairs from me until 5am *every weeknight* - complete with hired DJs with a 1k rig.
...came home from work at 4am and practiced DJing loud!
...regularly had parties until 2am on weeknights

I have had to move house three times becuase of this crap.
Please do not try to tell me I'm some kind of moaning old man lest I bring my band round to your house and practice in your front room every time you need to sleep...

johnson · 26 Jul 2006 at 14:29

willhub said:
I get the impression that everyone hates Hip-Hop, small doses of it is ok, its better liking loads of kinds of music more than one type. It's good to have music loud sometimes. i dont think most people stay up untill 4am, i go to sleep at 12am, well thats only becouse my parents make me, and i am 17

17 so you can have the responsibility of a car but not allowed go bed when you want lol.

willhub · 28 Jul 2006 at 09:55

Yea i know, its preety lame, my mum says when your living under out roof your to do what we say, i think its becouse the computer is left on 16 hours a day maybe, but i usually stay up untill 12 or 1 which is good enough for me.

Anyway, since my neighbours started complaining i now only play loud music for really short periods, and before 2pm and after 8pm, i either have my speakers on really quiet, or use Headphones, i think the Headphones sound better in game, there not 5.1 headphones, but i have the X-FI configured so it thinks i am using 5.1 speakers so i sounds just like 5.1, but of course when my nextdoor neighbours are out, there is no reason at all to not play loud music, i cant see not many people never wanting to listin to loud music.

Yewen · 28 Jul 2006 at 10:13

Since posting in this thread I had two hours of listening to music at quite high volume, could easily make everything out in the garden.

It was 1-3 in the afternoon, not 4am. Nobody complained, all was well.

Its the 'nobody can sleep, get on with anything at any hour' because of loud music that is a pain, it really can make your life hell.

And the brick through a window was a joke incase peoples sarcasm detecors were malufunctioning.

willhub · 28 Jul 2006 at 10:45

if i had loud music on solid for 20mins, i would get a complaint from nextdoor, even 5mins is pushing it with my nextdoor neighbours

taz488 · 28 Jul 2006 at 22:29

at the end of the day you should be considerate and within your limits, playing music loud in the middle of the day is fine, (not every day) but its when music is on early morning at weekends and at night time, my meighbour listened to rap half the night and (i hate rap) it was worse than hell, it was shocking, i wouldnt mind in the day, but at night its just not fair or respectfull at all. the noisy neighbour was only renting luckily so i phoned the actual owner (know her well) and she gave em four weeks notice then they were out. i lost a few nights sleep tho. every once in a while someone has a party thats acceptable to anyone, its just consistant nightly noise that annoys me.

willhub · 29 Jul 2006 at 10:23

Well, i use Headphones most of the time now and if i ever do listen to loud music with my speakers, it would be in the middle of the day, or sometimes between 12 and 6, but i do turn it down becouse of the thought of what it could possibly be like next door, but sometimes they should be able to stand the loud music with loud bass for say 5 mins every 2 hours, sometimes i play loud music on the system downstairs, it wont bother nextdoor as much becouse its in a concrete floor so vibrations dont travel through the floor, but i suppose it's just as worse becouse you go outside to end of garden and its blasting out louder than my system upstairs does becouse downstairs has the outside door open all the time exept for night.
But if i were in nextdoor's shoes and was hearing loud music, i myself wouldent complain if it was 1-3 hours a day, you gotta let some people be happy sometimes and complaining at the moment you hear or feel the loud bass is not fair, i know, playing music loud for hours on end may not be fair to some people too, nextdorr proberbly thinks i turn the music up just to annoy them, but i dont, when i have got bored or listening to music, i turn the speakers off, or use Headphones for games, i use Headphones msot of time now for games becouse they just make you feel like your in ther game more than speakers.

Phemo · 29 Jul 2006 at 10:34

I've lived in a place with a girl upstairs who would just play loud music whenever she felt like it. Literally - she didn't care what time of day it was or what day it was. I'd been woken up at 1am many times. I did go round there to say that it was doing my head in and she did turn it down ... for 20 minutes. Then it went straight back up again.

There were also instances (almost every day, in fact) where during the day she was playing music annoyingly loud - I could hear every single word of the vocals from my flat which was pretty damn annoying. I remember one time I got bored of it so I cranked my volume and sub bass up and then she came knocking on my door screaming and shouting that it was her "day off and she wanted to relax". I ended up saying calmly, "it's my day off too and the music is only on to drown your crap out" and she got in even more of a huff and walked off.

I put up with that for a couple of years before moving on. Environmental health didn't care, the council didn't care and neither did the police. Luckily where I am now everyone is really quiet and the only thing you can really hear during the day is a bit of noise from the M3.

I guess my point is basically reiterating that there are people who just don't care and won't listen to what their neighbours have to say but also to point out that there are some instances where it's hard to get any help at all from the council, etc. I just wish more people would understand that other people don't want to hear their music or whatever at 1am.

As many people of said, you have to compromise but there are people who won't do that. Those people who don't understand can only understand when being subjected to it for long periods of time.

StevenG · 29 Jul 2006 at 11:29

Ive had some problems in the past so i thought i'd post.

ive had 2 or 3 complaints from neighbours in the 6 years ive lived here. at those times i had a 7W per channel 5.1 surround system with a 8 or 10" sub. i always kept the sub volume down as im in the upstairs bedroom and it vibrated the floor.

anyway.. i think you should be able to play loud music through the day for an hour or 2 at most.. as it does get annoying if your trying to watch tv and you can hear music in the background, i understand what the neighbours are saying and i feel the same when my pther next door neighbour plays their music.

Conclusion... loud music through the day an hour or 2 is fine...

just for the reccord i now have a pair of 100W per channel Bose speakers with 8" subs. and ive been up to 100% volume once.. and generally keep it below about 50% - 60%

Fraggr · 30 Jul 2006 at 07:33

I get the urge to turn the volume up really loud on some songs, and I start to get annoyed if it's really quiet. I know it's 7:35 in the morning at the moment so I should keep it quiet though, so it's still v. quiet. I made sure of this by leaving it playing when I went to the bathroom and closed the doors. Couldn't hear it at all.

willhub · 30 Jul 2006 at 08:03

Yea i just wanna turn my system up, its about 5 past 8 now, still too early, my parents are still in bed and next door are in the bathroom which is right next to my bathroom which is right next to my bedroom. i usually aint up for another 3 hours but its too hot, i will have to stick with Headphones.

The IPB · 30 Jul 2006 at 13:43

Obviously your neighbours have no respect for you, this is for the OP btw. If they did im sure you could sort out the problem, my neighbours moaned about my dads gaming. He played Delta force 2 at night with speakers up loud and kept the neighbours children awak. They came round and spoke to us, he now wears headphones.

It's when you an your neighbours do not know each other and it turns into a vendetta. Thats when it gets over the top. Stop moving and make some friends.

willhub · 30 Jul 2006 at 14:01

we were freindly with out neighbours but as soon as we got the complaint through the door from the council my parents were very angry as nextdoor did not come around to have a propor talk, i dont know when its ok to turn my music up or what, i gotta look outa the window, usually it seems they are out when we cant hear there baby screaming, but they have visitors at the moment so i am keeping it down.

Edinho · 30 Jul 2006 at 23:46

willhub said:
Ya know, i think a lot of people have too much respect for there neigbours.

do any of you, ever play loud music? do you think that its not been respectful if you play music loud now and again?

Is it me or would some of you at the first hint of music beggining to shake your house complain, even if it was only 10 mins?

Are you deliberately trying to be an obnoxious ****. There is something in life called karma.

Grow up.

willhub · 31 Jul 2006 at 00:03

Karma lol haha, corse if i do somthing good somthing is going to happen to me which is good, like hell lol. You have been watching My Name Is Earl by sounds of it.

who do you think you are telling me to grow up, just becouse you agree that its bad to play loud music or somthing, why dont you get a life?

Phemo · 31 Jul 2006 at 08:25

willhub said:
Karma lol haha, corse if i do somthing good somthing is going to happen to me which is good, like hell lol. You have been watching My Name Is Earl by sounds of it.

who do you think you are telling me to grow up, just becouse you agree that its bad to play loud music or somthing, why dont you get a life?

You'll understand if you're ever unlucky enough to get a place of your own surrounded by neighbours who just don't give a toss. Only then will you understand where a lot of the people in this thread are coming from.

With that said, don't get me wrong, I can see where you're coming from too

willhub · 31 Jul 2006 at 10:27

I do care, i try to not annoy my neighbours, i am not playing loud music on peropus to annoy them, i was preety annoyed when they had a letter sent to me from the council, they could have talked first, but then its bad enough pretending that you have gone out, you see when my neighbour has gone out, i tend to play quite loud music up untill 10pm, as it doesent bother anyone as i live in a semi detached house and no one cares really exept for nextdoor, but when there in, i start to quiet the music down at about 7, well i hardly play loud music, now and again yea, but last night, no car there, no windows open, no light on, they Always have there windows open unless there going on holiday, they gave all the signs that they were out, you couldent even hear there baby, not one noise form next door, and thats becouse, they were doing it on peropus, so i would have my music up loud, now they got a reason to have all my stuff taken away, even my parents know they were prentending to be away, its obvious becouse this morning the car is still not in sight, but people are in, they must have parked it around the corner :mad:

and somthing like that is not fair, they never even banged on the wall or came around and complained, thats stupid, even i know its stupid playing music loud at that time if people are in, but it was so obvious they were out, yet they were not out becouse they were playing tricks :mad:

well, i dont play music loud as much anymore enough to annoy normal nextdoor neighbours, but sometimes, like when i watch a movie, i want it at a good level so i can make all the words out, when watching movies, i have the volume at about twice volume of normal when watching tv, but i turn the subwoofer down, and i think nextdoor, they can even hear music thats been played at talking level, i have moved my subwoofer in the corner, on my back wall that right next to them, it's not to annoy them, its so i get better bass respones, and its in a large open area, i did it in the hope the bass would travel further and not have to be as loud, but with watching movies, i do turn the sub down, i try to be as nice as possible to my neighbours, but sometimes they have to let me listin to some music.

If i lived around neighbours who played music 24/7 really loud and they did not care, then i dont know what i would do, becouse it would be preety obvious that the council wouldent care, i would try to talk to them, but i Do Care, i am not a person blasting music out all hours of the day, if nextdoor were not pretending to be out last night, i would have been using headphones.