Another Relationship Problem Thread

Adam said:
Your 41 have the title of "Most experienced hardcore gamer on these boards" and pull women? Are we telling porkies ;) :p

Don't agree with any of your comments personally. Age is irrelavent in most scenarios apart unless the girl is really young. Not all men just want to sleep around like you suggest anyway. The comment about being 32 and past it... oh do me a favour thats ridiculous.
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I DO NOT LIE MATE. :mad:
 
can you prove your statement in your sig?
your posts regarding sex are more like a childs than an 'experienced' elder man, that might be why he thinks your telling porkies ;]

i remember hearing a comment some time ago - those who talk about it most dont get it ;]

but thats going well ott.
 
Morba said:
can you prove your statement in your sig?
your posts regarding sex are more like a childs than an 'experienced' elder man, that might be why he thinks your telling porkies ;]

i remember hearing a comment some time ago - those who talk about it most dont get it ;]

but thats going well ott.
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My sig is tongue in cheek mate. If you look behind you there is a mark on the wall where it went over your head and splattered.

I will ignore your Direct insults as childish sniping/trolling.

Perhaps you should concentrate on the O.P. and not me.
 
Guys, the above posts are not helping me. I don't want a argument on who knows best or who has had more experiences than the other.

Any more constructive comments guys and indeed gals? I would like a girls opinion on this too.

As an update i have infomed my boss, and told him i may well FO somewhere else. I also skimmed through the contract between us before i left for work and saw it said she gets her money back she put in PLUS 50% of what is left. So she will have to agree to that, as it is a legal contract. Am i right?
 
well it if it is a legal contract, then yes.
You have to make sure you are doing what you want though, in my (limited) experience of these things, if you have to think about it then dont do it.

I think reltionships are about companionship and support, sometimes you have to lay on the line and sometimes you have to chuck the cards up in the air and see how they land, this is where the being a man bit comes in, be very firm with her and see how she reacts or if you dont think its for you at all then see a solicitor.
 
Yes it is a legal contract.

Am i being rather weird at not been able to stand the fact that she willone day meet and be with someone else? Who knows it could be sooner rather than later.

Am i also weird to not be able to bear the thought of another man being in my house, with her? These thoughts are occupying my mind more than the house and the money, because to be honest i don't give a **** about them. My ideal at the moment would be to go off somewhere on my own for a while and not think about it, but i know i will come back to face the same problems so it wont solve anything.

MEssed up doesn't cover it. :(
 
CBS said:
This isn't being a man, this is being a ****.
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Afriad I disagree. My comments were based upon the situation being similar to ones I have been in.

More often than not the suicide threats are attention seeking in nature and not a cry for help. After helping numerous people with depression including my partner who is currently going through a very bad case of PND I do have a basic understanding.

Although I would take this attitude if the situation calls for it I would also take common sense precautions such as removing all tablets, bleach, alcohol, razor blades etc and keeping a close eye on her.

The objective is to show her you will no longer be manipulated by her threats and attempts at emotional blackmail.

Do you always feel the need to judge others without asking further questions for the purposes of clarity and greater understanding?
 
oh and malc remember this is ocuk GD.

"Welcome to GD, be prepared to be taken literally and anything you do say will be used against you"
 
Bar said:
Afriad I disagree. My comments were based upon the situation being similar to ones I have been in.

More often than not the suicide threats are attention seeking in nature and not a cry for help. After helping numerous people with depression including my partner who is currently going through a very bad case of PND I do have a basic understanding.

Although I would take this attitude if the situation calls for it I would also take common sense precautions such as removing all tablets, bleach, alcohol, razor blades etc and keeping a close eye on her.

The objective is to show her you will no longer be manipulated by her threats and attempts at emotional blackmail.

Do you always feel the need to judge others without asking further questions for the purposes of clarity and greater understanding?
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I will do the above, but i don;t think as others have said she would do anything, and that it is a empty threat. Maybe to get attention, i don't know.

What gets me is she is still expecting me to do things for her, hang door, painting, wood work, etc, etc. Think i might stop, but that will cause another argument.

how i am looking forward to sleeping on floorboards again tonight :rolleyes:
 
Bar said:
Do you always feel the need to judge others without asking further questions for the purposes of clarity and greater understanding?
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Not the need, merely the liberty. Should you expect others' to ask for clarification before expressing an opinion, in case you had explained yourself poorly?
 
Can you answer me one question please. Do you still want to be with your girlfriend? Does the thought of spiltting up fill you with dread, or relief?
 
loopylou said:
Can you answer me one question please. Do you still want to be with your girlfriend? Does the thought of spiltting up fill you with dread, or relief?
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Both. I am sort of glad i will be free from the nagging and constant down putting, arguments, etc. But i also still love and care for her. I know i will miss her in more ways than one. I am also (as i said earlier) distressed that i can't stand for her to be with someone else, especially in my house. Is this odd?
 
Matt-Page said:
Both. I am sort of glad i will be free from the nagging and constant down putting, arguments, etc. But i also still love and care for her. I know i will miss her in more ways than one. I am also (as i said earlier) distressed that i can't stand for her to be with someone else, especially in my house. Is this odd?
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Perhaps it's too much to be around each other why you are doing all the work on the house, taking a trip might be an idea. Maybe together where the only thing you have to concentrate on is each other, not what little thing you need to do on the house next.

Go somewhere quiet with out distractions where you can just talk.
 
CBS said:
Should you expect others' to ask for clarification before expressing an opinion, in case you had explained yourself poorly?
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Its a fine line between explaining something poorly and someone else misunderstanding.

In my life I would always ask for clarification if I was unsure of a point and certainly before I made a negative remark - I would view it more as simple good manners than anything else.

Certainly in my professional life I would always seek clarification before I stated my opinion if my opinion was going to be negative.
 
I was in a similar situation with my ex of 7 years including all your grief with the house

I cut my losses came back home and shagged one of her best friends :D

Been with her for 2 years now :) although mutual friends weddings we all have to attend are 'interesting'
 
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