Anyone dated a housemate?

brocksta · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:28

why dont you just give it time? why rush into things, you have only just moved in right?

bigredshark · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:32

some of the better advice given to me... "don't sleep with your housemates, it never helps"

that said, you have to live together, so don't rush into anything but if you get on really well and you're living in the same house something might happen anyway...

Spacky · 15 Jul 2006 at 17:51

dougguk said:
Strange question, but recently moved into a shared house and begun to get on with one of the girls there. We're going out for drinks later but I'm confused as to what to do! Surely you should never date a housemate?

Nothing has happened yet, but if something did then it would be like immediately moving in with someone after a first date!!! Craziness!!

Anyone had experience of this? Is it doomed to failure or can it work out??!

Going for drinks does not constitute a date, it means they want to get to know the real you.

bam0 · 15 Jul 2006 at 18:34

I started going out with a housemate nearly 7 years ago, we now own our own house and are engaged. You never can tell when you're going to meet that someone special so if you're interested, give it a shot.

Chronos-X · 15 Jul 2006 at 18:42

Its like the old maxim "don't mix business and pleasure" - only even more serious.

alastair84 · 15 Jul 2006 at 18:47

dougguk said:
I've lived in many a shared house through uni and never been tempted before! Suppose those were all 12 month contracts so I'd be screwed if it went wrong! This place is a 3 month contract that I can extend to 12 months if I want to in a couple of months time. So if it all goes pear shaped I only have 2 months of hell

indeed !!! you have answered the question yourself!!

hit it. big time. thats an order

willd58 · 15 Jul 2006 at 19:42

I would never do it, but i have 2 house mates who started dating after 3 months of living together.

PhantomKarl · 15 Jul 2006 at 20:08

Don't bother it will end in tears!

Kitchster_uk · 15 Jul 2006 at 20:15

You know what you have to do

Boom boom first, consequences second

Luke · 15 Jul 2006 at 21:03

I married a housemate and couldn't be happier. It narked off the other housemates something chronic though!

JRS · 15 Jul 2006 at 21:17

Briefly, but on account of actually being a well-adjusted human being it ended on good terms. Still not sure how so many people manage to screw up their relationships.....

iraiguana · 16 Jul 2006 at 00:01

depends all on how much you think you will be into this girl, if you cant keep yourself from wanting to be with her then go for it. But as someone who broke up with his gf just before he had to move back in with her it can be very difficult being in close quarters with someone you cared about, luckily in my case we got back together and not too much pain, but more than often with my mates it all ends in tears and pain for at least on of you.
so upto but think about how long you will have to live with this decision and see if you think its worth the risk, that is life.

NutritioN · 16 Jul 2006 at 00:05

I have. She moved in to our house (two other guys), new girl to London, new job etc. We started seeing each other 3months later and continued for 6months after. Ended because it we didn't feel strongly enough for each other but are still good friends now that she has moved out a year or so later.

Ideally no, not a good idea. If or when you split, if you were that emotionally involved it's not pleasant. See how it goes. I really didn't want to date a housemate but I decided that I couldn't help myself, I was single, she was persuasive, and I had feelings for her. I would have regretted not doing anything about it. But doing it, and seeing here for that long, living together etc made the split wierd and painful despite being mutual as we kept living together (back to separate rooms...).

In short, it'll end in pain. If your prepared for that, do it

After all this, she's probably gay.