Anyone dated a housemate?

dougguk · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:43

Strange question, but recently moved into a shared house and begun to get on with one of the girls there. We're going out for drinks later but I'm confused as to what to do! Surely you should never date a housemate?

Nothing has happened yet, but if something did then it would be like immediately moving in with someone after a first date!!! Craziness!! :eek:

Anyone had experience of this? Is it doomed to failure or can it work out??!

reflex · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:44

Hit it and think later.

dougguk · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:47

reflex said:
Hit it and think later.

Lol thats what I'm thinking! But I can't be bothered to have to move again if its all going to go wrong lol. I'm just lazy

KaHn · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:48

To her she is probably thinking "Im going out for drinks with a housemate" so no don't do anything or it will make everything complicated.

KaHn

Serj · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:49

Seriously mate, from my experience, DON'T DO IT.

I went out with one of my housemates at the start of my first year of uni and it was very awkward after it ended (lasted about 2 weeks, she turned out to be mental, that's a story for another day though).

We're good friends now but it was awkward when i started bringing my new girlfriend back to the house. She never actually had another boyfriend for the rest of the year (she had serious relationship issues!) so i sort of got let off. But i imagine i would have felt quite uncomfortable if i knew a girl i really liked was messing about with another guy next door

tom_nieto · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:49

How long are you living with your housemate? As in, when does your contract expire? It can have its perks. If you end up getting along really well, you could have a spare room in your house! It call go terribly wrong though.

Skunkworks · 15 Jul 2006 at 12:51

The words "crapping", "own" and "doorstep" spring to mind.

Wren · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:07

I personally never have, but I know a lady who lived with her brother and his roommate...she and her brother's roommate dated. They got married much later (perhaps a year or so later), and have been married ever since, and this was over 20 years ago.

Kell_ee001 · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:09

I haven't dated a housemate but I have dated a guy who was sharing a house which included his ex.

So I'll say for the sake of any future girlfriends - don't do it

Ex-RoNiN · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:13

dougguk said:
Strange question, but recently moved into a shared house and begun to get on with one of the girls there. We're going out for drinks later but I'm confused as to what to do! Surely you should never date a housemate?

Nothing has happened yet, but if something did then it would be like immediately moving in with someone after a first date!!! Craziness!!

Anyone had experience of this? Is it doomed to failure or can it work out??!

Have you not learnt anything from Friends :rolleyes:

dougguk · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:14

I've lived in many a shared house through uni and never been tempted before! Suppose those were all 12 month contracts so I'd be screwed if it went wrong! This place is a 3 month contract that I can extend to 12 months if I want to in a couple of months time. So if it all goes pear shaped I only have 2 months of hell

nige · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:19

With a housemate you should be really sure you want something before you do anything – that way you’re not just throwing away a good friend/peace at home for a bit of action

p). In other words, if it goes awry you’re seriously up the creek, but that shouldn’t necessarily put you off doing anything; it’s just that the stakes are higher.

Rwac · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:29

You only live once. Dont pre-think things, just go with it.

locutus12 · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:33

dougguk said:
Strange question, but recently moved into a shared house and begun to get on with one of the girls there. We're going out for drinks later but I'm confused as to what to do! Surely you should never date a housemate?

Nothing has happened yet, but if something did then it would be like immediately moving in with someone after a first date!!! Craziness!!

Anyone had experience of this? Is it doomed to failure or can it work out??!

dont do it, if it gets serious and messes up, it wont be pretty.

theleg · 15 Jul 2006 at 13:47

Goatyman said:
You only live once. Dont pre-think things, just go with it.

Yeah you dont only live once, so why make your single life messed up and stressful?

Dont go near it mate...way more trouble than its worth.

Bunka · 15 Jul 2006 at 14:00

Definitely not worth it, Everyone I know at uni had the same view as me, that no matter how hawt your house/flat mate was, don't bother going there.

Serj · 15 Jul 2006 at 14:01

Goatyman said:
You only live once. Dont pre-think things, just go with it.

And if they get serious and break up, they still have to live with eachother? You do know that's pretty difficult, don't you?

Van Hellseek · 15 Jul 2006 at 14:09

the worst thing is that if you start to fancy her and she doesnt feel the same, you'll have to put up with her bringing other guys back.

this happened to me a while back, and her bedroom was directly above my own. so occasionally got woken up in the middle of the night to the sounds of her getting it on with someone else.

not pleasant at all.

qwerty · 15 Jul 2006 at 14:59

I would say you should see roommates as your 'family'. Use them as big brothers or sisters, it'll be far more useful in the long run and will not end up badly. Just make sure you don't end up fancying anyone in your house.

"Never run after buses or women. Another one will always come along soon."

Spacky · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:21

I currently live with my family, it would be wrong and is a definate no.

House mates are the family of the 21st century imo so still a no.